There are many things I want to do in my life. Is it too late for a positive relationship should I pursue my own interests first? I have an abusive past and have had disastrous relationships. I want to go back to college and pursue a degree. After all is said and done is a positive healthy meaningful mutual relationship possible? I am only beginning to consider that it may be. Thanks!
2007-02-20 11:53:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Butch, don't give up hope! 51 is so young, especially in this day of modern technology and advanced medical science. My problem is that I see this so easily for others. It is never too late. Today my sister and I were discussing this and she laid out a great scenario for me. Picture this, she said (my sister is the absolute best): She said you are (meaning me) and seated in a small cafe or rec center with a few friends or acquaintances. A stately gentleman of 80 walks in and asks to join us. We agree and he begins to speak. We discuss his many experiences, his thoughts, the things he's learned. I find myself attracted to him and wanting to see him again. And so I do under those same circumstances and a friendship grows. You know, I can see that for most anybody, proving that it really is never too late. I need to practice what I preach. Good luck to you Butch. There is a relationship just waiting for you, and a fulfilling life. Believe it!
2007-02-20 12:03:53 · update #1
P.S. I've already taken 12 months out for myself. Found out who I don't want to be and come to realize who I do want to be. The yellow brick road begins here and now. Thanks so much for your supporting words. Yahoo Answers really does have it goin' on. *smile AND a wink*
2007-02-20 12:07:42 · update #2
Jebbie, I hadn't considered that, actually. I was in tunnel vision, first one then the other. But, you're right. My mind is open, not wide open to let in the riff raff as before, but open enough not to lock out someone positive should that even happen. Thanks.
2007-02-20 12:09:57 · update #3
Go for it never to late for anything unless where 6 ft under .
Anything that you can imagine is possible . Its a big world and there are allot of people looking for you one of them may be your dream come true. You never know until you try
2007-02-20 12:19:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everybody is different, some respond better to the "cold turkey" route and some just need to ease into things. I'm sure you know which type of person you are, so just go with that.
As far as pursuing a relationship, leave that out. Just like in AA, you shouldn't take on any new burdons during the next 12 months. keep that time for yourself. I'd also get "Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren" and give it a skim. It's a great book that will give you a reason to pursue a change of this sort. I'm not an extremely spiritual peron but anyone can find route in that book.
2007-02-20 19:59:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's never to late to pursue want you desire. I believe you should pursue your interest in going back to college first, and maybe who knows you might meet along the way that special person that share your same interest . In college you can meet many people from different walks of life. Wish you all the best in your quest to better yourself
2007-02-20 20:09:24 · answer #3 · answered by Inda 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel where you are coming from, I am similar. My answer to you is a question:: Why does it have to be either relationship or interests first? Why can't it be both/and? Oftentimes, when we do the things that interest us, we find people along the way who share these goals and interests.. and then relationships develop. I say pursue your interests and keep an open mind/heart to who you meet...
2007-02-20 20:04:55 · answer #4 · answered by Jebbie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible, as long as u are willing to do the work. First u must fix yourself though, Do u know who u are ? and what u want to become? Begin to work on your interest and schooling the rest will fall in place. that is as long as u dont loose sight of what u are beninging to set out and accomplish.
2007-02-20 19:59:50 · answer #5 · answered by aaron 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope so because I'm 51 and looking for the same thing and about to give up hope.
2007-02-20 19:58:19 · answer #6 · answered by Butch 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never too late to start living. Get yourself together (physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, spiritually) and the rest will follow. As long as you are living and breathing...it is never too late.
2007-02-20 19:59:04 · answer #7 · answered by stuckondaeastcoast 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it sweety! Today is the first day of the rest of your life! Sorry, wish I could say something really witty, but it just ain't there. :)
2007-02-20 21:38:32 · answer #8 · answered by arum 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah pursue your interests and have fun. be perky and positive...it feels much better than being a dididi :D
2007-02-20 20:02:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there is anybody that can do it, it would be you....All those things have made you strong...Go for it you wont regret it...Good luck ;)
2007-02-20 19:59:02 · answer #10 · answered by The TrutH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋