We were engaged two years ago but broke it off. I wanted him to stop drinking and he would not address the problem, so I called it off. We moved to different cities and are in new relationships. I still think of him and miss him. Is it bad to stay in contact every so often? Could it hurt my current relationship?
2007-02-20 13:31:10 · 7 answers · asked by artsygrl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd say cut the cord. What's the point? "We can be friends"? Why? Are you planning some cute little shopping weekends with him or something? That's what friends do. 1) He lives in another city; 2) He has a new girlfriend who's really NOT going to understand your intimate-but-platonic little "just friends" weekend, and 3) He's a guy; he doesn't do girlie weekend s---.
When you have a crisis, are you going to sob onto his shoulder? That's what partners do--and you have a new one. So does he. How do you think THEY feel every time you just want to "connect" with your ex?
You very wisely called off a relationship that would not work. Now refocus that wisdom on putting a dead relationship behind you and allowing new, better, healthier relationships to blossom.
2007-02-20 13:44:24 · answer #1 · answered by katbyrd41 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
who knows but it is interesting that you miss him after not being with him. I hear this a lot. i am trying to get an ex back and I have been working soooo hard at it that now i just have to let her try to miss me...what else can I do. I wonder if he tried to rekindle and you still pushed him away? If so, you should learn from the experience and know that we men can change over time..and for the better. I tend to think women get into this quick assessment thing and talk to much to their friends. the end result is the "move on" mentality takes on a life of its own. Like any worthwhile investment that pays long term dividends and increases in value, you need to be patient and give the investments (your influence on him) time to work. I don't think it is bad at all to stay in contact esp if neither of you are married yet. who knows what can happen, eh? good luck
2007-02-20 13:40:41 · answer #2 · answered by keepingitgoing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you check your heart. Do you still have feelings for your ex? Are you still getting over him? If not, then tell your current boyfriend that you still have a friendship with your ex. I still have a friendship with mine. My boyfriend doesn't have a problem with it. I call him on a regular basis to tell him how things are going and check up on him. The relationship I had with him didn't work out, but it doesn't mean I need to boot him out of my life for good.
If the guy you are with cannot deal with you having male friends, you may need to re-think him. Explain to him that you do NOT have feelings for him anymore IF and ONLY IF that is the truth. If you still have feelings for your ex, don't call so often. Let yourself get over him.
Amanda
2007-02-20 13:35:30 · answer #3 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I wouldn't think it would hurt your current rilationsip and I don't think there is notthing wrong with staying in contact with and old friend even if you loved that old friend. I mean there isn't a big deal. But hey I am not you new guy so it all deppends on how your boy thinks
2007-02-20 13:36:11 · answer #4 · answered by abeshawiwe!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it shows you have a big heart by talking to your exes, although you've moved on. Talk to him, its not bad.
Make sure it doesnt affect your current one. Usually the exes I see don't talk to each other
2007-02-20 13:35:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i still talk to a lot of my exes
i dont think it's a problem... just as long as you dont have feelings for him
2007-02-20 13:33:31 · answer #6 · answered by berly102001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just saw your name" drama queen"
Do yourselves a favor and move on.
2007-02-20 13:34:41 · answer #7 · answered by Bayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋