Are their any Christians who can help me?

Question

I am a Christian and I have experienced extreme lonliness for about 4 1/2 years. Ever since I graduated high school, i havent had any friends. I know God doesnt want me to live this way. I am sad most of the time, and I am self conscious and have a hard time making friends. Today was really bad , I thought I almost couldnt take the pain of a life void of human contact, please give some good advice.

Thank you and am truly blessed to get the inspiring answers that I have gotten. It really made me feel good. I pray God will bless you all.

Answer 1

You sound depressed. Do you have access to a councilor.

Don't limit your self. The best advice I ever got was from an Indian lady. She helped me to see that many of my problems were due to my upbringing and the way I was taught to view myself and others.

You sound like such a nice person. You have no reason to be self conscious, God never made any mistakes. You are a beautiful child of God. Remember that.

If you are interested in corresponding with someone who found a way to overcome many of the feelings you are describing feel free to email anytime.

If you are uncomfortable emailing a man you don't know, try Pangel a few answers above mine. She is a good soul.

You can do this. I have faith in you.

Love and blessings Don

Answer 2

First of all, as a Christian, you are never alone. God doesn't want you to be lonely. Your problem isn't loneliness, it is shyness. If you conquer that, you will automatically not be lonely any more. It can be hard making new friends and the easiest way to do it is to surround yourself with people. If you go to church, why not join a group at church for your age group? You might also think about getting some counseling to help with your shyness.
Another thing you need to think about is that there are so many others in the same boat that you are in. Try to think of others who also may be lonely or just need someone to help them with THEIR self consciousness and shyness. Concentrate on helping others, and your loneliness will be a thing of the past and you will be a blessing to someone else. There are so many people who need someone. Also, don't limit yourself to others that are just your age. Loneliness is something that effects people of all ages.
Have you thought about taking some college classes? You will be in a great spot to meet others like you did in high school and you will also be improving your life (and finances!). The main thing to remember is to go to places where others are and don't wait for them to come to you. Join groups with similiar interests and work on getting rid of your shyness. Tell the group leader that you are shy and need a little help. God wants you to have a happy, fulfilled life but you must work hard to get there! Stop looking inward and start looking for people you can share your life with!

Answer 3

It can be lonely being a CHristian sometimes because there are so many activities that the world is involved in that we shouldn't be involved in. It makes finding new friends hard. If you are in that in between age, too old for youth group and not as old as the "older" people, like my husband and I, churches don't really have the peer group we are looking for.

First, begin to ask God to help you embrace your alone time. Focus on Him. He is there with you no matter what. Enjoy the time you have to talk to Him, when you don't have any pressures from friends or a spouse to distract you. Ask God to lead you to places where you can make good friends, and then for the courage to talk to people when you get there. If you aren't comfortable in social situations, Christian chat rooms are a great way to meet people without the pressure of being in their presence. THat may help you get over some of your insecuritites.

Answer 4

---I can relate to you when I was in high school, I had what you could call no real friends and that was about 48 years ago. The situation was similar when I was in college, until I became a champion gymnast.--Then I got what you called hang around you friends!

--As a Christian, if you haven't had anyone who is supposed to be a fellow christian, then something is wrong with either the individuals you come in contact with or the religious organization!

--Jesus really focused on what his friends would be like and what indeed they would need to focus on:

(John 15:14-15) "14 YOU are my friends if YOU do what I am commanding YOU. 15 I no longer call YOU slaves, because a slave does not know what his master does. But I have called YOU friends, because all the things I have heard from my Father I have made known to YOU."

--So then the 2 greatest friends we indeed would do best to have are Jehovah God and his beloved Son, Christ Jesus--and this comes from following their words in the Bible!

--My next best friend is my dear wife of 38 years, and she feels the same to who come first, second & third. After that order could indeed come other family, friends in general etc.

Friends like close family can come about by being around ones who follow Christs admonition:

(Luke 8:20-21) "20 However, it was reported to him: "Your mother and your brothers are standing outside wanting to see you." 21 In reply he said to them: "My mother and my brothers are these who hear the word of God and do it.""

--It is important that one should get to the point that friendships with people, can be nice, but are many times an experience of disappointment. So indeed it would be good to be aware that you will be let down at times, ---but never from God or Christ!

Answer 5

Girl, you are not alone. I used to smoke and sell pot. I drank beer, whiskey, and had parties all the time. The point of this being that my house was IT, the place to be. I had so many "friends", that getting time alone with my wife got to be tricky. God delivered me from all of that. I no longer smoke, drink, have parties or sell weed. I live for God, and strive to keep Him in my life.
Guess how many visitors a week come to my house now? ZERO ! That includes members of my own family. You know what? It's worth it. You keep on living for God. He will give you new friends. The people in your church will love you even more than your old friends did. They will also be better friends, because their love will be real, and God will be involved.

God wants you to have joy in worshipping Him. Get to know the folks in your church a little better. Get involved with the women's activities, maybe some missions, and I think before long, it will get to where your life will be so full, and you will be so busy, you won't have time to feel lonely.

Love in Christ, and peace be with you.

Answer 6

you are young...and, it must be very difficult to restrain yourself....with all the mtv music, and the way the young people accept sin so easily today...-you are special-

when you got saved, God never promised that you woulndt be lonley, he promised never to leave you or forsake you.

lonliness, my dear is a human condition, I am more then twice your age, and, I have been lonely all my life...the only true time I find life happy is when i am with the lord in prayer...

just because you dont have friends doesnt mean anything...it means probably that God is keeping the bad friends who could have a bad influence on you away from you...perhaps you need to go to the christian youth groups at your local church..and, trust the the lord loves you and has..chosen you...in such...a time as this...

may god bless...you...and, read pslams 91

Answer 7

I don't know if you have heard this before, and I want to help you. I have been down that road and it seems that you are carrying a burden that no one should have to bear. I found a Bible Believing Church where they believe in repentence, baptism by immersion in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and the infilling of the Holy Ghost with the evidence of speaking in an unknown language. St. John 3:5, Acts 2:38, Acts 2:4, St. Mark 16:17. This is guaranteed to work. God Bless you!!

Answer 8

Many churches have social groups for teens, young adults, and other age groups. Many also offer singles' dances on a regular basis. These groups and parties are usually non-denominational and are intended for Christians to have a way to meet one another and make new friends without resorting to the bar scene. You don't usually have to be a member of the church to participate, so check the bulletins in your local paper. There will be a column on a page somewhere inside that lists all the social gatherings that churches are having soon.

You might also consider joining a book club, sewing circle, artists' group, cooking class or some other social organization. These are also listed in the paper, but the page will depend on how your local paper is organized.

Answer 9

HI, I'm sorry that you are going through a hard time.

I had similar experiences growing up. I learned that when I focused on myself I would get depressed, but if I focused on Christ and Others, I would feel great.

Try and enter the rest that only God can provide, he has a plan and purpose for your life.

Jeremiah 29:11
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the lord, “plans to prosper you
and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Psalm 18:32
It is God who arms me with Strength and makes my way perfect

Psalm 16:8
I have set the Lord always before me. Because he is at my right hand, I will
not be shaken.

John 14:27
Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give
I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.

Romans 8:28
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to
them who are the called according to his purpose.

Isaiah 40:31
But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; They shall mount
up with wings as Eagles; They shall run and not be weary; They shall walk and not Faint

Matthew 6:33
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.

1 Peter 5:7
Cast all your burdens on him because he cares for you.

Psalm 145:14
The Lord upholds all those who fall and lifts up all who are bowed down.

Romans 15:13
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, sothat you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

Keep your chin up ok.

Answer 10

Time to seek friends, go to your local library, park, coffee shop and start by saying, HI. You'de be surprised how quick you meet people. Or you could volunteer at your local retirement home, or hospital. You should never feel alone. Seeing your doctor might not be a bad idea either. And No with God in your life YOU ARE NEVER ALONE> God Bless.