What is the psychology behind a young man desiring sex/relationships with an older woman?

Question

I had to take my SUV into the dealership service center this morning to replace a spark plug. I was there from 6:30AM till about 9AM.

While I was there I saw this older woman walk in dressed as if she was a lawyer. She looked to be in her mid 40's. She had on a long coat, a skirt, black pantyhose and these bright White/black/grey high heeled boots that had colorful rhinestones in them. Facially, she was average looking for an older woman. She was sitting there with me waiting for her car to be repaired and I couldn't stop staring at her boots and her legs trying to see under her skirt and catch a glimpse of "somethin".

My car was finished and I left the shop to get money and come back. I came back two hours later and she was still there. I talked to her saying "you're still here"? with a somewhat nihilistic tone. She said "yeah they aren't finished yet". While I was paying the cashier, she called out to me asking if I could go to Dunkin Donuts and get her some food.

I offered quickly to simply take her to Dunkin Donuts and she quickly agreed considering she'd been sitting in that hard chair doing nothing for almost 4 hours.
As I drove her there I started talking with her, first about how SUV's were better than smaller cars for winter, and then about her job. I thought she was a lawyer but, she turned out to be a social worker.
She thanked me for taking her to the store and said "I guess chivalry isn't dead after all". I smiled and was like: don't worry about it.


But, this is just one situation in many where I find myself attracted to older women periodicaly. And let me tell you, it was a strong attraction. My heart started beating faster, my breathing increased by a large amount and my genetalia stiffened. My sense of smell seemed to sharpen so greatly that I couldn't smell anything but her perfume.

All of the cues mentioned in the Sexual Responce cycle were present and suddenly all I could think about was driving the truck into a dark underground parking lot and "blazing her" - which probably woulda taken me less than 2 minutes cause I was so HOT right then. I really started sweating in this 35 degree weather I tell ya.


What is the deal with men becoming "enthralled" with older women? I have a mother but I don't think I have any major Fruedian "mommy issues" besides the fact she is a domineering female - she has a high paying, high profile job.
I'd like to think that a man desiring to inseminate an older woman is simply a sign of sexual attraction RATHER than a subconscious psychological cry for help.

I don't mean to be a troll but I must admit if I didn't find her so sexy, I wouldn't have bothered talking to her at all. If she'd offered "it" to me, I woulda jumped on it and given her HARD, ROUGH, UNADULTERATED 25-YEAR-OLD MAN-NAISE.

Answer 1

i don't think it's odd. if women can be into older men why not vice versa? i am 34, lots of young guys approach me, but then again, i am told that i look 24.

Answer 2

watch the movie the graduate. think about it for a minute logically, and older woman, probably married, naughty, probably a lot more experienced than you, teacher. there are no mommy issues at work here plus you said yourself she was sexy. i dont think age probably played as much into it as you think it did your first reaction was to a hot hot hot woman, then your subconscious kicked in and the "Naught" kicked up your arousal a notch then the fact that she could probably teach you a thing or two kicked in an made it that much more exciting. the only question i have is why didnt you ask her out? older woman at least like to hear younger men tell them they are still attractive. many are very attracted to younger men for the same reasons that we are attracted to them.

Answer 3

Pure raw lust - never a good idea at any time|

For nothing leaves one more empty and cold after the consummation|

The pleasure is intense, but it is an *absolutely cold* pleasure with no human warmth in it|

We were not created to live on husks|


Only spousal sex, where the two truly love each other, gives real fulfillment and enriches the both of them|




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Answer 4

Why does there have to be psychology for men to be attracted to women older then them? Women have been attracted to men older then them for thousands of years and no one analyzes that.

My wife is 15 years older than me and her age was not even a factor in our relationship. We got along wonderfully when dating and we get along even better after four years of marriage.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 5

Dude what do you want us to say. I'm a young guy and I like older chicks too. It's cool for awhile, then you have to accept the fact that if you are not honest and say what you really want from them, they'll hurt u. Hurt u bad bro!

Answer 6

First off older women (older than let's say 28) don't want to play games. They know what they want and go after it. Secondly a woman's libido increases dramatically around her 30th birthday, need I say more?

Answer 7

WHOA--- Sounds like you're already answering your question.

However, would you have perceived her or felt the same if she was just a JANITOR, let's say, who just happened to have enough money get her car fixed.

Answer 8

Pretend she was your grandma next time. Ew!

I heard guys like girls that resemble their moms..Um..

Maybe it's because you want things that you can't have?

Answer 9

Hey do what suits ya...nothing wrong with that...nothing at all...

Answer 10

you wanted to do your mom when you were little