so my boyfriend has cheated on me, more than once. It was more like 3 times. The first time was wen he was drunk at a party. But we had only been going out for 4 days. So i dont really count that. And the second time was with one of his so called "good friends". And the 3rd was with on of my best friends(his ex from a long time ago). And I always seem to let it go, but then we end up going out again. But he promises me that he wont do it again and was the same for me. I always seem to fall for him all over again. People tell me to let him go and get over him..but i cant. What do I do?
2007-02-20 13:32:28 · 18 answers · asked by snowangel03ak 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He cheated on you ONCE and you still call him "boyfriend???"
No, no no.....
You should have way more pride in yourself, and MUCH more expectations from him!!
If you don't expect more from him, he certainly won't deliver more. He will give you exactly the respect and care that you expect, which, right now, is ZERO. He will not EVER be faithful and devoted to you. Why should he? He has everything that he could want -- girls whenever the desire hits, and YOU waiting for him when he wants you back.
Why would you EVER think so poorly of yourself? It's not a question of how you feel about HIM. It's a question of how you feel about YOURSELF!
2007-02-20 13:38:24 · answer #1 · answered by luvmelodio 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get him drunk, and have the words "cheating bastard" tattooed on his forehead. This way, every time you see him, you'll be reminded of exactly what he is.
The man (and I use the term loosely) is scum, and you should get rid of him. Now! If he is cheating on you, he has no respect for you, and you will never be able to trust him.
Burn your bridges, tell him to go to hell, invest in pepper spray, whatever it takes to make sure you wont take him back. And carry around a picture of the friend he cheated with, so if he tries to talk his way back into your life, you have a reminder that the guy is just lying sack of... well, you get the idea.
Whatever you do, do not continue this destructive relationship. If you keep taking him back, you are doing this to yourself.
2007-02-20 13:47:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well your boy friend sounds like a jerk, and your best friend isn't much of a bestfriend now are they!!
I'm sorry you're going through this, it might hurt when you let him go, but carrying on in a relationship with someone like that will hurt even more in the long run!!
I think you should let him go, you dont need a boyfriend to make you feel loved.
2007-02-20 13:39:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can stay with your boyfriend. But you can't think that it won't happen again. Because he will. Men are creatures of habbit, this in no way excused them, but it's the truth. If you allow him to treat you a certain way he will become used to it. And some men can change, however, you haven't exactly demanded change of him. I wish you all the luck.
2007-02-20 13:55:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know some people see that having ex's as friends is OK, but I don't my girlfriend has all her ex's as friends and I don't trust any of them. Guys know what guys think I just wish they would p*ss off and get their own life. So tell him that if he wants female friends they have to be friends of both of you and friends you can trust. If he still plays up. dump him cause he is using you.
2007-02-20 13:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is the absence of Love. Withuot Love? Why is there an Emotion? You need to see that he didn't care about You? why would you give one Rat's Rear-end, about him? Take a walk. And show him that you're too good for him.
2007-02-20 13:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by Goggles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, are you ready?
You tell him its over for now and ever...
Then you GO OUT.....im talking nightclubs, pubs, bars go out with your mates and play pool, bowling whatever it is that you like...totally fill your life with fun friends and activities...go shopping, get a new hair cut....remove all pictures/letters/any thing from your x AND THROW THEM OUT!!!
Turn your mobile OFF and leave it at home......
Hvae fun meet new people and TRUST me this works!!!
you will be so busy having fun you will have no time to think of him at all........
2007-02-20 13:42:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey.. I kno it will hurt but U SHOULD LEAVE HIM! Ur jus wastin ur precious time with dis guy. If he did it more than 2 times, he will do it again. U know that but u jus dont want to admit it.. U will find someone better, believe me!
2007-02-20 13:43:56 · answer #8 · answered by babebabe_o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Delete anything you have that can have contacts,block s/n's,emails,stop answering his calls. The only reason you go back is because you rationalize your feelings. Do you do it for the feeling of security? if so love yourself first before you let someone trample on you
2007-02-20 13:40:29 · answer #9 · answered by Ellie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for you, you should find you a new boyfriend because YOU should never worry about trusting your boyfriend when it comes to other women. 1 and 2 is enough!!
2007-02-20 13:38:35 · answer #10 · answered by Guess who 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋