ok so me and my boyfriend have been dating since 6th grade(now 8th) and i really like him. he was my first kiss. and i really really like him. i dont think we will ever break up. but his mom absolutley HATES me. what should i do?!!!
she wont let him go to the movies or mall with me and our other friends. should i dump him cuz of his mom? or just ignore her?
please help.
lauren
2007-02-20 15:36:08 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds to me like a real CAT fight.
OOh I am SO funny sometimes.
You have been sweet on him for two years and your moms haven't met have they.
That might be the key to getting her to see you as a human bean, I mean... being. If your mom and his mom can get along you will have a better shot at his mom liking you.
Ask your mom to meet her. Maybe they could go out for lunch or something.
Hey you gotta use all the tools available in this war of hearts.
You don't wear a bunch of black creepy looking clothes with stuff hanging off and black eye shadow do you? That would creep out the majority of moms.
Hang in there kiddo, things will get better if you just be patient and use your wits.
2007-02-20 15:40:11 · answer #1 · answered by FAT CAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he have a dad? what does the dad say. What the dad says has more bearing than the mom.(in my opinion) Then if he doesn't have a dad, then I would ask the mom why she doesn't like you and ask her what you can do to work things out. You don't necessarily have ot have her acceptance, but she can be a thorn in your side your entire married life. My dad never liked my wife, and he finally came around before she died, but he really made life miserable for her. I'd try to work things out the best you can. Once you get married you are your own family - and sometimes things can work themselves out over time.
My wife proved to be a good wife and none of my father's concerns proved to be valid. Our parents grew up in a different era and I think they need to be respected. We asked both sets of parents permission to marry. I think that is a good question for his mom - if you every got to the point where you were going to marry her son, would she give the ok? and if not why? and what can you do to make things better. I wouldn't call off the relationship - at least not at this point. This certainly can be worked out. Pray about it a lot if you pray. Also she may not really hate you, it might not have anything to do with you. Try to treat her with kindness and respect everytime you see her, and make sure you treat her son well. I think she might just be afraid. Losing her son (to you) might be a big loss for her. Especially if she doesn't have a husband.
2007-02-20 15:47:20 · answer #2 · answered by art_flood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on how you and he feel about being together. You say you don't think you will ever break up but then you ask if you should dump him because of his mom. I say no, not because of his mom. Not saying that his mom is right or wrong, because I don't know that she doesn't have a legitimate reason to dislike you, but some moms are just overprotective and no one seems "good enough" for their kids. You have to accept it if you're going to stay with him and just choose not to let it be an issue that bothers you. She may or may not come to like you, but that's her own issue. Never let it be your issue in any way, meaning, don't let it control you in any way. Respect her as his mother no matter how she acts toward you. Do this for your own inner peace. Two wrongs never make a right. It feels better to control ourselves and maintain our dignity and self respect.
2007-02-20 15:57:37 · answer #3 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does his mother really hate you or does she worry because her son isnt doing things he should do like his studies or hang out with his friends. Mothers have a hard time handling the changes that happen with their sons once a woman has entered their sons lives. Its a huge adjustment for the family when there is another person in their childs life. Maybe she finds him too young to date. I dont think you are going to get her to like you at this point. I would not say goodbye to your boyfriend unless the pressure gets so bad that you cannot handle it any longer. Good luck with that.
2007-02-20 15:43:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is an only child, but if he started dating a girl and stopped spending holidays with me I'd hate you too. It's a mother thing, you have to understand where she is coming from YOU have to find a happy medium on the time thing. Holidays for her will not be the same at all without her son. maybe doing both yours and his families taking turns on who gets the most time. Its what being in a relationship means. you will understand where his mother is coming from when that baby is born. IT's a bond that can't be broken. talk to her about how you feel.
2016-05-24 00:53:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why let somebody tell you who to date? I realise that your parents have say in all that you do until you're like 18 or so, but.... I can't see much wrong with your situation; you're both the same age, you're doing normal things together, goin to the mall for example. I'm assuming you're not having sex (don't do that)....
I understand how you feel... My husbands parents...whole family love me but it seems like my mother is a little less accepting of us (why I'll never know).... But I would never give him up for anything.
If your feelings for one another are genuine, I say stay with him. Perhaps have him talk to his mother and see what she has against you... Perhaps you just need to get to know his family more or something....
Good luck.
2007-02-20 15:41:29 · answer #6 · answered by jessicadiamond_4einc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an only child my mom hates any girl I've been interested in. I'm to the point I dont tell her I'm dating. Mothers hate the sons gf and fathers hate the daughter's bf. That is how it goes.
2007-02-20 15:42:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds like a serious arrangement for being so young. Let her see her son around a group of kids. Parents are less likely to be protective if they know there isn't any hanky panky going on between you two.
2007-02-20 15:44:05 · answer #8 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its time for you to get a new boyfriend. Im not really telling you to dump him, but tell him its over because of his mom doesnt allow you to do and relationships with him. If anything interfers with your relationship, it will go wrong. Im sorry.
2007-02-20 15:42:15 · answer #9 · answered by Green 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest trying to get on her good side. Ask your boyfriend what his mom is really like and try to get her to treat you the same way( being helpful, etc. ). If she is always hateful to everyone, then I have nothing.
2007-02-20 15:43:42 · answer #10 · answered by smallfry555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋