my mother lives a few miles away from me and i see her all the time and talk to her on the phoned alot.my husband died 2 years ago and for the past 17 months she is always telling me to start dating again. i told her i will when i am ready.she is driving me crazy ! she even tried setting me up on a blind date.i told her i was moving to montana .she said she was going to move in with me when i do. part of the reason why i am moving is to get away from her. im trying to be nice about it but she wont listen to me. what do i do?
2007-02-20 12:21:19 · 10 answers · asked by LINDSAY 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to sit your mother down immediately and let her know in no uncertain terms that she is NOT moving with you, that you need your space, that your life is yours, and you will date again when you are ready. Or not. Let her know that part of the reason for your moving away is because of the pressure she is putting on you. Make it clear that even though you can't stop her from following you, which you hope she won't, she can't stop you from living your life the way you choose. She obviously cares about you, and you need to recognize that and let her know that you appreciate her concern and love, but that you are an adult, not her little girl any longer, and you need your space. Hopefully, she'll get the message and back off. Otherwise, maybe you'll have to make that move surreptitiously, without contact with her until you're settled.
2007-02-20 12:44:55 · answer #1 · answered by blueangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you love her dearly, but she is making you crazy pushing you to date the way she does. Be frank with her about the way she is making you want to avoid her because of these actions and that it is hurting you. She is afraid you will not bear her any grandchildren I bet. Or else she is worried about you growing old all alone without a man around to take care of you. I am just guessing, but I'm a mother too and I don't think she is wanting to make you feel unhappy. Maybe talking with her will change this annoyance and the two of you will be as close as ever before. Good luck!
2007-02-20 12:34:07 · answer #2 · answered by froggsfriend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, this could be a no-brainer difficulty. you have been criminal to go away with out offending every physique for the final six years. What the heck are you nevertheless doing at residing house? I moved out at 17 via fact i could no longer take the crap happening at residing house any extra. Get a job, keep some money, finally end up a place, a small place of abode, a small residing house, although. discover a pal and do the roommate thought. that is no longer that perplexing to come to a decision. till you have some scientific reason at the back of having to stay on your father and mom' residing house at 24, you're able to easily flow out. If there is going to be a subject interior the family individuals via fact of your shifting out, so be it. you could only clarify, i prefer to be on my own, i'm an person. i prefer to act like an person. If there remains a subject, they are going to recover from it. do no longer wreck all ties with the family individuals, you may call your loved ones, flow flow to them, problems with that nature. Now once you're nevertheless at residing house via fact which you're searching for a unfastened experience, i think of you're able to enhance up. Yeah issues are much less demanding in our father and mom residing house, even nonetheless it would not help us improve as human beings.
2016-11-24 21:04:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with her and tell her how you feel. Tell her not to interfere in your life anymore. You ar not a little girl anymore and she has no right to tell you what to do! Tell you still love her, just that you want to sort out your life ALONE.
This is a very difficult problem as you don't want to hurt your mum, just be honest with her, that's what I had to do once with my late mother. Unfortunately she passed away last year and I never had the chance to tell her I loved her. Good Luck!!
2007-02-20 12:30:16 · answer #4 · answered by saau2003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
JUST be brutally honest,she will understand just explain to her how it is that you really feel, I think sometimes parents want their children or THINK that someone HAS to be in our life in order for us to be HAPPY thats not always the case we can be happy without a mate, and a lot more happier without people (like our mother) that nag us about it good luck and hug your mom!!!!!
2007-02-20 12:32:18 · answer #5 · answered by dog hunter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're gonna have to sit down w/ her and explain to her exactly what you have just explained to all of us here on Yahoo Answers. I dont see any other way at this moment. Afterall you cant just up and leave right? Good Luck.
2007-02-20 12:32:29 · answer #6 · answered by Smarty Pants™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her: "Mom, you're a big girl now. I think it's time you flew on your own". Try saying it with your sweetest voice so she doesn't take it too bad. She IS your mom and is annoying because she cares about you...
2007-02-20 12:31:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry for your loss tell her that you are not ready and that you just need time and that you need space from her for a little while just talk to her ok well good luck !!
2007-02-20 12:28:51 · answer #8 · answered by Lexi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be frank w/ her... She's got to stop meddeling in your personal life...
Tell her to find some friends and play some bingo...
Tell her you signed up to eharmony.com and to leave you alone..
2007-02-20 12:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
with a chainsaw.
2007-02-20 12:24:19 · answer #10 · answered by God 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋