self confidence?

Question

lately i have been feeling very insecure - i am good looking and have a very nice body so why could this be? any tips on how i can make my mind go back to normal and be happy?

Answer 1

Hey there! Sometimes this can be just a phase, or related to hormonal changes and such. From your question, it appears that you were once more confident than you are now? You might look back and see if there was a particular incident that discouraged you or caused you to start to lose faith in yourself.

I think it is a common problem, but many people don't want to admit it. If you have bouts of depression, notice changes in eating or sleeping habits, or change your social habits, talk with your doctor. There are many wonderful treatments out there, if need be, to help you feel like your old self again.

Good luck, and God bless!

Answer 2

First of all what is normal, you will find that most professionals will say that there is not such a thing as normal. Ok, you have something bothering you, something that someone has said to you and your are really dwelling on it if you know it or not. So you are finding yourself in doubt at times about yourself, and if your are right, or if you could be possiablly wrong. Well everyone one has their dayss that they are right or wrong for one.But you need to have more faith in yourself as a person, and start trusting in yourself , and your judgement. You need to get to like yourself again, and then love yourself. No one is happy all the time neither, that would be nice, but is not true. So you just need to find out what has hurt that self esteem of yours, and work on it, and then things will return to the way you knew them to be and liked it that way.

Answer 3

Hi
I'm going to be very frank and honest with you. Looks and a nice body doesn't always give you great confidence. It helps...but your self-confidence has to come from within. I have suffered from lack of confidence for many years..mainly because of my childhood. I had an emotionally abusive mom, and she constantly put me down. Hence...the lack of confidence I needed as an adult. It was a cross I had to bear and WORK through for many years.
I would suggest digging deep and try to find the source of your lack of confidence. Maybe your just shy....that's okay. Just be careful that people don't take advantage of that unique trait. Shyness can be a good thing. If your not shy...then put yourself in situations that will increase your confidence. Pick up a challenging hobby...a new sport maybe. Put yourself in social situations that force you to mingle with people. The worst thing for you to do is isolate yourself. Push yourself to be around people in different settings. It also may help to seek a trained therapist. I did..it helped me understand a lot of myself...and it gave me the freedom to let go of past wounds..and to move on and grow.
Good Luck...

Answer 4

First, don't worry, everyone feels insecure about one thing or another no matter who they are. That being said...

....Make a list of all the things that you like about yourself or that make you feel confident. Do some activities that you are good at that make you feel confident and happy. In short, take time to remind yourself of all your strengths and you'll connect with your confidence in no time!

Answer 5

see iam sandeep m 19 iam asian black i proposed a giri she told i love u but i dont marry u because of my personoloty it is nothing iam totaly up set then i concelet a psycoligist then she told why are u polishing out side whether there is nothing in side colour is not important character is important ok see gandiji is also black and physically not impressive but he became father of nation though he is not there every one loves him till now think now .........?

Answer 6

Well its the devil that makes you think like that,you know you are beautiful thats all you need to know and believe:)

Answer 7

go to peekvid and watch the movie the secret

Answer 8

I think your starting to understand that maybe looks aren't everything and there might be more that meets the eye. Looks are great but the real stuff we are all made of is on the inside. After all that is where confidence is from is it not? The Bible says: * “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet Spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” (1 Peter 3:3-4) Me Personally my confidence comes from the fact that I know that am valued and loved! Know matter what people say or what someone may think of me I know that God and Jesus are on my side, they value and love me so that is all that matters because Jesus and God payed the ultimate price for my imperfectness, sin and my bad choices in life. To know no matter what they love me. I tell you what a confidence builder to have hope and faith in something higher that yourself! because what faith do I have in myself for I always seem to say the wrong things, am so easy to get angry at people that have hurt me in my present and my past, It so easy to for me to think of ways to seek revenge and its so hard for me to forgive. But I know that Jesus the Son of God was perfect, he was slow to get angry, he never said the wrong things, he never sot revenge but he continued to have forgiveness for all and expressed love to all. In time he took my and every ones imperfectness and sin on himself! All for the love of people like you and me! The Bible tells the story: You see Jesus was flogged or beaten over 40 times, as Jesus stood silent, he was humiliated, degraded, mocked, striped naked, had jammed a crown of thorns on this head and was then nailed to a cross only after he had walked nearly a mile with a heavy crossbeam to his back! Why? You ask: The Bible answers that? For you have been called for this purpose, since Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example for you to follow in his steps, Jesus who committed no sin, nor was any deceit found in his mouth; and while being reviled, he did not revile in return; while suffering, He uttered no threats, but kept entrusting himself to him who judges righteously. (1 Peter 2:21-23) Christ hung on the cross for six hours before he died, He was there from nine in the morning until three in the afternoon. In spite of such enormous discomfort and indescribable pain, Jesus ONLY spoke words of genuine forgiveness to those who affiliated so much pain and anger to him! From the cross Jesus Spoke: "Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing." What? I know if that where me I would be very angry and not be forgiving men for doing all that to me! But, the fact is the Jesus was God in Human form so Jesus was and is perfect, he died for are imperfectness, sin and are suffering and this constant lack of confidence we all lose once in a while in are life! Know that lack of confidence is not how people or how you see yourself based on what is on the outside. But it should be how you see yourself on the inside. For the Bible says: The Lord does not not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.(1 Samuel 16:7) The Bible also talks about confidence as with having confidence in God when your afraid of what people think your say because God is your helper! (Heb. 13:5-6) God has said, "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you"(Deut. 31:6). So we say with CONFIDENCE,"The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?(Ps. 118:6-7) I don't know about you but that really cheers me up and drives me to be the best I can because the fact is I can NEVER pay the full price for what God has already payed in full for Me! That is why I know when I lose my confidence in life, I give what ever is bothering me to Jesus! And he always comes though! In Addition to what I have said I would like to recommend a great book to you for finding purpose and always finding inter-confidence in yourself when you rely on Jesus and God to supply it. The Book is Joel Osteen's Your Best Life Now, 7 Steps to living at your full potential. In closing let me read to you what is on page 3, chapter 1 that might hit home to what I been saying. Joel Osteen Says: "We have to conceive it on the inside before we're ever going to receive it on the outside. If you don't think you can have something good, than you never will. The barrier is in your mind. It's not God's lack of resources or your lack of talent that prevents you from prospering. Your own wrong thinking can keep you from God's best."
Page 4 continues: "Enlarge your vision. You must start looking at life through eyes of faith, seeing yourself rising to new levels."