I really need help!!!!!!?

Question

For the past month i ve been really down, i had many freak outs where i wanted hurt myself ( don't worry i don't have the guts to kill or hurt myself, im scared of death) I hate myself more than ever before and the situation at home is getting worse . I feel alienated and my family is picking on me. I don' t have anyone to talk to.

I can't seem to motivate myself to get myself a counsellor,( i can't never get out of bed) i'm gonna have to wait for my mum to notice and do something.

I'm thinking that i might see if my doctor can prescribe me something to help me cope in the meanwhile.

I was wondering what anti depressants would be best for me???

I don't want something that will make me gain weight, i already have a weight problem and i don't want to make it worse.

Any ideas??? thanks

Thanks for all the answers so far

I do have friends, but they don't really understand what i'm going through

and mum isn't very understanding, i don't think she really cares, i could slit my wrist and she probably wouldn't bat a eyelid

My dad is more concerned with chasing skirt

And My brothers bully and provoke me into fits of rage

So i really don't have anyone to talk to

Answer 1

I am a non professional. And this is only My suggestion. Sometimes depression can be clinical and chronic. Sometimes it can last a life time and need treatment. And that's O.K. There are many forms of treatment available for different types or levels of depression. I am an addict. I haven't used drugs for 10 years now.
I am recovering in a 12 step program called Narcotics Anonymous. I thought I would mention that. It may have nothing to do with depression and Our message is that an addict can find a new way to live without the use of drugs. I just wanted to give you an idea of where I came from. I tried to kill myself at the end of my using days.I ended up in the Mental Health hospital with a lot of issues to work on.One thing I learned was that it is good to seek professional help. If your leg was broken and not well right now, you would go to a Hospital,right? If you are hurting inside, you can do the same for your mind and brain and emotions by going to a Mental Health Hospital. They are not the fearful places that Hollywood depicts. In fact When I first went there for my depression, after losing my best friend ( Drugs ), I found it to be very safe and helpful.Today I am an outpatient ( 8 years ) and take my meds faithfully. I feel good most of the time and I am doing fine. So pick up the phone, and make that call...

Answer 2

Dear dear it does not sound at all like you are having a fun time however we have all been there and somehow survived. The doctor is a good idea just talking about your problems can help tablets can also help but only ones that are prescribed and even then not for too long as can become addicted. Re the weight I would not be too concerned as you are still quite young you can carry a little extra. Try to have happier times and perhaps eat more vegetables as they are better for you and do not have as many calories as convenience and processed food also take longer to eat and digest so go ahead and have fun munching !!
Re other problems could you get a pet ? someone that you can spoil and love and cuddle It will absorb you and take your mind off all these problems and you will find a lot of joy in caring for someone else and be intrigued by the inter connection----- however basically you have to help yourself just try a little don't expect too much so god bless and good luck----you have the strength just go to it....

Answer 3

Medications are not always the answer, but you may need something. Unfortunately, weight gain is part of the process when you take those meds. So you would have to watch your diet. You really need to make the call and get an appointment with a counselor. Save the drugs as a last resort if the counseling does not help.

Answer 4

Time to talk to your mum NOW! Don't wait. It's best to get it out in the open and talk about your feelings and why you are feeling that way. Life is not all happy all the time. This does not mean you need drugs. It means eat right, exercise and take vitamins D,B6 and B12 will help with this down time in your life. Also talk talk talk about how your feeling to your Mum Friends and Siblings. Try to get sun light as often as you can. Give this a couple of weeks and I bet you'll feel better and won't need the drugs. Just remember this is just life. If this doesn't help then it's time to see the doc.

Answer 5

Well, I think you're right, you need to get some help, and of course you want it for yourself, or you wouldn't have asked complete strangers. I think waiting for your Mom to initiate it is really saying you either need her attention, or you may want to punish her for how you feel. You've got to take care of yourself. You took this step to ask strangers, so now while in school (assuming) ask to speak to the school psychologist. You would be amazed at how liberating a little therapy can be. Try not and beat yourself up about this, get some help, talk to someone and start building some strategies to cope. Medication may be down the line, but I would sure try everything else before I started to mess with my body's chemicals.

Good luck!
Be Strong!

Answer 6

I have recently been diagnosed with a mental health problem after months of exactly what you are feeling and worse. Your thinking changes significantly when you are depressed and you feel like you are the only one who is in the situation and that nobody can understand. I have started seeing a community psychiatric nurse (CPN) who has been immensely helpful. You must see your doctor and he can either refer you on to someone or he will know the correct medication to give you. I had very severe problems and thanks to my new medication I am finally depression free and getting on with my life with very few side effects. I wish you all the best

Answer 7

Do you think your weight problem has anything to do with the freakouts? I think it might be affecting your self esteem. Why do you hate yourself. Ask yourself those questions, then make a list: what do I want to change about me? then think about what you want to do with your life like as in accomplishments. You didn't say how old you are. Since you mentioned your mom, I'm thinking you might be a teen or young adult. It sounds like you are depressed and have some esteem issues.

I think you're asking for help is the right thing to do, I think you need to talk to your mom, don't wait for her to notice, you want help, ask for it.You're asking us, strangers, you need to ask your mom.

Counselors are good to start with, they can talk to you about your life and suggest ways you can make changes, small ones to lead to bigger and better things. You might not need meds with lifestyle changes and being able to talk to someone about your problems, someone that will help you make changes.

You said you don't have anyone to talk to so I'm thinking you need to meet people and make some friends. What hobbies or interests do you have? What do you like to do? Do you like movies? playing video games? Why not start today and join a yahoo group that interests you that you could make some online friends to start with, get comfortable talking to them and then move on to something in person where you'd make friends.

For weight loss, why not try walking a little each day or dancing something that interests you that is an activity. Eat healthier, fruits and veggies, and drink alot of water. I'm not a big diet fan, I'm more of a fan to eating healthy to keep your weight down fan, lol.

Answer 8

You definitly need to seek therapy or see a pychiatrist. Why are they picking on you?? YOu need to talk to someone about whats festering inside of you thast making you feel this way. I dont know how old you are, but anti-depressants can help, but you have to talk to a psychiatrist. But I will warn you, it takes a good month before you feel a difference, and in the meantime you will feel worst or have side effects until your body adjusts. You really need to get help from a proffesional. Dont wait for your mother to notice. Tell her, and get help now. Good Luck to you.

Answer 9

I felt exactly the same way as you 4 months ago. I went to my doctor and they reccomended counselling rather than anti-depressents. I have seen someone for 3 months now and i feel alot better already. Sometimes tablets can just make you feel far worse. Please go to your doctor and ask for a counselling service. it can help but it may take a few months. Please feel free to email me when you feel down. As for the weight, that will work its self out. Just get your mind sorted first and you will see a change.

Answer 10

I think you are having a breakdown. Your exhausted as if it's a chronic fatigue syndrome. It will only get worst unless you seek help. A lot of professional people get them especially those who overwork them self Police officers, lawyers, and big business executives Medics.. I was one. It's terrible if it turns into depression and high anxiety attacks . get help now my friend.