It is very difficult for me to say NO to others. How to say NO politely, without hurting the feeling of th?

Answer 1

Look at it this way. Someone needs volunteers for a project. They have a list of people who they want to ask for help. If you say no, they go on to the next person on the list without batting an eyelash. If you say yes and then get stuck because you are overextended, their project will suffer. You do them a favor when you say "sorry, I can't." If you've got people who won't accept "no", you need to stay away from them.

Answer 2

Be as nice as possible about it even if you're feeling mean and nasty inside. You're only saying no because it is the most comfortable answer for you, right? If it's a very close friend, or someone in whose good books you need to appear, be apologetic. It isn't that difficult if you just smile and say it, and simultaneously make sure the person isn't taking offence.

It's probably a bad idea to be loud and firm about it.. Just drag it a lot.. give your reason before saying no.. and if possible add something like 'you understand, don't you?' or 'I'm sorry I can't do this..'. It's not necessary you do all this every time you say no, but I thought that if you started out this way then you could sort of get some experience whenever you have to say no.

Answer 3

Get together with a friend of yours, and practice saying no. Let them know you need help with this. Set up a fake questions, which is obvious answers would be no!! Something like:

Would you please burn my house down??
Would you pay for and completely redecorate my house??
Can you take out my garbage for the next year every Tuesday at 1:33pm??
I want to move to Japan so you have to make all the arrangement for me, is that ok?


Just sit with your friend and make up ridiculous questions. The more you say "no" the more comfortable you will get saying it.
You seem to be thinking of everyone else first, rather that what's best for you. When anyone asks you a question, that allows you to make a choice. They are "asking" they are not telling you to do something. Or are they? So, when asked, remember that you have the opportunity to make your choice, yes , no or maybe.

Your concern needs to be on yourself first. Are you comfortable saying yes, when you really mean no? Someone will get their feelings hurt, but they will live and find some other way to get that situation fixed.

In response, you could say:
no thank you
I'm sorry but no
Is there someone else who could help you?
_______ is really good with those questions, would you ask them please?

Delegate if you can. Think about what strengths others have in your life, and tell the asker to consult that other person.

Once you say no a few times, and have a good laugh about it, you will be more comfortable and proud of yourself.

Would you mind cooking me breakfast, lunch and dinner for the next 6 months please? I'd really appreciate it LOL

Answer 4

Well, hear them out, but don't say anything. Get out a diary and check it in silence if you like. Don't speak until, when and only when, they stop, and wait for you to say Yes.
You can now speak.

"No, thanks. That's not for me."

Now Ask them a question about why they asked you!!!

"No, thanks. Yes. I hear you. But it's No anyway! How many volunteers do you have now? How many do you need? By when? I'll ask my class/team/family for you. How can they contact you?"

(Hey, you can smile and look at them and be friendly. That's allowed! You can smile and ask Them a question, and pat them on the shoulder. But it's still No, not a hope! Actually, the *more* questions you ask them back, the better!

"Thanks, for asking if I'd be interested. It's not for me, but have you thought of asking Jo over there?"

"Why did you think I'd be interested? Did Patty say that? She really has no idea how far out I live. I'd like to help - Are you asking everyone in the group? Hey, who did you ask first? Him? You know, you could appeal to [his sense of duty/ambition to be worker of the year/the fact that he likes T] Ask T, then tell him she's signed up for it."

"You must find it really difficult to find volunteers, we're all so busy now. Good luck with that. I know you'll find at least three others who have time. What about our teachers/neighbours/janitor? Jerry was saying yesterday how bored he was - remember? At the dinner? Go on, you can approach him. Hey, you nearly talked me into it even though I have other plans! I can't cancel them, but didn't it sound like he'd love an excuse to try something different on a Monday?"

"Yes. I have other commitments. Oh, Come on, we'd both be here all day if we both added up how much we do! How busy was your day?! How much did you accomplish before lunch?"

"Mmm, this sandwich is great. Did you eat earlier? You didn't have time? I'd sure hate to be too busy to eat. No, thanks. Can I get you a sandwich, though? Sure? Will you have an apple at least? Sure? Oh, you deserve to eat something once a day. Don't you think so? No? OK, who do we know who is dieting & could use an excuse to keep busy? "

"Is that the time?! Is that your wallet? Is that your teacher? Friend? I thought I saw you chatting in town earlier? Are you sure? Come on, I'll introduce you. They might be free on that date, you never know."

Answer 5

I have a problem saying 'NO'. It's very difficult for me. I tend to think it's b/c I'm a nice person, but then come to find out I'm just a naive or a sucker. I don't think there's one specific way to say "no". I think it depends on the situation....however these days I've just come right out & said "NO" & it feels good!!! Verry freeing, try it!

Answer 6

Just say no. If their feeling will get hurt they shouldn't have ask in the first place

Answer 7

if u cant say 'no'...keep going down the path ur going and keep saying 'yes'. eventually u'll get tired of saying yes (because maybe ur getting taken advantage of or whatever ur doing is not helping u in anyway) and wont care if ur hurting their feelings or not.

Answer 8

Just say "so sorry I can't do that". Learn to say no, or else the person getting hurt or used is YOU. Learning to say no, is learning to LOVE yourself.

Answer 9

tell that person "no, im sorry" if they get upset with you tell them these:

a.) i dont feel comfortable with that
b.)sorry _____ i have other things to do
c.)this really isnt my problem
d.)i have a life to live too, and i think i should be able to do what i want
e.)you always push me around, now im asking you to stop
f.)not today, im really busy, gotta go!
g.)i said no.


hope those helped!

Answer 10

I have the same problem. I just say "No." Sounds like a drug free campaign slogan.