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my ex was messgaing me and i as talking to him... my b/f's friends told him thats the same as cheating but we didnt do anything but talk... he got dumped and was upset so i talked to him about it since i know him best... he did not want to look like a sook so he asked me not to show anyone and i didnt show anyone. im worried that my ex started this rumor as they share friends. do you think my ex wants me back? is talking to my ex cheating? what should i tell people, i still havent told my b/f what he said cause that would be breaking a promise. what should i tell him?

2007-02-20 16:06:38 · 28 answers · asked by young, hot, and Aussie! (chick) 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

i have not been spending all this time thinking about him! its been like a week and ive messged him like 3 times... my b/f knows i wouldnt touch anyone else and he is just worried about what people will sayabout me. we are not fighting at all just he wants to know the gossip and i wont tell him.

2007-02-20 16:11:30 · update #1

my b/f does not care we are talking right! lol. he gave my ex my number so we could talk cause my b/f knows i am good for listening... they are friends. my b/f is not the big issue here. his friends are and the fact they call talking cheating. my other problem is tellimg my b/f what we are talking about. he knows what its about he jsut doesnt know the details about how he feels. and my b/f knwos i would never break a promise, so why should this time be any different. they are friends and my ex knows that im happy with my b/f.

2007-02-20 16:17:54 · update #2

28 answers

Yeah....thats not cheating. Tell your boyfriends "friend" that all you guys did was talk about inncoent things. Nothing to make a big deal out of. Your ex proably doesnt want you back, but just need to talk to someone to ler his feelings out and didnt want u to tell anyone because he knows u have a boyfriend and it wouldnt look right, but he wasnt cheating and it was all innocent.

Dont worry about it, I would be truthful to ur bf now then later because he will proalby get mad if u tell him later. Tell him that you guys were just talking and nothing is happening between you. You know, blar blar blar...u do the rest, just dont say the wrong thing

2007-02-20 16:12:37 · answer #1 · answered by The Sweetest Sin 1 · 0 0

I think that you should be very open with your new b/f about talking with your X. You should be upfront and honest with him .... he deserves that from you. Tell him the truth .... your X needed a friend . In terms of telling more about the conversation ... your new b/f should know the kind of person you are and respect your integrity. He would and should expect nothing less from you himself.
Regardless of the possibility that your X is playing games you need to base your actions and decisions based on the kind of person YOU strive to be. If he is a player you can let it be knowing that you tried to help him by offering your friendship. If he's trying to win you back I'd say it's a pretty heartless and inconsiderate way of going about it. Then again , if he's being honest with you .... you've been a good friend .... nothing wrong with that.
Just a word of caution though ..... make sure you are being honest with yourself about the way you are feeling.If you are questioning this based on wishful thinking about your X then it would only be right to deal with those feelings before going any further with your new b/f. In that case it might be wise to spend some time alone with you to think things through so that you can move on in a way that is not hurtful to others.
Take care and good luck !! : )

2007-02-21 00:38:43 · answer #2 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 1 0

Talking to your ex may be breaking a promise, but no it is not cheating. You didn't do anything but be a friend to someone who got dumped. Never mind what other people say, if your boyfriend knows that you haven't done anything wrong, tell them to mind their own business.

2007-02-21 00:14:44 · answer #3 · answered by kiera70 5 · 0 0

this doesn't constitute cheating as such. but ur current bf may get threatened by it. specially if u dumped ur ex recently. it gives him a reason to think that u r not over ur past relationship.

as to how people have come to know of ur messaging with ur ex, it seems pretty clear to me that he is the one who's spreading the news that u 2 are messaging each other. i see no reason why u should respond to this guy's antics. it's over. get on with ur new life (if u really mean it)

with the additional details:
why the HELL are u worried about what their friends say if both ur current bf and ur ex are okay with it??!! it's none of their business. this is a non -existent problem!!

2007-02-21 00:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by placebo 2 · 0 0

That is most definitely called Cheating! As a matter of fact, Im calling Joey Greco and Cheaters and we are headed over to your house in the white vans now! Get the Texas background goin and dont run!!

2007-02-21 00:11:16 · answer #5 · answered by Johnny Lincoln Park 2 · 0 0

jeez, texting hardly counts as cheating, but if you had promised your boyfriend that you wouldn't, then there lies the predicament. If you want to stay on the straight path, be honest and tell him that there was nothing wierd about the messages, just one friend helping out another. If he truly cares and there is really nothing between you and your ex besides text messages, then all should be well. Good luck!

2007-02-21 00:11:01 · answer #6 · answered by cvjade 3 · 0 0

talking to your ex is not cheating and just show your bf the text messages that you didnt cheat on him. If your bf gets jealous then that is because he lacks self confidence lol. Also, I think your ex does want you back..anyways, you should tell people that if they dont hear stuff from you and believe other people then they are not true friends. Just tell your bf that he has to trust you on your relationship. trust is faith, faith is love. or something like that hahaha

2007-02-21 00:18:16 · answer #7 · answered by Orange? 4 · 0 0

Whether you consider it cheating or not, it is not showing your boyfriend any respect for his feelings. Maybe one of his ex girlfriends will want to come back into the picture and message him. What is bad, is that your ex and your boyfriend share mutual friends. He is probably humiliated that you are doing that, and everyone knows about it.

2007-02-21 00:10:01 · answer #8 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0 0

lol. No talking to someone is not the same as cheating. Your boyfriend is just jealous and wants to know what you guys talked about. Just tell him that it's personal stuff and you're just being a friend. If anything, tell him it has to do with his family...

2007-02-21 00:09:51 · answer #9 · answered by bunny 3 · 0 0

You need to take control, you don't want to get stuck in between your boyfriend's insecurity and paranoia and your ex's neediness. Tell your ex that you don't want to keep secrets from your man so if he doesn't want anyone to know what he has said then he shouldn't' tell you. Then tell your boyfriend what you have told your ex and that should show him you are a person who is caring and compassionate but you are loyal to your man.

2007-02-21 00:12:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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