Just curious about who is allowing kids at their wedding. My two will be in the wedding, so when my cousin asked me, I told her it was her decision about bringing hers, and reminded her there will be alot of alcohol. She said she had no one else, since the whole family will be there. Anyone else having this dilemma?
2007-02-20 13:31:32 · 14 answers · asked by pchiz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My fiance' has a 2 year old nephew who we wouldn't want to leave out, so I figured it would cause too much drama to ask others to leave their kids at home. Most of the kids invited are very behaved. I'm just hoping some others keep their children behaved. I once saw a toddler eat a wedding cake. Before it was even cut. She just started eating it. Mom watched & laughed.
This kid is coming to my wedding. I hope the 2 years since this event has changed the kid somewhat. Or the mom. Whatever works.
So yeah, I have the dilemma. :)
2007-02-20 13:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by layla983 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, no, I am not having this dilemma, in fact I'm too young to get married, but that's not the point.... It depends on the parent and the people. You mentioned there will be a lot of alcohol. Will she be able to keep an eye on her kids? Does she drink much? etc..
I might suggest taking the kids to wedding and the beginning of the reception, maybe just for the first hour or so, and then have someone she trusts who has not had ANY alcohol, whether that be herself or someone else, to a babysitters or something like that... This way the kids still get to experience the wedding and dance for at least a little while at the reception, but do not have to witness all of the alcohol consumption, etc, when things become not quite so child appropriate.
It also depends on the age of the children.
Hope this helps!
2007-02-20 13:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by Kiara 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
We had almost the same dilemma. My wife is a teacher, she wanted one of her students in the wedding. My cousin was the only one in our family that had a child about the age the would appropriate for a ring bearer. I had to tell her we didn't want her son in the wedding and in addition we were having an adult reception. This didn't go over well with the rest of the family but once the wedding night came my cousin had a blast with us and everything turned out ok. There are other people to watch kids. I am sure your cousin can find someone outside of the family to look after her kids for one night.
2007-02-20 13:40:44 · answer #3 · answered by eagleye9710 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I don't think kids should be at weddings. Alcohol consumption is just one of the reasons they shouldn't be there. The only possible exception to this would be a VERY casual morning wedding. One of the things you have to consider with weddings is that those with kids may not attend without them.
2007-02-20 13:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would absolutely allow children at my wedding, expecially in your case because you have two children of your own that are part of the wedding party. A wedding in my opinion is a family affair and should be shared with the entire family children and all...Congrats! Leave the adult parties for after the wedding, or before.
2007-02-20 16:02:45 · answer #5 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say no kids. At almost every wedding there is always one or few people acting the fool. Let kids see the adults around them at there best not a potential worst. Weddings are adult party's if you bring them they should be taken home after dinner and let the adults do there thing.
2007-02-20 13:42:53 · answer #6 · answered by john 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have 4 kids of our own. We are expecting our family to bring thier kids but I am making it be known in conversation that i wish we could hire a babysitter for our guest kids just so that they know that maybe we really dont want alot of kids there. But for our friends we are filling the rsvp card for them for guest coming..like if they have six kids im sending their rsvp card with 2 guest attending. Dont know what im gonna do when they pick up the phone to call and ask me..but thats what im doing..
2007-02-20 13:51:58 · answer #7 · answered by torrescy21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we allowed kids and included goodie bags so they could stay pre-occupied...we definitely reminded the parents about the open bar...=P it was up to them, but we didn't want them to have to back out just because they couldn't find a sitter. everyone ended up having a great time!
2007-02-20 14:09:56 · answer #8 · answered by blupandah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are going to have the kids... Our nieces and nephews are such a big part of our lives that it was really important to have them there. And with them, we may as well invite the whole crew. So we have a kids menus and treat bags with coloring books and goodies to keep them entertained.
2007-02-20 13:36:40 · answer #9 · answered by NoTurningBackNow 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I only allowed very close family to bring their children because i know how the behave. i didnt want an all out kid fest... kids get bored anyway.
2007-02-20 13:36:50 · answer #10 · answered by Steph C 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋