Why do guys work so hard to establish a friendship with a girl that they are attracted to and then when they finally get a chance to be with her, they use her and toss her aside? Why work so hard for someone just to treat them like crap later? Guys and girls welcome to answer.
2007-02-20 17:08:23 · 7 answers · asked by ALeoStar 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If a guy is using a girl, he probably did not like her to begin with. He can be attracted to the girl and like qualities about the girl but if he really liked the girl; he would respect her.
There are situations where a guy does like a girl but does not know how to express it. Girls are more emotional whereas guys are not as expressive or express themselves differently. The guys may not be aware that they are tossing the girl to the side.
In a friendship situation--the guy may just want simply to be friends and thats it. Maybe they feel the girl is too clingy, needy or they need space to think about what they want. Maybe they want the girl to be with but not commit to. Sometimes guys are insecure and can be indecisive about what they want even if they had some interest in the girl--they may be unsure about where the relationship is going. In these cases, leave the guy alone. Move on to someone who knows what they want and doesnt play games. It is a waste of time and energy. If the girl cares enough maybe she can ask wassup and if he is lacking with a sufficient answer well there you go.
Of course each guy is different so different strokes for different folks. Just be sure to be respected as opposed to liked because that is not the same thing. It is more important to be respected.
2007-02-20 17:18:37 · answer #1 · answered by ♥CJ♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I found if someone uses you, they don't really like you. Some people just like playing other people. It's an ego thing but don't be fooled for a minute. If someone really cares for you, they don't use or abuse you.
And yeah, girls do this too. Not all guys are like this. The good ones aren't. Once you get a good one, you'll know what I mean.
2007-02-20 17:11:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
because 20th and 21st century girls/women are sluts. if you were to check history women use to get stoned for premarital sex, now they think its the the thing to do and they give it up to easily. if you want a man don't put out hold out. when he's done sleeping with the sluts he'll be ready to marry you.
2007-02-20 17:13:32 · answer #3 · answered by little lamb 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The answer is they don't use the girls they really like.
2007-02-20 17:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
honestly i really dont know. i never done that in the past and i never will.
2007-02-20 17:11:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Guy here....guys suck...but girls do it too.
2007-02-20 17:11:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe if you don't spreads your legs for the loser boys?
2007-02-20 17:16:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋