Why exactly is it wrong for a 14 yr old date a dude in his mid- twenties?

Question

i think if you think over possiblities and outcomes ... and talk stuff out maybe something can work out ..... and i want to know why is it gross ? ... arent we all humans ? ... and natural ... love shouldnt be measured of age ... idk. >< confused.

Answer 1

Alright first off it's illegal and if you cared about the guy youd keep it friendly but wait til youre 18 so he doesnt get labeled as a sex offender....second you are 14 and trust me you are not in love, i know it sounds harsh,its not what you wanna hear, and youll think how would you know but just you have to trust me, I'd hate to see you get hurt like i did....people see it as gross because for most it simply is that a 20+ and someone whos barely a teen are "in love" to them it screams Child Molestor.....yes love should not be measured by age but there is a line that can be crossed and you hon have crossed it with this....i would like to talk to you more about it though so if you want feel free to IM me about it

Answer 2

There is a great maturity gab btwn and 14 y/o and lets say a 24 y/o.

Society now a days feels it is morally wrong for a grown man to sleep with basicly a child. (you maybe 14, but you're still childlike in your thinking)

Modern society has this belief that that if there is an age gap of more than 2 years, then everything is gross, why, have no clue.

But at being 14, and pretty much a virgin to the world, dating a man THAT much older than you, screams "Sl*t!" (not saying that you are though...) You have no *real* concept of what love is and therefore belive that the LUST you are feeling is in fact love, when he's pretty much getting what he wants out of you (your pants..)

So, if you truly feel its love, just wait till you are a little bit older, have experienced the world and then go back to him. You will have more support from the world, and won't have to sneak around to see him.

Also, there are laws agaist it..why, i still don't know, but It's to protect children and young adults from making major mistakes in their lives, like get pregnant before they even get out of middle school..

either way, untill you move out of your parents home, then you live by their rules, like it or not. So get a job now, start saving money, and when you turn 18, you can run away, elope and be with your so called "prince charming"

Answer 3

Unless a 14-year-old has the mental maturity of a 20-something-year-old, the guy would simply be taking advantage of the girl for sex, not to mention that it's against the law (and I think that's one of the reasons why). Given that a 14-year-old would not have much to offer an adult other than her body means the kid would be totally used. What girl (or boy) would want that? Trust me, if an adult male is making sweet promises to you, he's lying. And regarding your comment that "love shouldnt be measured of age," it's not a matter of age. It's a matter of maturity.

Answer 4

Well, back in high school some 14-17 yrs old girls (most of them were popular, mind you) of my generation had 18-22 yrs old boyfriends. In your case the difference is bigger, I know. But I think such a relationship can work. You should first know what his intentions are. How fast is he going? Can you guys talk of something, I mean just talk and have fun? Is he willing to wait for you? If his intentions are honest then it might work. Carry some pepper spray, just in case.

Answer 5

We are all humans, but I think it's more of a moral belief. It's just not right in many peoples opinion, mine included. we all grow up at different times, so why not date someone from around your time. I don't see a big problem with 5 years or so, unless one or the other is under 17 and even that's pushing it.

Answer 6

very well, where do I begin. You are going to get a lot of parents up in arms about this, saying that the only motive a middle-20 yearold would have with a 14-year old girl is sex.

my counterargument would be the only motive a middle-20 year old has is sex, regardless of the partner's age.

So basically, if you giggled when I said sex, you are in trouble.
And to beat others to the punch: You must not have a father figure.

Answer 7

What could a 14 year old and a guy in his mid twenties have to ever talk about.

Answer 8

Its not wrong but he is way older than you.Is like if you get married with him and your are 20 but he could be 39 he is going to ruin your life because he has more experience of life than you have.I have a friend she has one child at age 15 and her supposably "Boyfriend"( he is like 25) don't know where he is he is out in the world making more girls suffer.Plz!!! Don't ruin your life.Go out with guys your age.You are going to regret that when
you are in the hospital having your baby.But do what you gonna do.

Take Care,
Nohemi

Answer 9

Well,its more gross on his part b.c. he is dating a child,possibly middleschooler or freshman & highschool.He would be way to advance & can you tell me you will not have sex with this man until you turn 18 ,that's not gonna happen.Age aint nothing but a number but theres a limit,when guys in their twenties are daitn 12,13 ,and 14 yr. olds.

Answer 10

if you think age posts no reason to stop you, you wouldn't have been here right? if you're not confused, you wouldn't be asking us our opinions. if you think you're mature enough to handle a relationship with someone in their mid 20's who may be working or in the graduate school and having a very different life style, go ahead. if you think you will never be taken advantage and you can protect yourself fully, go ahead. if you think the mentality over 11 years of differences is the same, go ahead. it's up to you. after all, it's only you who can really protect yourself! good luck!