k so heres the deal: im 15 (girl) and my mom wont let me hang with and of my guy friends! they ask me all the time if we can hang but she wont let me! i ask her all the time and all she says is no! she said i cant date till im 16 and like hello im not dating anyone just wanting to hang with a bunch of friends! and another thing how can i date then if she doesnt let me hang now and not be like shy around them. should i have them ask her? cuz like she cant say no to them, can she?
so if any of u can help me into changing her mind i will love u forever!!!
2007-02-20 15:04:30 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
get over it, cause she was 15 once just like me and even hanging out can lead to other things. Believe me there are more important things in life than hanging with the guys. WHy not have the guys come over to your place to hang out with several girlfriends ?
Why not have your mom meet these people she starts to feel comfortable around them for you to be able to go!
2007-02-20 15:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by BoTToms UP 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, yes..your mother can tell the boys "no", its her perogative.
And no offense meant towards you, but if your anything like some of the other 15 year old girls I know, I can understand where your mother is coming from. Your all in too big a hurry to grow up.
Let me guess? You've begged, pleaded, sought mercy from your mother to have her change her mind? And so far she hasn't?
Do you act mature?
Maybe your mother is basing her decision on your maturity level, maybe your a follower instead of a leader and she's afraid that you'll doing something that you'd regret later. Or maybe she's afraid that if she allows you some freedom, you'll run with it.
If I were you, I'd approach you mother with a mature 15 year old attitude, be honest, and ask. Don't demand. Maybe she'll work a deal out with you, the closer you get to 16, maybe she'll cut you some freedom...maybe not. But its her decision, and whatever the answer is, take it as a mature 15 year old. Who knows, maybe she'll change her mind quicker that way.....
2007-02-20 23:34:12 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your mom if she would be willing to meet these guys and get to know them. Maybe if they hang out at your house initially, she'll begin to see that their intentions are only as friends and that they may even be good for you (you know, like that they'd protect you in the future and be like big brothers to you). After a while, she may feel more comfortable with you going out with them as a group. Even if not, at least you'll be able to spend time with your friends for now.
2007-02-20 23:09:14 · answer #3 · answered by mrswho86 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is tuff. Your mom obviously has her reasons., mabey you should maturly ask her why you are not allowed to hang out with your buddies. Mabey she is afraid that you are growing up to quickly, she doesn't want to lose you. Mabey she would be more comfortable if you take it slowly. Ask her to meet them. Then ask if they can hang out outside with youe, then finally ask if you can go out side of your moms view. Let her know she can call to check in and everything. If you have to show her this message.
I dont trully know what you are going through because I tell my mom everything and bring all of my questions to her right when they are in my head. Good luck with this one babe.
Just remember your mom loves you and she wants to do what she thinks is the right thing to do. Even if you dont like it. I know I am 14 and go through these talks with my mom all of the time.
2007-02-20 23:55:36 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try seeing if you can get the guys to hang out at your house if your mom will approve, & give her a chance to get to know them.
2007-02-20 23:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Invite them to your house to hang out, where your mom can get to know them.
Also, maybe you can have your mom talk to their moms, maybe that would help.
2007-02-20 23:19:34 · answer #6 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was in Ur shoes about 2 years ago. just try simply talkin to Ur mom about how its not Ur fault u have more guy Friends than girlfriends. And all u guys are doin is goin to hang out, and if she cant trust u with Ur word than she has got serious problems.
2007-02-20 23:10:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋