Can someone tell me how to get my mom to stop interfering in my life?

Question

I come home, she looks in my personal belongings, she looks in my bag and finds MY report card. I didn't want her to look at it because I failed. She does this so often that I find her talking to her friends about me. Can someone tell me how to get her to stop?

I tell her to leave me alone because she is interfering in my life, but she stills interferes.

Answer 1

It cant be that bad if shes not monitoring what you do online.

Answer 2

As long as you are making failing grades and eavesdropping on her conversations, there will be nothing you can do to stop her. For your information, most mothers (if they are intelligent) do not believe everything their kid tells them...ever; about anything.

So, if you ever finish school...and if you ever get a job... and if you ever find someone who will marry you... and if you have kids of your own...and if they have an attitude like you... you'll then understand how awful being a parent of a sneaky, lazy kid really is.

Get real, and grow up. Then she might begin leaving you alone because she knows you are maturing into a good person.

p.s., She puts a roof over your head; the bed you sleep on; the electricity that runs your games, phone, toys and TVs; provides the food that you eat; the clothes that you wear; the car you get transported in; the family that you have. What right do you have to complain about anything---ABSOLUTELY NONE!

Answer 3

The only reasonible way is to just confront her, and tell her how you feel. Most girls go through a stage where their mother drives them absolutly crazy. Some have mothers that meddle too much, others have mothers who seem to ignore them. When it comes down to it you kinda have to forgive your mother for being insane, cuz everybody's is really.
Sit down with her and tell her honnestly how you feel, try not to turn it into a fight, don't yell or get upset even if she does, it's really hard to fight with someone who wont fight back.
If that doesn't work there isn't much you can do aside from physically assulting the woman which is certanily not a good option.
She probably thinks she's doing what's best for you, and it's her crazy way of caring. Some day the two of you will get along alot better, probably when you move out.

Answer 4

you can try talking to her about how her snooping makes you feel and see if you can come to some sort of an agreement about what is safe for you to keep personal and what you have to show and talk to her about. Also, let her know how you feel about her talking to her friends. Sometimes, moms talk to other moms for advise more then anything.

Now what you really don't want to hear is depending on how old you are she has a right to see YOUR report card even though you don't want her to. It is her job as a mother to make sure you get a good education and provide a safe and secure life and to do everything she can to help you become a responsible adult able to provide for yourself.

Answer 5

Until you are 18 and out of her house, she should be interfereing in your life.

Sounds as if you are not very truthful with her if you won't even fess up to your own report card. If she can't trust you, then you can expect her to find out what she needs to know anyway she can.

When you show maturity and trustworthiness, then she will interfer a whole lot less!

Answer 6

You have a certain amount of privacy to personal belongings but your report card is public record and your mother has the right to view it. You are mad because you couldn't hide the fact that you were failing in school. She would eventually find that out soon anyway.

Answer 7

That is what moms are for. If you want her to trust you than you have to earn her trust. Come to her with a problem first before she finds it out on her own. She will be mad but it will change the way she thinks about you.

It is called maturity and going up

Answer 8

how old are you?...i know when a mother checks in your bag being nosy it just to make sure you are going into the right direction did you bring something to the house or your friends get high? ...she only means whats good for you..if moms check in your bag ..just make sure you have nothing in that bag ..that she can see...are you hiding something or someone? At end when you get older you will understand why moms do what they do .. then you will be better daughter ..mothers do that for our own good ..I wish you the best ..and remember moms just want what is best for our children..

Answer 9

Is there a reason that she cant seem to trust you? Are you be upfront and honest with her? If she is a reasonable Mom try and have a mature talk with her and tell her how this make you feel (invasion of private). And be honest with her... try and find a workable solution. I bet she is a good Mom, just worried.

Answer 10

how often have you hid things from her? a report card is an important issue particularly if you are failing something. she may not trust you. it might help to sit down and talk to her about her prying into your stuff chances are if you have hid things from her in the past she doesn't trust you. you need to be honest with her and maybe the prying will stop.

Answer 11

easy you grow up get a job and move out..... other wise she is your mom and that is her job she has every rite to go through your things because you dont seem to be responsible enough to give her things like your report card ect and you are failing in school so you have not earned the rite to be trusted...