Hi My Son Has Been "Sick" Three Days Since Start Of School what to do?

Question

hi my name is Catherine my son has been sick for three days since the start of the term and i think he has been faking it for i see him walking around often on the internet when im not watching "or so he thinks" im trying to find a suitable way to punish him for this i have thought of one i would like you feedback on the idea i want to put him into cloth diapers for each day he has been sick example he can either wear them the next three days at school or at home on weekends all day because if he is really sick they should help any *cough problems and just to make sure he does it i can say i will hang them on the front line for people to see and when people ask what they are there for ie his brother or friends i will say he has been having a few problems by the way my son is 14

i have also taken him to a GP who found no big problems just said for the headache take panadol

Answer 1

He's defintely faking it or everytime you notice him his head DOES hurt.He's just probally just faking it that way he's out of school.I suggest you tell him and ask him what in the world is wrong with him.If it's a serious problem in which he didn't want to go to school, like he dint want homework,punish him.If it's a way out of bullying give him a light punishmnet and give the principal a chat.If he's actually sick i suggest you take him to a doctor.

Answer 2

Guess you have never been to a childrens hospital.A childrens hospital has a play yard where the sick and injured kids can go play.A sick child will not sit or lay still 24/7.My kids will have a 104.00 fever before school and I keep them home and give them tylenol and within 1 hour they are driving me crazy and they show no signs of ever being sick except when they get the fever back in 3-4 hours.My rules is if the child is not running a fever,vomitting(infront of me so I know they are not faking) or if they do not have the runs they will go to school.I dont get faked out.Why would you want to do that to your son? If he is not truely sick then he had you fooled.He must be good at it or you are gullable.If he is faking then there must be a reason such as being jumped or school is just to hard for him.Either way be a mom and get to the bottom of him not going to school and solve the problem.Im a mother of a 17,16,14,10,9 and 2 year old and I would never put up with them faking to stay home from school nor will I allow BS from school or let them fail because the work is too hard.

Answer 3

Shaming him in front of others would be a totally wrong approach to your problem. Don't do it! How about you try grounding him two days for each day he misses school for no reason? Or, maybe a doctors appointment to see if he doesn't really feel well? If you take the grounding approach though, you will also have to not allow usage of the computer, house phone, cell phone, ipod, t.v., stereo, etc., etc., etc. None of these would be acceptable for use, as well as no friends over, for any reason. But, you also have to commit to staying at home to make sure he follows his punishment. Because the minute you leave, guess what mom? He will use it anyway. If they put a chins on him, he will not like that at all! Most times, they put the kid on "house arrest", meaning that he can't go anywhere, or do anything. To school, and home, that's it! Please tell him what I said to you, ok? My friends son just got put on a chins. He sounds like your son. Not wanting to go to school, etc. Hope this helps you out some.

Answer 4

I'm laughing at everyone who said he's probably being bullied, etc., because otherwise he'd want to go to school.

Were you people EVER 14???

Make every effort to find out if there is a medical problem. Try making him pay for the co-pay or co-insurance. If he's faking, he may tip his hand when he has to use his own money to keep up the charade. Paying 15-50 dollars for each 'sick day' (and it's important he understands he should go to the doctor EVERY time, for his own good, so he can be diagnosed and treated for his illness) could make him reconsider.

Your diaper idea is a truly horrible one. It's a good idea to let the punishment fit the crime. Putting him in diapers would serve no purpose, except to humiliate him.

Answer 5

I had terrible problems with stomachaches in school.
My mom always accused me of faking since #1, doctor could find no cause and #2, pepto bismol did not help.
In middle school, it escalated to dizzy spells.
Finally one doctor said it was caused by stress and hyperventilating.
I was sincerely getting sick because of fear of school problems.
For me it was bullying, rather than academics.
Ask your son if anything is wrong at school.

Answer 6

I use to do the same when I was about 12. Someone was picking on me, so I was afraid to go to school. You should try to find out why he is doing this before you put him through that embarrassment.

Answer 7

I am not sure who has the bigger issue..you or he?

If he's 'faking it' to get out of school, find out why. What is making him not want to go to school. Resolve the issue.

As for you...embarrassing him by using diapers is DUMB. It proves nothing more than that YOU have issues that need to be resolved with therapy.

Answer 8

Lady...if you are,you have some nerve.you are uncaring and twisted.How dare you even suggest doing the things you said.I have no idea why your son doesn't want to go to school but better yet why would he want to stay home with you?I am sitting here very mad.YOU ARE DISGUSTING!you need to wear a diaper.don't humiliate your son,you idiot.GET HIM SOME HELP!

Answer 9

Take him to a good Doctor.

Answer 10

well geez, you're the mother here! if you think he's faking then he probably is. simply tell him to get his narrow butt to school! a hard head makes for a soft butt