After we broke up my ex said we would still be friends. He would still talk to me and hang out with me and our friends. But then he started to avoid me. It's gotten to the point where I'll walk up to our friends and he'll just turn his back on me. He won't even look at me. He dosn't talk to me at all. He won't go to any of the after school clubs we were both in before either, and won't tell his best friend why he decided to quit. We had a pretty mutual break up, he just didn't want to be with me anymore and I didn't plan on staying in a relationship where I wasn't wanted. I never did anything to hurt him. He has told me he dosn't love me anymore and that he never wants to be with me again over e-mails so I know he dosn't have feelings for me. So why can't he just be my friend? I'm not trying to get him back, but it makes things kind of weird when hes avoiding me and I don't want to lose a friend. Maybe I can fix it if I know why hes being like this. Any ideas?
2007-02-20 11:33:41 · 13 answers · asked by Simple Love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Even though he says he just wanted to be friends is right. Right now he is being torn up inside because he was trying to be friends but it just hurts too much to see you and knowing that he's not your b/f. It's tough to keep ex's as friends. There is a fine line between love and hate. Just be nice and don't rub anything in his face. You said it was a mutual breakup, so doesn't it bother you a little to see him around and just want to grab him a give him a hug and you know you can't. Time will heal the feelings or might even bring you two back together someday. Remember to not burn your bridges when you are this young.
2007-02-20 11:52:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as I've always said, it's easy to say "I love/hate you, etc." over the web/cell phones...but in person, the atmosphere completely changes. But since you've been attempting to approach him in person and he has been constantly giving you the cold shoulder, maybe you did lose him. From this standpoint, he seems a little afraid to face his "fears" in a sense...quitting the afterschool club, not telling his friend why, etc. Maybe he received some outside influence, telling him to completely drop it.
He said he would still talk/hang out with you and your friends...maybe that was sort of a "last will" type of promise thing? And he broke that promise somehow and is avoiding you and is ashamed of doing such a thing? Seems pretty selfish and immature of him and what he's doing now, though...don't try to help something that's already dead.
But give him some time alone, to let him clear his head of everything and whatnot...hanging out with you/your friends might bring back good memories that he just wants to forget right now, since you two broke up. Not exactly the best thing to be doing right after breaking up with someone.
2007-02-20 19:40:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds pretty normal to me. Everyone says that they'll stay friends when they break up but there's always something awkward there for a while after. I think you should just leave him alone for a while and try not to let it get to you, he probably just needs his space from you. Plus you guys shared something together that "Friends" don't have... so he probably needs to get completely over it (even though he says he is).
Don't stress too much, it happens all the time to couples.
2007-02-20 19:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by cm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he does like u but he is hiding it by saying he doesnt. he probably avoids u cus he knows if he looks at u or talks to u he will start to like u againg. this is why he is avoiding u. But if he dosnt wantto be around u its his los cus he miising u so just forget him and get a new friend
2007-02-20 19:39:30 · answer #4 · answered by *Katrina* ;-) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's got a jealous girlfriend now. He's only doing what she wants him to do. Let it go, from the sound of it, he won't have her very long unless he's gotten hen pecked.
2007-02-20 19:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he has recently found a new girlfriend and for whatever reason, he doesn't want you to know, (maybe his new girlfriend is a friend of yours) or maybe the new girlfriend knows he used to date you and doesn't want him around you.
2007-02-20 19:41:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want him as a friend? All ex say they want to be friends it's their cute way of saying I don't want anything to do with you so why keep trying.
2007-02-20 19:41:17 · answer #7 · answered by ang_23el 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask his friends.
Try to talk to him.
Date someone else to show you dont want to get back together.
Host a party for him and his friends.
Also you can try talking to him seeing wats up.
2007-02-20 19:39:37 · answer #8 · answered by jbroedell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should ask him y hes bein such a jerk. he obviously has some problem, and maybe u should try 2 find out wht da heck is goin on in dat mind of his!
2007-02-20 19:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by west coast gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please listen to me. Do not date in h.s. The reason why you can't be around eachother is because you shared something and you can't go back. Dating is for leading to marriage, otherwise it never works out, never.
2007-02-20 19:38:59 · answer #10 · answered by yaabro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋