I'm 14 and I am just thinking about what I want to name my kids when I hit 18. I was thinking either Geneveive Noel or Connor Michael. I haven't come up w/ any other names yet. And also, If I get married to a guy named Keldon Osterman, my current name won't sound very good. My name is Kailin so yeah. I'm thinking about changing my name once I get married to someone. How would you do that??? I do want to have my children natrually but how bad will it hurt if I don't get an Epadural? I'm really worried about it as you can see. Keldon is 14 also if you wanted to know how old he is. My last Q is this, what age should I become sexually active? My friends are 15 and 16 and they have already had at least 1 kid. So, those r my Q's! I NEED A's!
2007-02-20 14:24:33 · 13 answers · asked by Kailin W 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Now you just hold on one dang minute...when you are 18???? You are kidding. You do not begin to have children at 18. Your so called friends need to get some better morals and guidance from their parents. How sick, to let 15 and 16 year olds have babies.
Let me tell you something, I have seen students get pregnant and have kids and they were so miserable. They never got to go to school, college and have a life.
Having babies is for mature, married people who have some good reasons in their mind as to why they want children. They can afford to have them and can supply the emotional and physical needs.
Getting married before the age of 25 is not advised, you are finding out who you are, beginning your young adult life and need time to grow emotionally. What the heck is your rush? You should have much better ideas about your future than getting married at an early age and having kids.
No, you are too young for sex. That is for mature adults. To have sex at your age could be emotionally damaging, not to mention physically damaging. Above that, it is not moral and in most states illegal (you are not a consenting adult).
How about thinking about your hopes and dreams of what you can do in this world; go to college and learn something valuable and then take that into the world and make it a better place. Sitting home and making babies at 18 is certainly not that at all.
2007-02-20 14:33:36 · answer #1 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first...you can't ask people how old YOU should be, when you become sexually active. That's something you need to figure out inside of yourself, no matter how old your friends were when they did it.
Ask yourself:
Am I ready to have children? Can I get a job that will support my children? Can I feed, clothe, house and get medical care for my children? Because it only takes one mistake, one broken condom, one missed pill...and you could get pregnant. Are you ready for that, now?
Your friends are NOT able to do that. What they're doing is giving birth, and expecting their parents to take a major role in raising the kids. That is NOT parenting, and it only shows how unprepared for sex they were, and how immature and STUPID they were. Having a baby is NOT A JOKE! Why in the heck would you give up part of YOUR OWN childhood? You have plenty of time to have kids later. You're NOT in a rush. You will NEVER GET YOUR CHILDHOOD BACK if you give it up now. You get one shot at it.
Childbirth hurts. You are pushing something the size of a small watermelon, through a hole the size of a grape. Yes, it hurts.
2007-02-20 22:32:50 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should save yourself for the day you get married. Be pure and don't do it. This world is full of sexually transmitted diseases and you could die of one, or catch one that is not curable. Don't become another statistic! if all your friends were jumping off of bridges would you jump too? Having a baby as a teen is not cool. You have to work and take care of this living breathing thing, and still try to finish your education so you don't end up working at McDonald's for the rest of your life. Don't you have dreams? Don't you want to go to college and become something in life? You can get married and have your babies after you have studied hard and gone to college and gotten a degree and make lots of money. Build your own house, travel around the world, LIVE LIFE! Then settle down! :P
2007-02-20 22:29:33 · answer #3 · answered by Mother of 5/Madre de 5 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nice names but here's my point......... i became sexually active at 18, to the man I am now married to (got married at 19) & I had a baby at 20..... she is now 18 months old & I am now 21, let me tell you.......... there are MANY days when I just want to kick myself & I have to ask myself "Why oh why did I get married & pregnant so young?" I mean, don't get me wrong, I love my husband & my daughter more than anything, but I really wish circumstances had been different & I would have waited a LOT longer before having a baby...... I had to quit my job, which I really enjoyed, & stay home to take care of her cause she was preemie (she only weighed 2 pounds & 14 ounces at birth) so now I have been a stay-at-home mom for a year & a half, & I'm going completely stir-crazy........ I am now trying to get my old job back, but now we have to worry about daycare, who's gonna have to take off work early to pick up the baby......... let me outline my day for you......... thank god my little girl sleeps thru the night, otherwise this would be worse.......... i get up about 7 am to make breakfast for everyone, feed the baby, she is up & playing until about 12 or 1, then nap for an hour, while I'm cleaning up the messes she made while playing (& she's had about 2 or 3 diaper changes in this time frame) wakes up, ready to eat again so I make lunch...... another diaper....... plays until about 4 or 5....... a couple more diapers & lots of cleaning........ gotta start cooking dinner for me, hubby, & baby......... more diapers......... everybody eats dinner (which could take 30 mins. to an hour or more, depending on how fussy baby is & if she wants to throw her food instead of eating it)......... play some more until 8 or 9 pm, one last diaper, & then bedtime so I can clean up some more mess....... basically, my point is, having a baby is SO MUCH WORK, just because your friends have babies doesn't mean you should, & I will stake my own life on it that if they tell you they enjoy being parents at this age, THEY ARE LYING!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Their parents probably take care of the babies most of the time, I assume they still go to shcool...... listen, from one young person to another, I'm not saying you wouldn't make a good mom, just trust me, you don't want to get married or have a baby too soon, I missed out on a lot of stuff I wanted to do because I got pregnant at a very young age......... i love my baby, but always wonder if it would have been much easier if i had waited..........please be smart & think this through......... plus, being sexually active exposes you to STDs...... my husband is the only man I have ever had sex with, but now I have herpes because he never knew he had it....... now I have to live with that forever since there is no cure, & it is no picnic....... and there is much worse, like aids that you could get......... so please be very careful, talk to a counselor or something, someone besides your parents if that makes you more comfortable, & get all the facts before you make these decisions, or your life will be over in a sense before it even begins...........
2007-02-21 01:08:53 · answer #4 · answered by Ashli B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way too young to be think about having kids. Its not fair to the child, to bring them into a world where you are still a child yourself. You don't have a stable enough life for them. I don't know what your friends think they are doing but its not right. Please be careful. I don't think you should be sexually active until you are married, and I don't think you should get married until you are ATLEAST 18. You've got a long time to live before you start thinking about grown up stuff. You may think you are old, but 14 really isn't, your barely a teenager. I hope this helps. Take care, God bless you.
2007-02-20 22:38:21 · answer #5 · answered by Holly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to be thinking of marriage. If you have a child at your age, you will spend the rest of your life taking care of it. Slow down and enjoy being a child while you can because being an adult in the real world is a heck of a lot harder than high school. I do like the name Connor Michael....just wait awhile before you use it!!!
2007-02-20 22:28:57 · answer #6 · answered by Army Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to tell you at what age to have sex or whether or not to have sex. Just make sure that you really love the guy and PLEASE use a condom and/or birth control pills!
I think that if names are your biggest worry then you're not ready to think about having kids. Seriously, kids are a huge responsibility and change your life. I don't care what your friends are doing, this is about your life and you need to consider what you want for yourself and for a baby. You can't only think about yourself; the baby has to come first. I would wait until later to have kids, personally.
2007-02-20 22:31:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probably won't like this answer but i'm going to tell you like it is. right now i think you should wait to have sex. i know so many girls my age who wish they could get their virginity back, and they don't value themselves that much because of their promiscuous behavior when they were younger. even if you might KNOW you are in love and you might KNOW you are going to marry this guy, if he really loves you he will let you wait as long as you want.
don't let your friends trick you into doing something you need to wait for.
as for your name, i think it is awesome and unique, so keep it! when you go to college and meet hundreds of people in the first few days people will remember it, unlike my name which is too common and people forget it.
2007-02-20 22:38:35 · answer #8 · answered by chi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to realise that your ONLY 14 YEARS OLD!!!
You should be having fun, not thinking about kids.....Your boyfriend must be scared......Its going to hurt alot.. and once you have children you have them FOREVER....and how would you both pay for its food an health care??
Thats pretty carzy.....
But good luck anyway, :-D
2007-02-20 22:38:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST, u should juz no dat it x concern anybody that when ure out there on the streets begging 4 leftovers wit a baby on your lap sceaming at the top of its lungs.
NO ONE.
think bout dat............
2007-02-20 22:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by sakura-chan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋