Do you believe it is right to ask for money instead of wedding gifts?
2007-02-20 12:28:11 · 7 answers · asked by josiesmom305 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
While tradition dictates that gifts which are selected according to need or desire for the happy couple be given, newer ideas seem to indicate that having a "money tree" or a "dollar dance" for the bride is acceptable.
Many people consider it crass to "ask" for or indicate that you prefer money. If there is a particular reason you want cold hard cash, you might consider just telling the prospective guests the truth.
Don't be surprised if some people consider it in poor taste or tacky to ask for money. Many people are more traditional and want to give a gift that is more personal to the happy couple.
You might check with Emily Post for more information.
2007-02-20 12:41:06 · answer #1 · answered by stonechic 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's rude to ask up front for money. Don't ever put a request for money in an invite. The best way to ask for money indirectly, is to have family, close friends and your bridal party get the word out through casual conversation. Most people will ask someone in your family or wedding party where you are registered. In this opportunity, that other person has all the right to mention that she thinks you need money or would like money.
Depending on where you live in the country, money is actually a more common wedding gift. Here in the northeast, most people give cash at the wedding, and leave the gifts for the engagement parties and bridal showers.
2007-02-20 20:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you really shouldn't ask for anything but if its for a honeymoon there are some travel agents that let you set it up so people can donate money to the cost of the trip and then are given a card saying we gave x amount to your honeymoon fund and this is placed with the same information as where you would register but to out right ask for money would be tacky but some places do let you register for gift cards so that way you can get what you want but again asking for money is really not OK
2007-02-20 20:40:13 · answer #3 · answered by peterpansdate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am having a wedding registry as I think it is rude to ask people for money but I have been to weddings that have. In my opinion there is a right and a wrong way to ask. It's all about how you write it in your invitations. I would have look at as many sample invites as you can that ask for money and pick the most polite one. Some just write that it is a wishing well wedding.
2007-02-20 20:40:14 · answer #4 · answered by biancajh 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You should be blessed that those you invited will share in your wedding day. *IF* someone asks what you want you may tell them you are not registered and have not decided on what all you need.
-->You may tell them "you may get a gift card if you want to, but you really don't have to get anything".
2007-02-20 20:44:33 · answer #5 · answered by jamocha 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't ask for anything.
If guest start asking around to your family or bridal party, have them speak the word. But even then don't ask for cash. Simply spread word that you aren't registered & there really isn't anything on your wish list. Guest will either pick something themselves or perhaps give you money.
But at the end of the day, you cannot ask for anything. Guest are just there to share your day. If they choose to give you anything, the choice is theirs.
2007-02-20 20:33:19 · answer #6 · answered by layla983 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
NO.....you shouldn't be asking for anything except for the invitees to come share the blessing of your marriage and following celebration.
2007-02-20 20:34:43 · answer #7 · answered by abc 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋