my boyfriend went away for almost 2yrs, i was a virgin b4 he left, but now im not, i know that was stupid of me, he loves me and i think i still love him and he is gonna be back by june, what do u think i should do? what do you think will happen if he finds out im not anymore.
2007-02-20 12:14:23 · 19 answers · asked by Tee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't go back, it ain't gonna heal up again, but he won't know unless you tell him.
2007-02-20 12:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you lying to him the whole time telling him you were waiting for him? If not, if you guys were on a "break" while he was gone, then he has no right to get angry, but that doesn't mean he won't.
Now if he was under the impression the whole time that you guys were being monogamous (and I'd sure find out if he was being faithful to you then b/c that's a long time) and he didn't see anyone else, then he's going to be pretty angry.
You could lie to him, but the guilt would most likely naw at you and eventually you'd tell the truth and the longer it was after you guys were back together, the worse it would be.
And finally, if you aren't sure that you love him anymore, you should tell him that and ya'll should take getting back into a full on relationship slowly. 2 years is a long time, even married couples (I know this because I'm an army spouse and they tend to be gone for that long) have a hard time reaclimating to being a "couple" when they've been apart that long.
2007-02-20 12:19:07 · answer #2 · answered by usa_armywife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell him intentionally, but if he asks, i would tell him the truth. If he does end up finding out without you telling him intentionally, just tell him how you really feel. How you think that it was a BIG, gigantic, stupid mistake. I'm sure he'd understand. Also tell him that u missed him and thought that he may not be coming back. Tell him that you were so lonely and thought that maybe you should get on with ur life. So... then you tried and one thing led to another and you lost ur virginity. Also tell him that you couldn't get over him and that you couldn't stop thinking about him. Tell him that you LOVE him and not the other guy. IF he LOOOOOVES you, then i'm sure he'd understand. YOU NEVER KNOW!!! MAYBE HE LOST HIS VIRGINITY!!!! LOL! GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-20 12:20:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps you should play it by ear and see how things goes after all if he has been away for 2 years do you really think he has been celibate all that time - 2 years is a long time and you may not even find that you both have anything in common anymore.
sorry to sound hard but you need to get real with the situation and face that fact that alot can change in 2 years
2007-02-20 12:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no pretend get some fake red food coloring or something that looks like he poped the cheri and put it inside of you when he does you he will think its blood.
hes is cheating on you anyways chickie. i am sorry to say but he is in the navy. make him take a hpv test and stuff. you too. did you were protection?
hpv is very common and you can get it and not see it on your boyfriend or your self. make sure you get the shot now. called guardasil. my husbad gave it to me and he is the sweetest man in the whole world. he is cheating anyways.. if you dont belive me take him to a personal polygraph test its 300 dollarsand they tell the truth. call informaition and ask for perosnal polygraph and thats how i did it and caught my man. so you aint the only one f-----. he is too.
you both will end up with hpv. i am tell you girl you will
2007-02-20 13:03:25 · answer #5 · answered by sophie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that you made a stupid drunken mistake and you lost your virginity to someone while he was away but he was only a rebound because you needed to feel loved !! he will never find out the full truth unless you tell him and if someone does tell him about it he cant say anything because you told him about it jus stick to you sory of what happened and if he loves you then he will believe you !
2007-02-20 12:32:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I sincerely hope you are like a 20 yr old because if you're just another easy, sleezy, Teenage girl you dont know what you've gotten yourself into. You should be glad you're not pregnant and you should get an exam for STDs. I hope you're not too ignorant to know that you cant get your virginity back.
2007-02-20 12:18:31 · answer #7 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honesty is always the best policy. But, he really shouldn't be able to tell whether you are or are not. I could give you a very logical excuse if the issue comes up, but I don't want to offend anyone on yahoo answers.
2007-02-20 12:17:19 · answer #8 · answered by jessiekarma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say nothing.
if he does find out - (altho i dont know HOW) - u tell him that it was silly mistake and ud rather be with him
if u love him, why did u do it? ask urself perhaps u dont love him? is he always away for long?
is he a virgin?
a relationship shud have no secrets
tell him wats on ur mind. talk it out
2007-02-20 12:19:18 · answer #9 · answered by YabbaJabba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sweat it.....he might not be anymore, either. It was a bad choice, though, in any case. What should you do? tell him. be honest. the best way to sever ties in a relationship is to try and hide stuff. Go for it! : )
2007-02-20 12:18:01 · answer #10 · answered by beautyful2god 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why the heck did he leave for two yaers? Tell him that's what he get for leaving and you're not a virgin.
2007-02-20 12:17:15 · answer #11 · answered by Chrishonda Alston 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋