2007-02-20 16:02:46 · 10 answers · asked by sapphire_wisdom 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If you are ready and willing to have your life change and willing to not be self-centered, then it could be time. Money is not always an issue but loving your family sure is. It is nice if you are financially ready but some of the best moms I have ever known were not well off.
Don't misunderstand. Life is not over when children come into it but it does change. I think my life became richer, fuller and more colorful than it ever had been. Our vacations became mostly family vacations and they were so much fun. We took our kids everywhere. At first we took so much junk with us and then learned that the kids did not need stuff as much as they needed us. We gave them us until 7:30 P.M. and then we gave our time to each other. We had to work harder on us as a couple but that was fun too. But having children means that you need to be ready to get up with them at night when they are sick or scared, sometimes eating cold food, wanting to take a nap but having to drive the kiddies to sports or ballet, and willing to properly guide and discipline them for as long as they are at home. It can be exhausting but also rewarding. It can be thankless but also filled with love. You will learn to be forgiving, committed and able to give up your back yard to forts, dirt ball wars, and kiddie birthday parties. You still have plants but the grass isn't as perfect. It is one of the best times of life if you are ready.
2007-02-20 16:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When the thought of caring for anyone (potentially a crying, colicky, screaming ungrateful child) 24 hours a day/7 days a week makes you feel all warm and fuzzy...plus it helps if you can afford a washer/dryer and have a helping hand occasionally!
Seriously though, I would encourage doing some babysitting, or volunteering at your local school, or even reading mothering books to see how they make you feel...I was a single mom for five years, had 3 jobs, and slept maybe 4 hours a night for the first two years...I wasn't ready, but it made me a better person as I learned to put others' needs ahead of my own, which is essentially what a mother does!
Good luck either way!
2007-02-21 01:00:08 · answer #2 · answered by jgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feeling ready to become a mom doesn't always have to do with age, but there are definitely aspects of physical & mental maturity that should be considered... Actress, author and mother of three, Alicia Coppola, had her first child at 34. Watch what she has to say on the subject in this video from her channel on Parenthood Today TV: http://www.parenthoodtoday.tv/parenthood_video/alicia-coppola-on-motherhood-in-your-30s/
2013-12-17 10:37:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom used to say:There is never a good time to have a baby. In a way that's true but not really. How patient are you. When you list your priorities are your children number 1. Who will care for them physically on a daily basis? Can you afford it? Are you willing to have stretch marks? Will you breast feed? What do you know about nutrition. What do you expect from your birth experience? Will you be drugged up on narcotics or can you handle pain. What are you going to do about education. What is your support system like? Family, friends. Are you willing to be selfless and do right by your child no matter what the sacrifice?
2007-02-21 00:12:02 · answer #4 · answered by Sara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol...you are never ready, but if you are financially and emotionally stable and think you and your signifiant other are ready, then go for it. I am 33 weeks pregnant and change my mind daily on whether or not I am ready. This is the biggest decision you will ever make in your life, you should be uneasy about it. Good luck on what ever you choose.
2007-02-21 00:58:48 · answer #5 · answered by dragonfly7887 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the person who said " when youve already had all the fun in the world as a single girl "
My situation was a little different. i had all the fun and had also achieved a level in my career that i wanted. So it was a nice sequence for me that i found my perfect man soon after, which gave me the incentive to the next thing to look forward to in my life. Also, both my husband and I were very social and after all of that, both of us felt we were ready and even looking forward to the baby phase.
2007-02-21 01:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by RSJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont know. that's why its really hard to plan a baby, the right time is never the right time, you just have to do it, and trust me it will all play out the way it's suppose to. you do have to remember that your life will NEVER be the same. it's kinda weird though because there is no way you can compare your life before children to the life you have after having children. it kinda feels like a reincarnation.
to wendy girl: you dont have to be married to have a baby. marriage doesn't equal happiness.
2007-02-21 00:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is ready to be a mom until they are a mom.
2007-02-21 00:10:37 · answer #8 · answered by al 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You will be financially ready, hopefully married and really want to have children. If you are having serious doubts you are not ready.
2007-02-21 00:11:46 · answer #9 · answered by wendygirl1000 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
when youve already had all the fun in the world as a single girl
... at 29 it was the right time for me anyway
2007-02-21 00:12:34 · answer #10 · answered by smilingontime 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋