2007-02-20 11:03:33 · 13 answers · asked by dannett1230 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
he is almost 14 months old and he does sleep in his own crib or on a matress next to my bed
2007-02-20 11:21:54 · update #1
It just takes time. I wasn't comfortable with him in his own room at first - I still peek in on him periodically to be sure he's okay at night and he's 6. I used a monitor until my son had a horrible nightmare at 10 1/2 months. I kept rocking him and couldn't console him so I brought him in with me. I couldn't get him back into his room and was actually more comfortable having him close-by. That's the plus side - the down side is that he didn't move into his own room until he was 4. I still worry about him - that's called being a mom. You just have to get the fear under control.
Good luck!
2007-02-20 11:46:10 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, only by doing it...each night that goes by, you will become a little more confortable with it.
My wife had the sound monitors, as well as one that went under the matress to let us know if there was no movement - like the were out of the crib or stopped breathing. And, made me install window stops on the windows so they could not be open.
However, our kids NEVER slept in our bed. It was just not a habit either of us wanted to try to break later...and we have a friend with 3 kids. Her, her husband and all 3 kids sleep in a queen size bed...we learned from that.
But, at the risk of sounding like a jerk - you really should examine LOGICALLY what it is you think is going to happen to them. Do you think they will escape, get kidnapped, fall victim to SIDS? What is your fear? Do you really think that those things are any more likely to happen 20 feet away in a different room? Do you think they are as likely or less likely? If your fear is SIDS, Do you think because you are sleeping beside them, you will have the power to stop the process, or that you will even know about it in your sleep? I think examining what your fear is, and using your brain to analyze it, rather than emotional reaction will help you get over it too.
2007-02-20 11:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a perfectly natural feeling. Went through it with both my kids. I remember the first night my son slept through the night. I woke up in the morning and realized that I had slept all night without getting up and ran in to see if he was ok. He was sleeping peacefully. It was especially hard with my daughter who had sleep apnea and had to sleep with a machine which would sound an alarm if she stopped breathing. Always worried that the machine would stop working. Baby monitors help so you can hear in their room. It gets better, and there even comes a time when you can't wait for them to go to bed and you get some quiet time, but as a parent, you never stop worrying about your children.
2007-02-20 11:50:24 · answer #3 · answered by Deus Luminarium 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well we need to know how old he is. There are many child specialists that condone keeping the child in the same room with you for a few years to age 2 or 3, and there is the opposite. Our children slept with us until we felt they could get up on their own to the bathroom and back, and also we had a fire safety drill we made sure we all could do and meet at the same place outside.
2007-02-20 11:14:10 · answer #4 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried using a baby monitor? You can even hear them breathing with some of the ones now. Let him take naps in his room first to get you used to it. Sit in the room the first few times if you need to, then try to shorten the time you spend in there. It should help to reassure you.
2007-02-20 11:11:29 · answer #5 · answered by cerah_micah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't until you let him sleep in his room. He will be fine. You are likely a first time mom and all of us felt like that to start with. My kids are 20 months and 7 months and they both now sleep in their own room, in their own beds and its wonderful. I find they sleep better because my snoring or movements don't wake them up, just as their movements, dreamy cries and such don't wake me up. We are all much happy and better rested!
Good Luck
2007-02-20 11:09:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
by thinking of the fact that something could happen to him even if he sleeps in your room.
However I see nothing with having your kid in your room until he is old enough to have his own room. We've had all 3 of our kids in our room until they were about 3 yrs old or so.
Now we have a 6 yr old and a 4 yr old happily sharing a room and our 2 yr old has her toddler bed in our bedroom.
2007-02-20 11:12:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
All parents go through this. completely natural, by the time you get to the second or third child it does get a little easier! lol
I kept our son in a moses basket until his head was at one end and his feet touched the other!!
The LONGER YOU LEAVE IT THE WORSE IT WILL BE!!
2007-02-20 11:07:57 · answer #8 · answered by KANGA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same worries with my daughter. I went out and bought a video monitor so when I hear her stir or fuss I can see what is going on.
2007-02-20 11:10:01 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle W 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, my gosh, get over it. Put him in his own room tonight. Nothing bad will happen to him!
2007-02-20 11:36:51 · answer #10 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋