ok well this guy...he's my age and every thing but he's so ugly . ((and yes i do know that looks dont matter and its the inside that counts but still..)) ive never talked to the guy and he wants to ask me out..wat do i do?? and his friend who is my friend too said he is desprate!!!!!!!! so..HELP ME!!!!!!!
2007-02-20 12:23:56 · 36 answers · asked by Bree 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off, yes it's what is on the inside that counts but it's that first attraction that makes you want to get to know someone. So, with that said, it's okay to not want to try and find out what makes this guy tick.
Now, what I would suggest regarding this guy is to just be honest but gentle. Tell him that though he's a cool guy, there just is nothing there for you to want to hang onto. It's just wouldn't work. Right girl wrong time. Things like that. Also, solicit your friends' help on this. Your friend should stop this guy from asking you out. Period.
2007-02-20 12:31:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would say find out what your mutual friend has to say about who he is. If he is going to turn into a stalker, you should handle this differently than if he's just a nice guy who is unlucky in the face department.
If you don't want to go out with him, don't be afraid to say no. Believe me, if you aren't going to say yes any time soon, a clear no is better than avoiding the situation, or letting him think he has a chance.
Also, no offense, but grow up. If you are finding yourself unable to handle the fact that the guy is ugly, you should really look inward. If he is a nice guy, I say get to know him (not necessarilly romantically) if only in order to teach yourself that ugly (and even desperate) people are human beings too, and should be treated with respect.
I honestly don't see the problem, unless you are unwilling to simply be honest, or if you are extremely superficial. Either way, now is a good time to grow a little character.
2007-02-20 12:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can be the sweetest guy in the world , but the sad truth, well at least to me is that looks do matter...I feel I would be lowering my expectations if I went out with a really ugly guy....and would make me feel ...I need someone I can feel proud of in all ways and will make me look good. But if looks are not very important go for it, there are all kinds of people in the world, to some looks are not very important.
2007-02-20 12:29:51 · answer #3 · answered by Pinklady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, looks do count.. Whether or not it they should is beside the point. It is human nature to want an attractive mate. An attractive mate can mean a healthy one which in turn means strong off spring. Its the way of life. Studies have shown that babies who have not been subject to what looks good and what doesnt look good have proven that its instinct to find an attractive person the right choice. in other words hide and blow him off.
2007-02-20 12:29:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not at least talk to him? Have you ever noticed how many gorgeous celebs are married to rather unattractive mates? You really can't tell about someone just by their appearance. Maybe he is desperate. Maybe a lot of women judge him by his looks. Maybe someday you'll go to your high school reunion and he'll be married to a bombshell who'll purr about what a fantastic guy he is and how she never knew what happiness was until she met him 15 years ago while you're working on divorce #2 and then you'll kick yourself for not at least talking to him!
2007-02-20 12:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, desperation is HIS problem, not yours. Still, maybe if you talked to him, learned more about him, at least you could be friends. Who knows? But never date someone out of sympathy, even if a friend suggests it. It won't do either of you any good in the long run because both of you will know that it didn't happen because of actual friendship, and you'll both regret it later.
2007-02-20 12:30:28 · answer #6 · answered by knight2001us 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say this "aww, i'm sorry but i'm just not quite ready for a boyfriend yet, i'm so sorry and dont think i dont want to be friends with you, id o, but right now, i just want to be alone, sorry" and he should understand but hes more than just looks you know, if you got a chance to know him and not judge people, maybe you would start to like him. You're really mean, you know that?
2007-02-23 11:53:10 · answer #7 · answered by I'm here to ask and answer! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you guys have never spoke then its not anything serious. Its just being based on your looks. When he asks you out, explain to him nicely that youre not interested but tell him you would like to be friends.
2007-02-20 12:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has never even met you and wants to ask you out he is just asking you out for your looks. So I would say don't do it. On another point, if you're not physically attracted to someone a relationship will never advance. However, it can't hurt to give him a chance.
2007-02-20 12:26:44 · answer #9 · answered by kaitlyn.roberts 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why would you even remotely consider going out with a guy you're not attracted to? are you ugly, do you consider yourself as such or are you lonely, do you need some affection, why would you denigrate yourself by being with someone you're not attracted to. leave him alone and find someone you really want; the mutual friend already told you he's desperate what more do you need to know?
2007-02-20 12:30:20 · answer #10 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋