There's a guy that I've known for a little over a month now and sometimes we talk on the phone. Long story short, he's a great guy, sensitive, courteous, respectful,-- just about what I've asked for. Except,--- I'm not really attracted to him or even "attached" to him. There are no sparks that fly. What also bothers me to some extent is our age difference: He's 33, while I'm 19. My mom and my sister both like him and think he's PERFECT but I still feel like something is missing from this whole puzzle.
On the other hand, not many of the guys that are in my age group have asked me out, except a few--- but I wasnt really interested.
Should I just "go for" the "Perfect" guy and see where it takes me? He's repeatedly offered to take me out, and I've repeatedly made excuses.
What should I do?
2007-02-20 12:35:00 · 10 answers · asked by What gives? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
33-19=14 year age gap... Holy Crap... Why would your sister and mother want to hook you up with a pedophile? I can see why you would be attracted to him, but sweetie why isn't he looking at women his own age? (BTW- that's a joke)
As it stands, you're not into him, so that's that. At 19 you probably haven't experienced enough to know what Mr. Perfect is. Maybe he is the perfect person for you, but that feeling you have - in the pit of your stomach - that's your psyche telling you you're not ready to settle down.
2007-02-20 12:44:25 · answer #1 · answered by crisagi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be "perfect" in the eyes of your sister and mother, but if you don't feel a connection to him, then he is not the right guy for you. Trust me - without a "connection" or a "spark", any relationship you have will not last, no matter HOW wonderful the guy may be on paper. You are still young. 19 is young still. There are PLENTY of fish in the sea. Why settle for someone who doesn't curl your toes when you can wait for that special someone who gives you that spark AND looks good on paper?!
2007-02-20 12:40:56 · answer #2 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The guy is "perfect" according to a type of mechanical check-list that you have made|
That is not enough|
Men and women are not merely collections of characteristics|
You need to find the right one in which you will feel the passion of love, in which your feelings will delight in his presence and in the thought of his presence| In that way, your *souls* will have made the connection| Only if your souls make the proper connection can the relationship be happy| No one is ever fulfilled in a relationship with merely a set of ideal abstractions|
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2007-02-20 12:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by Catholic Philosopher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but if you don't feel attraction for him you're probably not going to. First impressions last the longest..
Also, ask yourself this:
Is he "perfect" for YOU, or "perfect" for you mother and sister?
You're 19 for god's sake. Don't feel pressured into going with this guy because your family beleives they know what's better for you than you do.
2007-02-20 12:39:26 · answer #4 · answered by dmlk2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the chemistry is not there, it's not there. Life too short to waste it on someone you're not really into. He's too old for you anyway. Regardless of what your Mom and sister think, you're the one who would be stuck with this man not them. I say ditch him and find someone more to your liking. You're too young to be trapped like that.
2007-02-20 14:48:34 · answer #5 · answered by Radio Diva 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your life man, if you want to have no regrets, go out with him, if you want to be cautious and realize that you're talking to a 33 year old man with more headgames than you can imagine, decline on the date.
2007-02-20 12:43:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go on one date with him and if you still don't feel a connection then tell him you just want to be friends. Just because you are not attached to him does not mean that you can't still be friends.
2007-02-20 12:40:13 · answer #7 · answered by XoLipGlossoX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel something is missing, just ask what is the thing that is missing. Do you think of him when you feel lonely or feel upset when his is not there when you need him?
2007-02-20 12:49:58 · answer #8 · answered by warrax 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it wouldn't hurt to let him take you out for a while. Test those waters.
2007-02-20 12:39:30 · answer #9 · answered by GangGreen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just follow your heart!if you dont want him,than hes not perfect!
2007-02-20 12:39:45 · answer #10 · answered by Sk8er Chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋