At first my family was totaly against me getting married because I was only 18 when I got engaged. But my fiance and I have been together for 2yrs. this spring and are wanting to get married in the summer of 2008. So we will be together plently long enough, but they still don't want to help. And it's not that they don't like my fiance. They think he's great. It makes me feel just miserable. My mom doesn't want to talk about it or anything. My grandpa (who was my legal guardian growing up), it's not something to even mention with him. He says that it cost too much and that we can't handle it. Jon and I have been living out on our own since June 2006. His parent's on the other hand, are excited.
2007-02-20 12:04:21 · 8 answers · asked by sexsports_fun 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Go on and plan your day. There are plenty of ways you can do this and not spend a bundle. No one said traditions are set in stone see how much his family is willing to help out, given the situation they may be willing to help out a bit more than what the groom's family normally does. Recruit your friends for help they may have talents you are unaware of or maybe a family member who has some skills they might be willing to share at a cheaper rate than if you did it through a business. (flowers, cakes and even pictures can be cut in half this way) I also have heard of companies sponsoring a wedding . I am not sure how that all works but I bet there is info on line about it. Just make sure you don't burn bridges keep your family up to date on your plans who knows maybe they will come around.
2007-02-20 12:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by nancy g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man. I am literally in this same exact situation. Got engaged last May when I was 18 and we are getting married July 28- I will be 19, he'll be 20. And my parents like him but they're totally against us getting married right now, so I'm basically planning the wedding on my own.
My advice to you is just to talk to your mom/female relatives about how much you would appreciate their help and how excited (even if you're totally not, lie) about planning the wedding with them. That at the very least might guilt trip them into wanting to help. I hope things work out for you!
2007-02-20 12:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by kaitlyn.roberts 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well as much as that stinks you can only honor their wishes you might want to tell your mom that you wish she would take part and that it hurts when you think of all the things you will miss doing with her but that you respect her decision and that your fiances mother will be helping you and ask her to go with you to find a dress and buy things when she sees what she will be missing out on she may come around......my question is there a reason that even though they like your fiance they don't want you to get married such as they feel you wont go/finish collage? or that you to have OK jobs but not stable or steady ones? there must be something that makes them not want to share this with you maybe you need to have a family meeting and ask what it is and then if nothing else you will at least know what the problem is and are able to handle it better or even help them to see what your plan is and help them to come around! good luck
2007-02-20 12:18:14 · answer #3 · answered by peterpansdate 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry that you are going thru this. i am sure that you have tried to tell your mom that it is so meaningful to have her help in such an important step.
i think i would try to get some help from his family, since yours is not cooperating.
i would see if you can somehow incorporate your mom and grandpa in the ceremony. see how they feel about that.
do they think if they don't help, that you wont go thru with it?
maybe your mom is just so worried, because, even though it seems like a long time to the two of you, in the general scheme of things, 2 years is not long.
if your grandpa has been your guardian, apparently your mom has some real bad memories of her past relationship, might be the same reason as your grandpa has for being so worried.
i would try to talk to them again, and see how it goes.
i can sure understand how you must feel so sad.
are you the only child? your mom is probably having issues with thinking she will somehow lose you if you marry.
you need to have a real heart to heart talk with her, and tell her how much she means to you, and she will always be the heart of your heart...
good luck sweetie..
2007-02-20 12:18:16 · answer #4 · answered by darlin12009 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Plan your wedding. Do what you can afford. If they choose not to be a part of it, they are the ones missing out. Sadly, you cannot make anyone be involved in your planning or be as excited as you are. Leave the door open for them to join in, but go through with this on your own and hope they eventually come around to want to share your day.
2007-02-20 12:21:26 · answer #5 · answered by layla983 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Go to an easy location that you want to get married at...like Vegas, Atlantic City or the Pocono's for one night. Invite the families, if they don't want to participate so be it. This way you get the marriage and honeymoon in one, there is little added cost to a wedding at one of these locations, the family's not obligated to help but his family who is supportive can attend a joyous event.
2007-02-20 12:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by Cher 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you just have to deal with things as best you can, invite them, ask for their advice, etc. and be happy his family is on side with you. You and your man will be paying for the wedding yourselves, so at least money isn't involved.
2007-02-21 00:34:11 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be glad they wont be there starting troule and getting on your nerves
2007-02-20 13:20:09 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋