I have Asperger's syndrome, so I basically have normal intelligence and language capabilities, but I also exhibit autistic-like behaviors and have marked deficiencies in my social and communication skills.
Since I'm not good around people, I decided to give up on human emotion a long time ago. You could say that I recoil from the human "touch." I can't have a normal conversation with other people without seeming a bit "off".
Consequently, this caused me to give up on finding friends, or a soulmate. I never even thought about friends or girlfriends that much, nor tried to have any. Even though it seemed like a good idea at first, I don't really want to be alone for the rest of my life.
Also, I want sex. I'm in my second year of college and I have never been kissed or had a girlfriend. Is there good reason for that? No. Its my fault that I turn down every chance of interacting with others out of fear of the human touch, even though I long for it.
How do I come out of my shell?
2007-02-20 15:59:19 · 4 answers · asked by toosleepy2care 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am definately not the expert on Asperger's syndrome, and from what I gather researching the internet, the internet is a helpful way for persons with AS to connect.
Since live communication is 55 % body language, 38% tonality and only 7% words (Mehrabian and Ferris, 'Inference of Attitudes from Nonverbal Communication in Two Channels' in The Journal of Counselling Psychology Vol. 31, 1967 pp.248-52), a person with AS has a much easier time communicating via email and instant messaging which is 100% words!
I have listed a couple of resources about sex and dating for those with AS. I hope you find them useful. I have met internet friends that I have never met in person, and we have exchanged nice emails over the years. I have also met friends and people I have dated through my local www.craigslist.org .
Until you are ready to meet face to face, why not experiment with online friends? Check out the resources I have indicated to protect yourself if you decide to meet someone in person.
Kind regards
2007-02-20 16:25:10 · answer #1 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people use online dating now for various reason, personally I think it's a great way to find someone who is a good match, which isn't always the case when you meet someone in a bar etc If someone is on a dating site they are there to find someone themselves so it's normal that they'd be in contact with different people, I'm sure they'd stop if the found the right person.
2016-05-24 00:55:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure of the exact mechanics to your syndrome, so forgive me if this is out of left field. I would take baby steps. Find a male friend to hang out with, get drinks, try some semi casual situations. You may need a sort of "wing man" to take the edge off of any interactions with females. Good Luck.
2007-02-20 16:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by Ken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray more, go to Church, ask for Jesus' help and he will guide you..
2007-02-20 16:04:02 · answer #4 · answered by St.Jeb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋