im catholic and im totally set on waiting for marriage before i loose my virginity. my boyfriend says hes cool with that but i think hes just saying that. he keeps hinting that he wants it, the other night he said... what happens when i get really attracted to you and you wont spend the night with me. and i just said well i know what i want and im going to wait.
but i know he just isnt dating me for my body i know he really likes me. he just wants something im not willing to give yet. so what can i do or say to help him deal with waiting?
2007-02-20 13:10:37 · 21 answers · asked by christine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to lay out the law: this is your body and you want to wait until marriage (it really is totally worth it!). If he's not willing to listen to you and respect your wishes, he isn't worthy of being your boyfriend.
2007-02-20 13:14:28 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you are a good Catholic girl and will wait until you get married before you have sex! If he doesn't understand, just find a nice Catholic boy with the same beliefs as you. Good Luck!!
2007-02-20 21:15:30 · answer #2 · answered by saau2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand your ground girl! As a guy though, he would probably be thinking that your married life was going to be no different than your courtship because you would always have some excuse why you didn't want to play. I don't suggest you do anything except consider this idea.
2007-02-20 21:37:38 · answer #3 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If YOU don't want to do it, then DON'T. It's your body, and your choice to wait. He should respect that.
I had a 6 month rule that lost me A LOT of boyfriends.....My hubby cheerfully waited for the whole time & would have waited longer
2007-02-20 21:19:04 · answer #4 · answered by Catcanscratch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to wait that's fine but don't expect you boyfriends to agree with your decision. Then again, if oral sex is good enough for a president it should be good enough for all of us. That way everyone can be a virgin when they marry.
2007-02-20 21:20:27 · answer #5 · answered by Freddie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lauren, i t hink your choice is awesome. keep your head up and just keep being honest. be true to yourself. boys come and go and if he really loves you, he will wait. You are headed in the right direction. if his talk of sex is making you uncomfortable you need to let him know that. and just talk, things always work out better if you have good communication.
2007-02-20 21:17:16 · answer #6 · answered by amydoss08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your convictions. There's nothing worse in this world than having a man manipulate you, then having him walk away and you realize you fell for his lies. It's not worth it. Stick to your convictions and the right guy will stick with you. Sex is overrated anyway. All that heartbreak for 5 minutes is lame. Don't do it.
2007-02-20 21:14:47 · answer #7 · answered by Neophyte 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just straight up confront him. If he has a problem, he's not the right guy for you. He can suck a dick. If he's cool with it, then he should stop hinting at it. Good luck
2007-02-20 21:13:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd restate where you stand on the matter. You say you are Catholic and you plan on saving yourself until you get married.
If he truly loves you he will stick it out for you. Otherwise, he will leave.
GOOD LUCK!
(and)
More POWER to you!
2007-02-20 21:17:23 · answer #9 · answered by Noodles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can suggest masturbation and you can tell him this is the test of his devotion to you/well that isnt so nice to say.dont expect too much though if it doesnt work find someone more compatible if it works congrats!
2007-02-20 21:15:20 · answer #10 · answered by blank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋