I'm going to iQ Academies (virtual high school) in the fall, and my mom wants to go to an internet college in the fall as well. She has plans for us to go to coffee shops and other places to do our school work. I don't know if I'm comfortable with this...
Help?
2007-02-20 16:50:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Home Schooling
oh boy, the gap of the generations!
I agree you shouldn't be too hard on your mom. It's great that she is doing this, and it is great that you two have this in common.
But I also understand your position. I have a highschooler, and she's, well, a normal highschooler, lol! It stings a bit sometimes when I think I have a "really great idea" and she thinks it's "totally lame"
But I also have to take in to account that she is my daughter and I am fully aware of her personality. I know her tolerance levels. I know what she likes and what she doesn't like, what she'll accept and what embarrases her.
So, compromise with your mom, don't shut her out completely. Lovingly set some ground rules. For example, set "study date" times where you two can go to the coffee shop, enjoy a frapp and get some work done. You can visit in the car, get your coffee, chat a minute then say, time to get busy. No harm in that at all. Occaisionally switch gears and agree to go to the library and study together. That's no big deal either.
You may also suggest that your mom actually go to the local college to hang out at their library to study so she can meet other moms that are doing the same thing she is (sans you, of course)
Just make sure that these are occaisional dates and not a daily thing. I know if I were to walk in my daughter's room right now and suggest we head up the road to the Starbuck's for a cup of coffee while she studied, she'd grab her coat and say let's go!
If you approach this with balance and compromise, then the both of you will have a wonderful experience that will serve to strengthen your relationship.
2007-02-21 02:09:14 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would it really affect you if she did, maybe if you step back and think about how she is feeling about this you may be surprised that she is uncomfortful also. Don't be so hard on her, be thankful that she wants to do more with her life and as her child I bet it would make you proud. As for the coffee shop, just explained to her that you can study together if need be, but you will need your time and she will need her time, I think you to can work it out, best of luck and never give up on your dreams and tell you mom to never give up on her....
2007-02-20 16:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by single2mingle22000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Teenagers usually don't like hanging out with their parents and their friends, except in the home. I know I would be uncomfortable with this. It is not impossible though. Tricky.
2007-02-20 23:39:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her how you feel
You could write her a letter
Maybe talk to some people who already go there
I hope this helps xxx
2007-02-20 23:51:47 · answer #4 · answered by tiger dolphin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u will get a better class of friends if u are cool with this, take her places and help her get friends and then u can move on, but i would help her first as she is ur mom.
2007-02-20 16:56:05 · answer #5 · answered by Dawn C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, no, it sounds like she wants a buddy!
Tell her that you'd really prefer just working by yourself in a quiet place and that you think you'd get more done that way.
2007-02-21 01:21:36 · answer #6 · answered by glurpy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yea, that would be tough. Maybe tell her you'd prefer to do your studying at home?
2007-02-20 16:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋