my gfriend and i have been going out for only two months. weve known each other forever. we love each other so we think, but she wont stop the m.j. even though its "only once a week". im a junior and shes a sophomore in hs. do you think she will grow out of this or is it just going to get worse? is there any chance she will change for me perhaps if we are together for longer time or should i just give up now?
2007-02-20 12:48:07 · 14 answers · asked by kyle o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Drugs affect everyone differently. I dont think it s worth the risk. I regret my drug use early in life. If I had to do it over again Id say no.
2007-02-20 13:00:07 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never accept what you know is wrong. She obviously doesn't have respect for what you think. I'd have given her an ultimatum from the beginning but sounds like you are two months past that. Will she grow out of this? Maybe. But are you really going to hang around and wait for something that may never happen and is likely to become worse? My advise is get out while the gettings good. Someday, if she changes, perhaps the two of you can get back providing you don't have a wonderful gf at the time. I'd hate to see you stick around and hold her hand for what may never take place. You have a right to be happy and find a girl that values herself as well as you. YOU can't do anything to change this girl...she has to want to and she has shown you already that she is not ready.
2007-02-20 13:00:34 · answer #2 · answered by Im Listening 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like it, and she won't stop(even if its just "once a week") you should think about leaving and moving on. They don't grow out of it. I have known people that have struggled with that all their lives. It might even affect her later in life when she is trying to have kids. Talk to her about it and defenetly put an end to that situation before it gets out of hand because if you accept it now, before you know it, it will be 2-3 even 4 times a week and then, several times a day.
2007-02-20 12:57:36 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you have decided to live your life drug free and thats great. It is my opinion that your girlfriend will only give up the pot when and if shes ready to. If she quits just because you have bullied her into it, she may resent you and maybe even be sneaky and lie to you about it. It is her life, not yours and she has the right to decide for herself what she does or doesnt do with it. She probably will grow out of this phase. I have to wonder why it bugs you so much. Does it affect your daily life? OR ARE YOU A CONTROL FREAK?
2007-02-20 13:12:38 · answer #4 · answered by girlfriend 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not gonna lie, if you're in highschool....it might seem like it's impotrant, but you've got a LOT of time ahead of you.
Do what you feel like doing. But don't stay in a relationship that makes you uncomfortable, and don't do something that you don't wanna do.
The important thing about life is to have fun!
2007-02-20 12:52:48 · answer #5 · answered by mikejones523 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll grow out of it eventually. She's young let her have some fun. But it will probably get worse before it gets better...
2007-02-20 12:51:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should just make her quit..for you if she doesnt want to do it for her own benefit. Maybe this experience will make you relationship grow stronger...maybe it can destroy... But talking to your loved one works... Sometimes ppl do that for attention or just bc they feel it makes them feel good, when in reality they have someone there that can make them feel good about themselves they just dont realize it... so have an honest deep conversation with her.... it can work
2007-02-20 12:54:38 · answer #7 · answered by rosalinda r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it makes you uncomfortable, and it seems like it does, move on, tell her the reason you have to move is because of the mj. she probably will get worse. and you can do better there are lots of girls that are not into that. good luck.
2007-02-20 12:54:35 · answer #8 · answered by dawnlovesbob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really up to you man... Most people do grow out of it. But there is some that don't
2007-02-20 12:51:17 · answer #9 · answered by importmynded05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on.......you don't need to be involved with that....she's not going to change for you or anyone else, she'll only change for herself....you only have a year left in high school, make the most of it and get yourself prepared for college and beyond.
2007-02-20 12:51:38 · answer #10 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋