Everytime i meet a guy he is interested briefly but then never calls me. Why cant i get a boyfriend? I am intelligent and have a good heart. I am funny and have a interesting personality, i am not a clone. I am highly attractive. I am not easy. Im not desperate i wont just be with anyone. Am i doing something wrong????
2007-02-20 11:40:29 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They are pretty high. I dont want to feel like i settled. So many people i know feel like they deserve better,i dont want to end up that way.
2007-02-20 11:46:42 · update #1
I don't know about your standards, but I do believe that no one should just settle for anything. When it is right between you and someone else...there is no settling. It is just plain right. And being with the person who is perfect for you and who loves you completely is so amazing, that it is worth the wait and even worth the discouragement on the way. In the long run you will appreciate that right guy sooooo much!
I think it is not your standards, but maybe the men you are initially attracted to. Sometimes a guy seems like a good match, but once you get to know him, he just isn't. This is becoming apparent when he has that initial interest in you, but then doesn't call again (probably because he is not a serious kind of guy at this time). A guy that can sense you are not there for fun and games is going to let you go. It really is saving you time and some serious grief. Maybe these guys are realizing you are a long term kind of girl, and they are bright enough to not waste your time. Trust me, it is far better to be alone than to get stuck in a relationship with someone who is not right for your for five years or more (happened to me).
The way you describe yourself honestly reminds me of the way I would describe myself. I met lots of guys, but the fact is I wanted to invest my time in a good relationship that was going somewhere. I also wanted to invest it in someone worth investing it in. I wasn't looking for the hottest guy ever, I was just looking for the right guy for me. My fiance and I found each other. He and I click better than anyone I have ever been with. He is truely the one for me. I didn't settle, and I don't think you should either.
I think you just need to continue to enjoy yourself with dating, but do not put yourself in situations where your heart is going to get hurt. Don't step into anything too soon. My one problem was I would often start to care before I really got a chance to know a guy or he know me. I don't know if you are doing that or not, but again...date and date casually. Keep out of anything sticky or remotely close to sticky before you get to know someone well enough to know if you want to really be with them.
My gut feeling is that those guys who lose interest would probaly have lost your interest if you gave it more time anyway. They weren't right for you.
2007-02-20 16:18:29 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe thats the problem, you might be coming off as high maintenance with high standards and most guys are just plain discouraged about that
most guys just want a down to earth kind of girl, and if your standards and expectations are set in the clouds then how down to earth are you?
2007-02-20 11:49:08 · answer #2 · answered by zether 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the question is how high are your standards?
2007-02-20 11:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by Tesla R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no! just wrong guy....im justin.you can IM me... :)
2007-02-20 11:44:18 · answer #4 · answered by who knows 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋