So all of you say dump him...how do you convince HIM you mean it, when you're still convincing yourself?

Question

As a first timer--I was surprised at how quickly and insightful your answers were. I really needed to hear it. I could have done without some people thinking Im an idiot--but what one expect when they open themselves up like this. The hard part that I need help with now is convincing him that after all this time, I mean it--we have to be over. He believes (because I have let him) that he will choose when it's over etc..and it wont be because Im supposed to be with him blahblah--I know---sick. But I've let myself hold onto that too for so long--that it is hard to remind myself I dont need him, let alone convince him. He will not let go easily because who would when they have it this easy? I don't want to be superbitch--I really dont--wrong, right, or stupid--I love this guy--but I know I don't need him. Help with the next step--please! Thanks for holding my hand through all this too. Sorry to all of you who think I'm pathetic :(

Answer 1

your man sounds sick and i have dated someone like that. it's hard to do that but just think it's for your future sake. the longer you stay with him, the harder it is to leave him and find another guy who will treat you much better! just think that you may end up with this guy and screw the rest of your life, then you can do it. i have done it and i know you can!

Answer 2

oh yes the hard part is following thru well first of all block his number from your phone to stop him from calling and for yourself too delete him off your myspace and contacts list EVERYTHING if you know hes gonna be somewhere dont go try to avoid being around him for at least a few weeks but if its absolutly nessacry that you do like school or work then do it gracefully as in dont have a knockdown drag out in front of the building or in the cafeteria be polite and try not to let him get under your skin cause he will try he might even get a new g/f just to prove(that hell take anything that walks on two legs) also i know its not fair but dont hang out with mutual friends for a lil while either right now you dont want anything to do with him but when your stronger you can resume your norml lifestyle good luck
p*s* it helps to have a best friend thru all this

Answer 3

I understand how you feel....best you can do is tell yourself any time you start to feel like you need him is that you dont that it needs to be over
don't ever put him in the position of deciding your relationship,it gives him way too much power over you
just tell him i love you but i cant be with you anymore and if he persists in calling etc ignore him block him anything that keeps him from messing with your already confused mind...but if this is what you really want is to end it,then you need to do this
GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 4

the activity of a Christian is to tell others of what the gospel is. What you do with that education is as much as you. God isn't forcing salvation on all people. I, working example, in terms of somebody jointly with your approach, can purely state the gospel. it relatively is as much as God to despite in case you have "eyes to confirm" and respond definitely to that message. I, and different Christians, won't be able to make the blind see. The gospel is a message of salvation; everlasting life via faith purely in Christ. There are no hoops to bounce via; instructions to "try this" and "do no longer do this." you're the two led via the Holy Spirit, or you're no longer. back, God can no longer tension all people to stick to Him. in case you do no longer choose for everlasting life, you will reject everlasting life. we regularly see human beings reject the message on a similar time as bringing accusations against people who gain this, such as you have achieved right here. once you stumble on out too previous due you chosen foolishly, you will haven't any excuse, for it replaced into you who made the alternative. Frankly, I and others are surprised at how evenly human beings reject life, and choose dying. God ought to no longer have given you an much less annoying determination. .