Im an 18 yr old virgin who DESPERATELY wants to have sex, but Im scared of it actually happening. I like to tease guys, but when it gets down to having sex, I just cant do it. Im scared of his thing being inside of me, even tho im reallly reallly horny =)! What should i do??
2007-02-20 11:30:16 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do it with someone you trust first and foremost. The first time definitely won't be perfect. It's always a little awkward even if the other person knows what they're doing. I first did it with a guy that was pretty experienced, but I still didn't know what the heck I was doing. I was nervous and kinda shakey the whole time, but once you get past the first time it gets so much better. Just keep doin' it again.. and again.. lol It starts to feel pretty darn good and the fear will go away. Have you tried using a dildo or vibrator on yourself just so you know what it kinda feels like?
2007-02-20 11:36:18 · answer #1 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you're afraid to have sex, you're not ready. DO NOT force yourself to have sex because you're desperate. That's not the reason to have sex. Sex is something that is not to be abused. You need to wait until you love someone with all your heart, soul, and mind and make a commitment before taking part in sex. You'll know when you're ready with that special person, but I don't think you're ready. Just becaues others maybe doing it, doesn't mean you need to follow. Be your own person and be independant. I know you must feel left out, but DON'T ..!!! Your virginity is sacred and to be honest, I'm a girl and if a guy told me hes' a virgin, I'd be so happy! Having seconds to me is sick and gross. Believe me, I think a woman would give you a ton of respect if you waited. I know I would. Plus, if you have sex now with no strings attatched, you'll regret it later.... Trust me!!!
2007-02-20 19:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by sugarbear 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of, and if your not ready for sex, then you probably shouldn't have it yet. And as far as being Horny there are other things couples can do until your ready for sex.
Coincidently I'm 20 and still a virgin, because my girlfriend and I decided to wait till marriage so its all in personal choice.
2007-02-20 19:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well i dont know whats so scary about sex it can be a really great thing. If your that scared then just wait until you find the one you love or i hate to say this but have a one night stand see how it goes tell him to take it slow and your worried. I hope you overcome your fear.
2007-02-20 19:39:42 · answer #4 · answered by Alli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't really sound like you are mature enough to be having sex. You should probably wait. And just an FYI, if you continue to be a "tease" you are going to get yourself into a situation that you don't want to be in!
2007-02-20 19:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by Meadow Soprano 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its perfectly normal to be scared and yeah it will hurt depending upon his size. if hes small it wont but if hes big then yeah. get plenty of KY jellie and lube his thing and your up alot then just ease into it it will still hurt but it will make it a heck of alot easier and go faster so you dont have to think about it so much try to take you mind off of it like making out or something and then have him do it when you leaset expect it then you wont be so scared this worked for me and my ex girlfriend try it good luck
2007-02-20 19:35:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will happen when you want it to. Dont rush it. Besides, there are plenty of other ways to lessen that urge of horniness. Figure them out and have fun.
2007-02-20 19:33:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be smart thats a sign from God keep it and ul be glad u did. am 22 and i have only had sex 2wice, and trust me girl i know i got in going on in EVERYWAY. but now i have turned to God no more sex for me till i get married, pray to him for the grace to hold out.
2007-02-20 21:38:49 · answer #8 · answered by uncrowned ruler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you are married. Life can be very difficult if you were to get pregnant before you are ready.
2007-02-20 19:37:21 · answer #9 · answered by BluesHarp6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just chill....youll get over it...its like vegitarians eating meat...they dont like the idea of eating a dead animal but they do sometimes...Unless they are very strickt vegatarians...but youll find the right person too..thats a key factor...
2007-02-20 19:33:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋