I am 6'1 and a little hefty(but people say I am at a good size for my height-I don't agree) I really like this boy and he is not so big! Does anyone think I have a chance? I mean-I am a kind, sensitive, and caring person, do any of you men focus on whats on the inside, or is it all about the physical features? Please let me know your thoughts-and please be nice with your comments! I am very sensitve! Thanks for the help!!
2007-02-20 13:48:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes big girls can be found attractive but don't let anyone tell you different your size should not make a difference its should be how you feel as a person and if you feel good then that's all that matters don't let anyone tell you different.
2007-02-20 13:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by LuckyLadyL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many guys who like plus sized girls; in fact, they prefer them to thinner ones. I truly think the trend is moving in the direction of larger girls, and I hope this is the case. Anorexia has killed so many young girls only because of the desire to please other people!!
Anyhow -- your personality sounds wonderful, and it is ALL that matters. If this boy does not see what is inside of you, then you don't need him anyway. I know you have probably heard that before, but it is really, truly the truth. If he doesn't see your inner beauty, then find the person that will. That is the person you need to spend your time with. Not someone who sees the outer "you" -- that beauty can change, but the inner beauty that is "you" will not likely change!
I am glad that you are sensitive. That means that your heart is pure, and that you are kind and loving. I hope you don't change!
(If you are 6'1" you need to have some "meat" on your bones!!)
2007-02-20 21:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by luvmelodio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are guys that like tall girls as well as shorter girls, just as there are guys that care about looks more than others, it depends on the guy.
I believe you have a chance enough to ask him what his true feelings are. Some guys may feel a bit intimidated by seeing a taller girl, but it sounds to me like your sensitivity could make that situation less of an issue.
I would suggest talking to him and being honest. It's not easy to do that, (I know because I'm often shy around girls) but it would probably be easier than wondering and worrying about the answer.... You could always print this answer and use it as an ice breaker!
2007-02-20 22:08:43 · answer #3 · answered by Keep it Simple 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a "big" girl also and have never had a problem finding a boyfriend. I have a great personality that attracts people. I know this sounds bad but I only date guys who are on the skinny side and good looking. Don't be ashamed of the way you look because to someone you are beautiful.
2007-02-20 21:57:50 · answer #4 · answered by Twilla97 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i think a "big" girl can be found attractive; kind, sensitive, and caring will go a long way for you in the long run. Skinny is not a turn on to me; shapely and toned is.
2007-02-20 22:01:35 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas H 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
absolutely, when guys get older they finally realize it's who a person really is that's attractive not what they look like, it has a bit to do with it but not a lot. If a beautiful skinny girl is a ***** than guys won't stay with her, but if a girl is still beautiful but healthy looking and can hold an intelagent conversation than the man will stay and that's where you come in.
2007-02-20 22:01:56 · answer #6 · answered by fairy36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do! I mean you are "big", but so are many other women and yet I still see these other women married. If you feel good about your size, then it should be OK. Some men focus on the outer appearances but there are many others who don't. Good luck!
2007-02-20 23:11:43 · answer #7 · answered by yellowscissors 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy with who u are, that's most important. And YES you will definitely have your chance...there are someone out there who wld love to be with u...just be confident in urself n happy. At least u ain't handicap, so there is nothing much to complain abt. For a person to love u, it's for whom u are...that's call love. All the best!
2007-02-20 21:59:59 · answer #8 · answered by DooGie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg... yes?! bigger girls are VERY attractive!! Im currently with a "medium sized girl", whom i love very dearly, been with her for 4 years now, and Im happy to say that she is the most beautiful girl in my life!!
Dont be ashamed bout this, there are guys out there that do like that certain feature, and to us, we just have our own reasons why. Personally, I just believe that they are better people!!
2007-02-20 22:10:02 · answer #9 · answered by midnight3_love4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It totally depends on the guy that you are interested in. He might be looking you inside out or just outlooks.
If you ask me, love and attraction run deeper than the skin level or just outlooks.
2007-02-20 21:56:24 · answer #10 · answered by purplemollies 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋