last december, i met this guy A who is 27 and i'm 23.
whenever we went out for dinner or on the phone, we talked about all sort of things and he really cares about me to give good advices for whatever problem i talk to him.
one day, things got wrong and we spent a night together...
i told him that i still see him as a good boy friend and can't see him as my bf. he said its fine with him so we're good friend ever since but he still seems to have feelings for me.
early this month, i've decided to take vacation and headed for hawaii. a day before my depature, he lend me his lucky charm to wish me safe trip.
at hawaii, i met my ideal guy B and we had such a great time together. 3 days after i came back, B got me a plane ticket for me to come see him so i went. i told A that i'm gonna go visit my friend.
now on this saturday, A and i gonna have dinner to chat and drink and give back his charm as well. and i know that he's gonna ask me how my trips were.?
should i tell him about A?
2007-02-20 17:36:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm so sorry!!!
i meant "should i tell A about B?"
thanks!
2007-02-20 17:41:07 · update #1
Interesting. Not sure which you are asking: (1) Should you tell A about B? Or (2) should you tell B about A?
(1) Sure, no reason not to. Though I do think you need to be cognizant of his(A's) interest in you and, more importantly, if you are truly his friend, on whether he(A) is moving on. If he is not moving on, dating others, then you need to end the relationship so he can do that. He should as well. It is not only your responsibility.
(2) When/if the time is appropriate you should tell B about A but I do not think there is an immediate reason/need to do so.
Best of Luck! And congrats on finding your "ideal" guy!
2007-02-20 17:45:40 · answer #1 · answered by Maxbps 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a good thing to be honest but sometimes you have to think if such honesty would yield positive response....
If you can bear the thought of hurting A, then you should tell him about B... It is of course when you tell A, he would say "it's fine, i'm fine" but deep inside you are hurting him...
Try to evaluate the situation first, as well as your feelings.... If you are very sure about B, then there will be no doubt of telling A what you really feel and friendship is all that you can offer......
2007-02-20 17:58:03 · answer #2 · answered by glayse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't tell A about B, you're just friends with A, he wouldn't understand if you told him and afterwards, when you go to visit B, in the back of your mind you're going to be thinking of A and why you didn't handle the sitution differently. Sometimes in life, it's good to not let the right hand know what the left hand is doing.
2007-02-20 17:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by B. Gregory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta tell him. He's gonna be hurt but the feeling's worse if he finds out that you are not truthful to him. When feeling's involved, you can't stop the pain from rejection but you can always still do the right thing as a friend who cares.
2007-02-20 17:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by Luffy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honetly, my opinion, i think man A is ur guy, he seems more interested in you and really has it for you, so if i wer u, man A wud be the one id choose...good luck =)
2007-02-20 17:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by c my b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Still be friends? No.
2007-02-20 17:40:22 · answer #6 · answered by Jon C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can..
There is no problem
2007-02-20 17:40:13 · answer #7 · answered by The Knowledge Server 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah i think you should tell him
2007-02-20 17:42:40 · answer #8 · answered by faiza_t 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why should you?
2007-02-20 17:40:34 · answer #9 · answered by Wonderer2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋