My family's lack of consideration and good manners - any ideas??????? Top points for best answer!!!!!!!!!!!!

Question

My family's lack of consideration and good manners is pushing me over the edge.

I have been depressed for quite a while and sleep is the only thing i enjoy and my family is ruining it for me

When i am sleeping they enter the room with such force , that noise nearly scares me into a heart attack. When in the room, they do whatever they need to do as noisely as possible. Sometimes they even start full blown conversation whilst in room , when i am trying to sleep.

My eldest brother who is a bellend, sometimes comes into the room and starts shouting for no apparent reason.

When finished, they NEVER close the door behind them, this upsets me the most as my bedroom is next to the hallway and the noise and chatter is almost bound to wake me up.

When i am awake, they NEVER knock before entering regardless if i am doing something private. Today i reminded my brother that he should knock before entering but he asked me "why am i being a moody cow?" i have tried talk to them

About, it but nothing works

Also getting to me, is the lack of consideration my mother is showing me. Often when I am talking , she will cut me off and she never pays attention to anything I say, its making me feel worthless

I wish had somewhere else to go, but I don’t.

Its really getting me down, I feel like I’m gonna explode

Any ideas of how i can get my family to show some consideration and good manners when entering my bedroom and also when I communicate with them?????

Top points for best answer, I promise, thanks

I have already tried talking to them. They won't listen to me

Answer 1

You should see a doctor about the depression - that is what is really wrong here. There are some good medications out there for depression - I know, I've taken them..When you are not depressed you won't sleep as much and your family relations will change. Don't live with depression!! Most families don't recognize or understand depression so rarely handle it properly. See a doctor on your own if you have to. These answers that urge you to lash out will just make the situation worse, probably much worse, so don't listen to them.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Maybe you can try to surprise them by giving them the treatment that you desired for yourself...Try not to raise your voice with them in a conversation, knock their doors before entering their rooms, close the door of their rooms when u leave and things like that...I know it might be a bit difficult to start but try to install some will-power in yourself and before u know it you'll be a natural to it...And besides, even water can carved out a stone, it may take some time but it'll work, and good deeds will never be passed so easily if its done repetitively...Trust me, you'll be just fine ;)

Answer 4

Write your parents a letter to tell them how you feel . Do it in the "I" format not the "you" format.

For example, I feel violated when my privacy is not respected.
Rather than , "you are not respecting my privacy.

Be sure to tell them you feel depressed and sometimes so angry you fell like you could explode. They need to understand this is serious.

A letter avoids a confrontation which seems to be resulting in more frustration for you and probably for them too. Put the letter on their bed, or next to a purse or briefcase. Ask them to write back to you.

Read the website about anger listed as a source, it has good ideas about resolving conflict towards the botom of the article.

Answer 5

Well you should call a family meeting and talk about how they need to be more respectful of you. Ask for a lock on ur door that way when u want to be alone u can be. Try talking to ur mom about the cutting you off thing and tell her that she wouldnt like it if u cut her off...just be nice and dont try to TELL them what to do...sit them down and ask for more space...and if that doesnt work...then be a moody cow...

Answer 6

Find a better way to get all your family members together by cooking dinner (if you're a lady) or ordering some food for them. they will all be surprised, then you can start talking over it again and if they are trying to argue with you, just walk out on them. I'm sure they will have a re-think about what they are doing.

Answer 7

#1: Lock your door. #2 Get your butt outta bed and do something productive. #3 Sit down with mom and tell her how you feel..seriously, not in a half-a*** way. #4 Pay attention to what makes you a better person (whatever that may be). I found that if I take care of myself, others fall into place.
BTW: What's a "bellend?"

Answer 8

You'll not change them to be as you wanted them to be, the best is you don't think about it too much. You have to be sure that you are right, but think about them as they don't understand it or nobody told them.
From time to time you have to tell it simply and directly to the person who use to be noisy for example. If any one of your family likes to improve himself he will follow your way one day, but don't wait for it. Remember when you tell a person about something wrong, do it simply and politely

Answer 9

Put a lock on your door and get some ear plugs. Explain to them that if they don't have enough manners to keep the noise down and keep out of your room when uninvited that you will keep them out for good.

Answer 10

Have you thought about TALKING to your parents like an ADULT? If not, try. Parents usually aren't psychotic, and if you approach them in a mature manner I've found you're more apt to get them to be understandable.