.....the urge to cut myself? I have stoped now for 11 Months and now it is getting hard for me with stress and anger and depression, and some other things. I would like some help with things to help myself on not cutting.
2007-02-20 13:27:09 · 9 answers · asked by jen_tike 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Ok, I just went to see my docter. He put me on anti-depressents.
2007-02-21 10:08:36 · update #1
Ok, I just went to see my docter. He put me on anti-depressents. I hope that it helps.
2007-02-21 10:09:37 · update #2
ive been there and its so not fun to deal with. be strong babydoll. cry and hold a teddy bear-i dont care if you are 33. What helps me is a rubberband around my wrist. I pull the rubberband when i feel really bad...sometimes that helps. And crying and music. And writing or talkignt o someone you trust who can help...sometimes friends dont understand and wig out-mine doent understnd what i am going through. but a mentor? someone older? or a friend who has been there. ive been there and if you are ever just needing to talk and dont have a place to go message me. pray? scream at god...scream in general. keep on keeping on. your in my thoughts!
2007-02-20 14:01:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek help from a therapist or psychiatrist. They can help you get to the bottom of the problem to, locate why you have these urges, and help you stop. Stress, depression and anger can crate lots of emotions. A therapist can help you to relieve these problems in a better way. Take care.
2007-02-20 21:33:29 · answer #2 · answered by inquirygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just realize that life does get easier. This is a bad phase you are going through and its h ard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Keep telling yourself that it isnt between you and them... it never was. Its ultimately between you and the higher power. How you treat yourself, is the ultimate revenge. Show the world you can do better than anyone else, show them that you deserve more and will succeed in life. Get through the tough times however you can!
2007-02-20 21:31:44 · answer #3 · answered by julez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have not ever dealt with feeling like that, but I have dealt with anger, depression, frustration. I also have used means of dealing with those things in ways that are self destructive.
First, I say REDIRECT. think of another outlet other than cutting. Mine is running. I started saying that I'ld run until my heart exploded... What happened was that eventually I got in pretty good shape. Now I rely on the endorphins from running to keep me in balance.
For you it might be dancing like a crazy person. For a friend of mine it is swimming. Other people sky dive or do other crazy things that are a bit on the edge, but a lot better than cutting yourself.
Find out what you get out of cutting... what is satisfying about it? There are other physical stimuli that should fill that need. What does it do for your mind? if it is a self abuse/self pity thing, you need to work on changing the way you look at your value.
Think of yourself as #1 for a change. If they (whoever "they" is) don't like it, then they can go flog themselves..
Work on the root causes of the stress and anger and depression and take those head on. I have been taught a lot of tricks that take work. For starters, you have to UN-LEARN what you have been taught about dealing with anger and depression. You can't just suck it up... it doesn't work that way. What you CAN do is a lot of little things until your body and mind LEARN how to be not depressed, and not-angry.
Depression and anger is sort of like a drug. It has that comfortable feeling of a favorite worn out pair of shoes... But that's it! Anger is worn out. It's just not working for you any more. Of course you can't control all situations. I bet that it all feels out of control. But you know what? when people make you angry, that puts them in control of you. Now they can sit back and push your button and watch you put on a self destructive show for them. Well screw them I say. YOU control how you react to a situation. It's tough. I've been there. I'm not very good at it myself yet, but I can work on it... Just let it slide off you whatever it is. each time you deal just a little better with the anger or sadness, it gets easier to deal with it the next time. it takes weeks, months even to notice the change, but pretty soon it dawns on you... you don't feel GREAT, but you are doing OK... it takes a LOT of work on your part, but it pays of....
Counseling helps some people. The groups actually do work, though it doesn't feel like it at the time. every trick you pick up and can apply to your life is another step towards feeling in control again.
Some drugs work for some people. Paxil, Zoloft, etc. I didn't like them, and was much better off without, but it may be worth a try if nothing else is working. They DO have side effects. They are ONLY for a short term fix until you learn to apply the coping tools you learn.
Meditation was recommended to me and I think it is a good start if you are into that. For a christian friend of mine, it was having a simple bible verse to repeat like a mantra that worked to ger her through the worst times...
2007-02-20 21:52:50 · answer #4 · answered by Truth be Told 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go search Yahoo Groups for "cutting" or a similiar word. Join one and ask there. They've walked in your shoes and should know lots of suggestions to help you. The best with it...
And remember, every day you didn't cut, you had a great day ; )
2007-02-20 21:30:31 · answer #5 · answered by American Spirit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at this web sight it might help ya a little.
http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/self.html
2007-02-20 21:36:26 · answer #6 · answered by Adrie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you need Jesus and to find a Psych doctor.
2007-02-20 22:29:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to a counsler or pyshiotrist or someone that you trust and keep sharp things away from your self
2007-02-20 21:30:24 · answer #8 · answered by Alsaqri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a couselor or a pastor.
2007-02-20 21:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by Misty Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋