when people meet me they always seem to dislike me?

Question

i overhear people talking about me sometimes and way they react when I am around is like they try to ignore me, i hear people say there is just something about her that i don't like, it is almost everyone i meet, from coworkers, to my husband's friends and family, casual conversations with strangers, my boss once said to me that I think I am better than everyone, but I don't think that at all, I am very insecure, and I try to be friendly but it still does not work

Answer 1

I have that same problem actually a lot. I think it is the insecurity part that people don't like. From the people that I work with, everyone seems to like the major chatter boxes and "always happy" people. Sometimes what I do is to act hyper and animated, people seem to like that person better than the real me. But I act overly happy at times because I'm nervous also. People want to feel good about themselves and want to hear interesting stories. Try complimenting people and force your way into their conversations over and over until they accept you. I try to compliment often and sound interested in their lives, even though I really don't care. You won't get them 100% of the time, but I guess it's like sending out a resume. You don't just want to send it out to a couple of places. You need to try over and over and with many different types of places sometimes. One last note, not everyone you think dislikes you is disliking you, it is probably your own insecurity causing this, I have the same problem, and I still think that way.

Answer 2

People think I am stuck up, and it's actually shyness. I'm glad I'm not the only one with this problem, cause I think I am such a sweet person.Maybe the first person is right, about being more agressive. When people sense you are insecure, I think they start judging. Be yourself! No matter what you do, someone will dislike you for some stupid reason or another. The other day I read this-
Can you name one thing everyone likes?
Water
And do you want to be water?
Hell no. Be hot chocolate or lemonade.

Answer 3

It looks like you are insecure. You have to believe in yourself, and you shouldn’t assume that people talk behind your back or talk smack about you. I don’t know if you know this, but some people think you are mean because of the signals you are sending out. I use to know a girl who is very short, and never took her time to hang out with co-workers at work, and everyone thinks she is the rudest person without knowing who she really is. One day I said hi and we and we started to chat. Then I discover why she doesn’t like to chat or hang out with co-workers, is because she is scared of getting hurt. Any how I don’t think you should say negative things about yourself; you should know how nice you are. Don’t stop saying hi, be yourself and stop caring about what people think of you. Believe in yourself!

If you take your time to write this, there is no way you can be a stuck up person. I think you are a very nice person!

Answer 4

U got to be agressive. Take prison inmates for an example. When you walk into a room with all of your husdbands closest friends, coworkers, and his boss, punch one of em in the face. Show your dominance.

Answer 5

I like you.

And you seem very friendly to me. If anything, i think THEY are the ones that are insecure.