Theres a girl in my class who i have really liked for 2 years. 2 weeks ago i finaly told her how i felt on the internet. And now utterly terrified to talk to her. i really want to but i dont know what i would say to her. Note: im very shy and i would have to walk to her locker and start talking to her. Please help me think of somthing to say to her so i can get her phone number.
2007-02-20 12:58:46 · 7 answers · asked by fenderbronco22 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ask her for her phone number! tell her you're that guy on the Internet but that it was a nice way of letting her know what you've kept tucked inside for two years and you couldn't take it anymore. that will either get her attention or make her want to run out of the building; either way you've moved on.
you really should have told her in person; now it'll be a lot easier to talk to her on line than it is in real life, and you're already shy as it is. have a friend ask you, or one of her friends, if the shyness gets in the way, but get the message out there, even if you have to ask for the digits on line ...
2007-02-20 13:05:04 · answer #1 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need a big dose of testosterone. Don't allow yourself to get nervous. I cant help with that problem, because my cure for shyness comes from several experiences in which I cheated death. Not useful for most people.
Second, this sort of thing has to be personalized. You need to know what she is interested in, what she cares about, what she might like to talk about. Movies, TV, sports, gossip, religion, politics, jokes, fashion, whatever. Come up with a list of 5 or 10 viable topics and that way you have several possibilities, and if one isnt working, you can transition to another.
The other thing to keep in mind is the reason you are talking to her. Are you going to ask her out, or are just doing a little recon? And what is your excuse? Why is she going to think you are talking to her?
Are you friends or complete strangers? If you are friends (to one degree or another) it should be simple. If you arent, you may need a better reason. Something which almost forces you to talk to her. It's just an excuse, so it doesnt have to be great, it just helps to have something other than the potentially awkward reason of "I like you"
And finally, make sure you have an exit strategy, so that you can bow out gracefully if things go sour. A cell phone can be very useful here, but anything like that which appears beyond your power can get you out of an wakward situation without making things worse.
2007-02-20 13:17:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kinda got the same problem but I am a girl that wants a guy instead of a guy that wants a girl. I know it's hard but you have to come out of your shell and talk to her face to face not on the computer. I'm not saying it's bad it's just that you should talk to her face to face first and you will probably get to know her better. It's just one of those things like you know how online relationships don't work out. As for getting her phone number wait until you guys are friends then say " hey you want me to call you tonight or something" You don't really need to say anything fancy trust me! Good Luck!!
2007-02-20 13:09:36 · answer #3 · answered by Loaha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i Tom shy guys are great i love them, mainly because they always turn out to the best friends, did you two talk before? If you did you should be yourself but with confidence, you have it in you it is just buried, there has to be something in your life that gets you pumped up to where you feel more sure about yourself, think about this all girls when they have a crush become giggly and suddenly bash-full! Just do it walk up to her and start a conversation, say hi or whats up and then move on, keep at it soon she will start the conversation for you and then just ask her out
2007-02-20 13:11:49 · answer #4 · answered by Joy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a similar problem man.. the best way i think is to be as straight forward as possible and to just go out and say it. I also found that its a lot easier talking to girls I like if I talk to them offline before online. talking online is a bad habit especially if you're shy offline.
2007-02-20 13:03:20 · answer #5 · answered by Monkey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am a girl and I know that girls like when guys are themselves. Talking to her by her locker is a great idea. When guys like me they normally just start hanging out with me more. Just be yourself and sooner or later you can ask her out!
2007-02-20 13:03:34 · answer #6 · answered by LindsayP 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sack up and ask her for her digits. Or invite her for a night of naked hot tubbing.
2007-02-20 13:08:32 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋