I took part in cheating, i was single at the time. I told my girlfriend this because i felt i could trust her. Now that girl that cheated on her boyfriend is single. Her and i have been hanging out a lot lately and she has made it apparent that i and her could have something. I am going to break up with my girlfriend, not because of this, but because i do not feel the same way about her anymore. Will she tell my secret and possible make my life miserable? or will she know that it is not to be told and will keep her mouth shut?
2007-02-20 13:15:56 · 13 answers · asked by preventalkaline 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are several possibilities depending both on your relationship with your current girlfriend and her state of mind upon breaking up. If you have an amicable break up and both of you have just sort of fallen out of love, you may agree before you break up to respect each other's private talks and wish each other luck in the future. However, if your girlfriend is totally taken by surprise that you have been communicating with another girl and were in the process of replacing her while you were still officially together, she may get really upset and try to make your life miserable by disclosing your secret.
If you want to protect this information from being disclosed, you can do so by making sure that even though you are breaking up with your girlfriend, she feels that she had been a positive part of your life for the time that you two were together and as long as both of you agree to respect each other's private information, and try to break up as maturely as possible under the circumstances.
Remember - what goes around, comes around, and this is most true in relationships as they are very sensitive for people. Make sure that you don't bash your girlfriend after breaking up with her and respect her as much as you possibly can, and she will return the favor. Also, be humble and if you have done something wrong in your current relationship with your girlfriend, own up to it and apologize. She will be much more likely to sympathize!
Other than that, remember to put things into perspective. If the bad past story does come out, don't let it ruin your present life. Take responsibility for whatever you have done wrong and try to be as sincere as possible in the present and future relationships. Whoever you are with will see this and recognize that your past does not define you at the present. Just make sure you never lose the trust of your partner now or in the future or the bite from the past could be worse. Otherwise, it will heal and trust can be regained.
Good luck.
2007-02-20 13:31:39 · answer #1 · answered by Du S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is a classy woman, then no. If she's mad at you, then definitley..... the truth always seems to come out at the worst time.
But with all honesty, be honest with her. Tell her that you just aren't into the relationship anymore. Of course she is going to ask why... (because we all do!) then you need to tell her.
It sounds like you may not be so sure in what you really want, if the girl that you cheated with finds someone better.. she might leave you.. a la what you are about to do.
Either way.. good luck
2007-02-20 13:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by tianicole671 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 03:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um, well, i think she probably would not if yall just broke up... but if you broke up with her and went out with that girl, then i would think that yes, she will probably tell. but, just for the record, if she cheated on her last boyfriend with you, how do you know she will not cheat on you with some else whenever yall are dating?
2007-02-20 13:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by marriedin2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to believe your G/F if she has ever loved you from her heart never do it. My opinion you should not leave her as sincerity in intimate relationship is a must.
2007-02-20 13:21:05 · answer #5 · answered by P S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do it nicely and are still friends with her afterwards she might keep her mouth shut and she might be so devastated that you dumped her that she'll forget about them... :D Be really nice...
2007-02-20 13:21:41 · answer #6 · answered by Islandchic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're screwed. If she doesnt out right tell everyone then she will just hang it over your head and use to to manipulate you later.
2007-02-20 13:28:17 · answer #7 · answered by Steveo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there and more than likely she will especially if the break up was very bad....but hy u will probably do the same thing too...
2007-02-20 13:25:58 · answer #8 · answered by primet21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really depends on your relationship with this girl, how you treated her, and how you fell for another girl (even though you say that wasn't it, it was). it's really impossible to tell w/o knowing her.
2007-02-20 13:19:51 · answer #9 · answered by Love Doctor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even if she does say something, who's gonna care in about 2 months?
2007-02-20 13:21:14 · answer #10 · answered by holyitsacar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋