I hate to even admit it, but i have a very frusterating jealousy problem. If my boyfriend looks at another girl or sees a half naked model on tv, the thought that im not as good as her overcomes me - and its almost as if i can't help the feeling. i get a sick feeling - i am so careful of what movies we watch or what channel i put on cuz i dont want him to see things like that. ive been struggling with this for over a year now, and need some advice for someone who has had this problem
2007-02-20 16:50:30 · 13 answers · asked by redhot787 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand where your coming from. You need to start taking control of your emotions...you are completely capable of doing so, its just going to be a little difficult to do so at first. If you really love your boyfriend, you need to start trusting him...and altough you think you do, you obviously feel jealouse for a reason... you should sit down with your boyfriend and tell him how you really feel... but most of all, you need to have a little talk with yourself.
you need to understand that sometimes severe jealousy can hurt, or even kill a healthy relationship...is that worth it to you? do you want to drive your bf nuts, yourself nuts, and/or lose your relationship? start thinking about positive things whenver thouse negative thoughts start to enter your mind...you can do this, it just takes some hard work....but you can do it.
also, you have to understand that its human nature to look, but looking isnt touching...and looking isnt cheating on you, and seeing a nude seen while your both watching a movie, doenst mean hes interested in it, or he was looking on purpose, hes just watching a movie and something happend to come up. your boyfriend is in love with you...nothing will change that, and dont ever give him a reason to feel otherwise, jealousy brings nothing more than horrible relationship issues...
GOOD LUCK :)
2007-02-20 17:04:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone is somewhat jealous, but I think your right you have a problem. Jealousy can destroy a relationship. Is there a reason you feel so insecure, or has he done something to make you get so frustrated. I think you need to answer these questions and then you need to talk to him. I live by these words..."If you are mad, your the only one", which simply means you are hurting yourself by the way you are feeling. I pray things will work out for you and Good luck!!!
2007-02-20 16:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by ransdoll90 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The better you feel about yourself the less jealous you will be. I don't like watching music videos w/ my husband because of the half naked women on there. But you have to remember these women have the right lighting, make-up,hairstylist, etc and their flaws are hidden. The only thing that helps me is trying to look the best that I can and knowing he loves me for me.
2007-02-20 17:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
had this problem. thought it was learned behaviour from my mother. I was pretty insecure, but had no real reason to be. the other answerers are right, he is with you & not them, and it is human nature to look at other people, just natural. I had to unlearn the bad behaviour and shut my mouth, and learn to relax about the way some things just are in life. no big deal. and I can guarantee you, it can be overcome, cuz I've done it. If stubborn I can get over this, so can you. relax about it, have fun and good luck!
2007-02-20 17:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by Auntie M. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i don't have this problem, but i'll give you advice anyway. you've been going through this for a year? think about it...if he didn't care about you as much as he does, would he stay with you for so long? especially since you're crazy jealous? the guy has mad patience and he obvious cares about you a lot. Just think to yourself that if he wanted someone else, he wouldn't be with you.
2007-02-20 16:57:52 · answer #5 · answered by someone in the world 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to have this problem. Then i grew out of it. i still get upset when he stares at women in public but not on tv anymore. think of it this way. when is he ever going to see that person in real life on the streets? its a mans nature to look at women, just like its ours with men. As long as he comes home to you, thats what matters.
2007-02-20 16:57:33 · answer #6 · answered by Baby boy due March 16th 2010 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there will always be other ppl that may look better 2 u but remember he is with u.............so dont worry. If u wasn't good enough he wouldnt waste his time he'd go find something better but as u can c he doesn't want ne one else If ur 2 insecure he might leave u, guys hate that, they like confident ladies, and if u constantly need to be reassured it might bug him. so just dont worry and think positive.........
2007-02-20 16:59:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check out my question from last night. Maybe this will help you:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ai9hosIHxdOf.qRnpME4e.3sy6IX?qid=20070219224313AAGRoqA
As long as he makes you feel that you're the only one for him, it should be a big deal. Talk to him about how you feel. He might not like it, but he'll understand.
2007-02-20 16:53:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try and look at it like this...
Your man has choice, we all do, you see him looking at a 10 and he chooses to be with you.
I think when he looks at you, he sees an 11
Hang in there :)
2007-02-20 17:11:37 · answer #9 · answered by mark 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wondeer.. did u do something that makes u jealous.. trust me hun.. he wuldnt be w.u if he didnt luv you =] and ur body. =]]
i hope u can get over this.. and trust him overcome ur feer luv between u too will be more relaxing and fun for you1
best of luck! my wishes to ya!
2007-02-20 16:54:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋