there is this guy that i've known for 3 years and i like him and i think he likes me back, but anyway, the question is should i go out with him cause i dont really want to ruin a good friendship, cause if we do break-up, then things would get really weird between up and i dont really want to take that chance. but shoudl i go out with him?
2007-02-20 13:22:18 · 29 answers · asked by loveyourself098 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to him and see how he feels. Just be prepared when you talk to him if he says he doesn't "see you that way". Sometimes being friends first can make the best relationships. If it didn't work out, only you and he would decide if "things got weird" between the two of you. I had a similar experience -- he knows my feelings, I know his (he doesn't feel the way I do) and nothing else has changed about the relationship - probably because we know where the other stands and are willing to accept that. I still joke around with him that I'm the one and he just hasn't realized it...he let's me, we laugh about it and well ------ maybe one day he will walk into a wall and realize it. It's worth the chance, as long as you prepare yourself for any adverse reaction he may have in advance. If you do get together, take things slow (even though you've know him for 3 years), respect his space as though you were someone new to him and I'm sure it will work out.
2007-02-20 13:36:17 · answer #1 · answered by babeebluez73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this. Do you value the friendship that you have with him more than you value the chance of dating him? The possiblity of breaking up is there. But, it doesn't mean the friendship is over. I've dated friends and I am still friends with them. It is possible. But, again, what do you value more. What is more important? The friendship staying just like it is, or it is more important to try to have a romantic relationship? Just think about that. There is no wrong answer. You need to choose, but remember, you CAN still be friends afterwards if it doesn't work out. Don't let fear stop you.
Amanda
2007-02-20 13:25:47 · answer #2 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go out with him. Because if you do, then it might be the best thing for you. And if it doesn't work out, well, if it's really a good friendship you two won't feel any different about each other afterwards. You'll be able to say "Yeah, we dated and it didn't work but it's cool, we still have fun hanging out." He should like you for you, and that's pretty much all. And you should feel the same way about him. So don't see it as an ackward thing, see it as an oppertunity.
2007-02-20 13:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is always a VERY difficult question. Should I go out with my friend and take the chance of losing his friendship if we should ever break-up? Or should I stay *just friends* with him.
Well, I say go for it. Give him a chance and if you do break up, oh well, there are other *friends* out there to be made.
If you like him and he likes you, then be together. Have fun. Enjoy life. Enjoy love. Share your hearts.
Cheers
2007-02-20 13:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK i feel your pain genuinely. If you love the friendship don't try the love-ship it very seldom works out unless you are older because believe it or not alot of times the friendship part is taken 2 far. I have a friend who married his best friend and they loved each other for 13 years and all the sudden she decided to go out with others and thought he should understand because they were friends. Good luck I vote no!
2007-02-20 13:29:00 · answer #5 · answered by Joy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there is something which is un answerd in your question. Cause you could just go out and see each other if you are sure that you two could make some time with each other then I guess well I think you could go out with him and have a grate time but if not then you will brake up and things will be the way they are cause you will both be in the safest distance there is. I mean you would not go deep in it untill you are sure. Peace!
2007-02-20 13:27:52 · answer #6 · answered by abeshawiwe!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always take a chance on love!! How mature he both of you are is how things will change between you - i.e. if you are really mature then even if things don't work out romantically, you can still realise the value of your friendship.
2007-02-20 13:26:13 · answer #7 · answered by lanibear55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try it, it just could go the other way and you find out that he is the one you spend your life with. I share your concern that there's nothing that will ruin a good freindship faster than having sex, you'll just have to be very careful in this department. The best marriages though are between people who are truly best freinds, not just shagging partners
2007-02-20 13:42:00 · answer #8 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i've found that some of the very best relationships have started with friendships. Although it is a risk the question is is it a risk worth taking only you can answer that one.
2007-02-20 13:26:25 · answer #9 · answered by Robert C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should go out with him. Most of the time girl/boy friendships end up in love!
2007-02-20 13:26:02 · answer #10 · answered by LindsayP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋