I hear people say, it is to say goodbye. But your not really saying goodbye. Your just doing a ritual around a dead body. I hate funerals and I dont want to see anyone I love dead. I would rather remember them being alive, instead of lifeless with a claylike appearance. If it wouldn't upset the living, i would never go. Is that weird?
2007-02-20 11:11:41 · 13 answers · asked by Tracy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Some people need that closure that a funeral gives. My mother died about a year ago and at her wake, in the absence of a minister, I had to preach for the first time, because I wanted to keep everyone's spirits lifted. I reminded them of what a good person my mother was, how she was kind to everyone, how no one had a bad word to say about her. I reminded them about the hand of God in my mother's life. I was so proud how people responded. We realized that in her humility and kindness she was a true star to everyone.
Although her body lay in that casket, her spirit was with God. In my mind and heart I knew she was in a good place and I had peace. I just missed her, like everyone else and the funeral gave me a chance to say not good-bye, but see you later.
I take it that a funeral is an honorable thing, and a necessary moment of uneasiness. When you honor your loved ones who have died, try not to be solemn, but joyful. Joyful for the life that they shared with you, joyful for their love, joyful that God has a good plan for them and you. A funeral is a going-home party for a believer and you can celebrate in the joy of God. We shall all pass away, but in one instant, there will be the greatest hello, the greatest family re-union, the greatest gathering of friends ever known, as we all are together again on the other side of Life. Amen and Peace.
2007-02-20 11:31:25 · answer #1 · answered by ignoramus_the_great 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
considering the fact which you have conventional that your grandfather's time became into short, i anticipate which you have long previous to bypass to him in the past he died. He in all probability did no longer look to sturdy once you have been there. The funeral group has made your grandpa look as sturdy as they might. he will look comfortable and prefer he's asleep. there is often some ask your self once you notice somebody in a casket, yet you're able to comprehend that they are actually not in discomfort or suffering. Seeing a individual in a casket can supply the ideal attractiveness that this individual has left you bodily, yet will continually be with you on your thoughts. My condolences to you and your loved ones. bear in concepts, that is all top to teach emotion and cry at a funeral. it incredibly is the placement to do it, as others around you're there for help, and so which you would be able to help them.
2016-11-24 20:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not weird how you feel, but funerals are not there for the dead but for the living. You could call it a ritual of closure. Any psychologist will tell you that we humans need to express sadness especially after the death of a loved one. All external shows of grief are part of the healing process and I for one would not want to be deprived of it.
2007-02-20 11:34:24 · answer #3 · answered by Imogen Sue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a person who NEEDS funerals. I've lost two friends at very young ages, and I wanted to see their bodies to believe it was true. I knew I would have to accept it sooner or later, but seeing them finalized it for me. I don't think you're weird. I think everyone handles death differently. Avoid funerals you know will have an open casket, if you can. Sometimes it's impossible to not go (like when your grandparent dies). Make sure your family knows you'd like to have a closed casket at your funeral, or request to be donated to science or something like that. Then you know no one will have to go through a ritual at your funeral.
2007-02-20 11:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by teeney1116 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Besides the obvious religious services it is a chance for friends and relatives etc to comfort the loved loves and it helps in a form of closure. I don't know of any who like to go though it is a step in the grieving process. I understand how you feel I would rather not go myself though we can take comfort from other friends and family in knowing we are not alone in this sorrowful time. Actually it's a natural process we're all going to go sometimes and according to most beliefs people are going to a better place and we go to support the loved ones.
2007-02-20 11:21:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People like to have a chance to say good-bye and to honor the dead. Funerals are for the living. I think it's odd that you don't want to do that. but it's not up to me.
2007-02-20 11:13:50 · answer #6 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Beats me. When my grandpa died we didn't have a funeral or anything like that. We just creamated him (by his orders) and dumped the ashes in the Colorado River. I didn't even look at his dead body and I'm really glad that I didn't have to.
2007-02-20 11:34:48 · answer #7 · answered by Dysthymia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its jus to pay ur last respects to them or say gud bye..
Ur not weird cos i hate funerals too, my thoughts are like urs...Why see them wen they are lifeless, instead remember them wen they were alive..I rather have the last image of them wen they wer alive not wen they are in a casket..
2007-02-20 11:18:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Funerals are more of a celebration of ones life than anything else. Yes it is tough to say goodbye to someone you love, but you can see them again, if you are a child of God. Everyone is going to die, no matter how difficult it is to talk about.
2007-02-20 11:15:26 · answer #9 · answered by Kevin W 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
My thoughts exactly! Wakes are the most barbaric of all. I go to them out of respect for the deceased person's family, but never go up to the casket.
2007-02-20 11:21:07 · answer #10 · answered by Rapunzel XVIII 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋