Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years. We've lived together for 3 and a half. We've been through alot and we are in love and love each other very much. We both know that were going to end up getting married someday in the future so is it wrong to want to get engaged now just to get it over with since we know its going to happen anyways? I'm going to be 20 in a few months and he will be 22. Any opinions and no smartass crap and ignorant stuff.............
2007-02-20 17:46:11 · 21 answers · asked by Care Bear 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i thought i was in love..i had been with the same man for five years....we were six months away from getting married and then i realized how much of life i hadn't experienced yet....if it works out it works out no matter how long you wait....and it your asking us then there is some doubts in your mind...wait it out...get a feel for everything and life....even if it is with him you never know what the future may hold.....but hold off for alittle bit no sence in getting too caried away....
2007-02-20 20:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by buschchick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you're all over the board. How old are you now? Of course there is nothing wrong with you. These men asked you because you're obviously a good person with a kind heart. Those are compliments! Take being asked to get married as a positive sign for yourself. Secondly, you're said "people won't take your relationships seriously?" People as in who? Who cares who doesn't take something seriously? When you meet the man you should be married to, it will only matter to you and him. That's all that matters. Everyone else doesn't matter. What you think of yourself matters. If anyone else can sit there without fault and point a finger, I'd like to see it. The right one will come along in time. Just relax, enjoy your life, enjoy your career. You have a ton to offer someone and it will happen. In the meantime, you don't have to divulge every single episode of your life to every man who you date. It's not their business. You share what you're comfortable with. Good luck.
2016-05-24 01:11:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think that it depends on where you are at in your life. It sounds like you guys are in a great place and it sounds like a good time for you to get engaged. Do you feel like its wrong?? So many people ask stuff like that on here. "Is it ok to get married/engaged at 20??" I'm 21, and I will be 22 when I get married in September. I feel like I am old enough, We are in love. Our family is really excited about us getting married. I don't feel like I need to defend our decision or get justification from strangers. If you think that being engaged at 20 is great - then don't let anyone tell you otherwise. You do not owe an explanation to anyone if you feel that this is the right thing for you.
2007-02-20 23:52:36 · answer #3 · answered by jenna11rn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, Its not wrong to be engaged at 20!! I got engaged two weeks before my 19th birthday. I only knew him for a short time. Extremely short time about a month. But something felt right about him. We were a perfect match. We waited six and a half years before getting married and now have been married for 16 months. We knew we were meant to be but we waited until we knew more about eachother. But i am still learning more about my wonderful husband everyday. Just dont rush into getting married..stay engaged for a while if thats what you guys wish. Best of luck to you!!
2007-02-20 18:23:50 · answer #4 · answered by wifey05jc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Getting married is a huge step... but I don't think there is nothing wrong with getting hitched young. I think thats a good way, for a couple to grow up together, and share more memories. Just make sure you are ready to take on the responsibilities of a wife. Nothing is going to be perfect... you just have to keep the Love strong. CONGRATS
Good Luck
2007-02-21 05:25:19 · answer #5 · answered by CUTIE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say no it's not. I just turned 20 in January and my fiance won't be 21 till August. We're getting married this summer. Love comes at any age. You two obviously have built a strong foundation these past few years or you all wouldn't still be together. Do what's in your heart. If you feel ready to make the step go right ahead.
2007-02-20 18:06:32 · answer #6 · answered by ms_ylg_blue 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, Care Bear. Give it some slack. To be so young you are moving way too fast. You have already lock up precious years with this man so why not give yourself a break until you are more mature. Twenty is a very wonderful age to be engaged, but not for everyone. Playing house is one thing, but the big step of marriage can open up a whole new can of peas for you that you possibly couldn't imagine. Stop being so over-bearing and give that poor guy some room to breathe. He has a lot of growing up to do himself let alone tying himself further down with someone obviously he doesn't want to grow old with. Do this and someday you will appreciate this answer. What you are really looking for is someone to just agree with you and give you the go ahead or to look into their crystal ball and say yes. Well, I am saying no to you and to him especially.
2007-02-20 19:13:34 · answer #7 · answered by DARMADAKO 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was married for 2 years at 20. You guys are already living together anyone - what difference will it make to get engaged? If it's what you want - go for it.
2007-02-21 00:34:43 · answer #8 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would it be? i don't see anything wrong with it. you're 20, you are an adult, so people should not complain!! it's your life and not their's. and if you know you're going to get married someday, what better way to make it official than to get engaged? i am nearly 20 as well, and i am engaged, and though i can tell there are some people who cringe about us being "too young" their opinion is not that important. if you're happy together, than by all means!! get engaged!!
oh, and congratulations ahead of time... ;)
2007-02-20 23:51:53 · answer #9 · answered by Duelen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not wrong to be young and engaged. I'm 21 years old, and I am getting married this October (I'll be 22). We got engaged when I was 19, and he was 21. When you're in love, you're in love, and there will be many many people telling you are crazy or wrong, but only you can know inside your heart how you truly feel.
2007-02-20 19:28:33 · answer #10 · answered by whitanay 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you know you're gonna end up getting married, why not wait awhile longer until you're a little bit older. You may have been with him almost 4 years, but a lot changes in your early to mid 20's so I'd say to see how things go in the next couple of years and if you're still together than why not.
2007-02-20 17:56:30 · answer #11 · answered by Professor Chaos 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋