My boyfriend and I had a fight the other night which lead to some pretty rough text messages. Anyways to make a long story short...he ended up at his exs house for 3 days. It was all over the stupidest mess. Bc I had ran to the store when he came by my house and I had told him that i would be home all night. He did the one thing that I asked him not to EVER do and that is tell me. If you find someone else..good for you go for it just dont tell me. Just be like hey i dont want to be with you anymore and leave it at that. He proceeds to throw it in my face. Now that we are back together, I keep asking myself if he will do it again. Just because things dont go the way he wants them to go, will he run back to her. He knows that he messed up and that he over reacted. But I need to know if this is gonna happen again. I have always said once a cheater always a cheater but in this case i am questioning it. He says that I pushed him to it. So is this something that I should keep worrying about?
2007-02-20 10:49:33 · 7 answers · asked by Simply Complicated 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's blaming you for something you didn't do and you're falling for it!! it's called blaming the victim! You didn't MAKE him do anything... but he seems to have convinced you that you did... From what I know about the situation, I would guess that every time you guys have an argument, there's a chance he'll go back to her... and if not, you'll always be thinking that he will... is it worth the stress?
I wouldn't stay with him, but that's just based on what I know.
2007-02-20 10:58:32 · answer #1 · answered by F.J. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
repeat offender, huh. An argument is never a reason to spend 3 days with another woman...one should not open a new chapter until the old one is closed. He seems to have a place with her so he knows he can always go there if you "mess up". he seems to like you more but its ammo to throw in your face when you upset him. The better question is should you deal with that. To answer this question there is no way for you to know for sure if he will do that to you again. so evaluate the magnitude of pain you dealt with from knowing that and remove yourself if it was too much to bear. if you handle it then go ahead and cross the bridge if you get to it. if not, carry on and take him for his word.
2007-02-20 18:59:21 · answer #2 · answered by justin_leary 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL DON'T TAKE THE BLAME FOR SOMETHING HE DID THEIR ISN'T NO EXCUSE FOR HIM RUNNY BACK TO HER BECAUSE YOU MADE HIM MAD HE IS TRYING TO MAKE YOU FEEL GUILTY,DON'T FALL FOR THAT I FEEL THE NEXT TIME YOU GET INTO IT HE'S GOING HER WAY IF YOU FEEL DEEP IN YOUR HEART THAT YOU FEEL THIS IS GOING TO HAPPEN IT WILL, MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE YOU DON'T NEED THE BULL **** YOU ARE BIGGER AND BETTER THEN THAT THERE ARE A LOT OF GUYS OUT THERE,YOU WILL COME ACROSS A GOOD ONE TRUST ME O.K
2007-02-20 19:00:29 · answer #3 · answered by applepiekiwi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All he is doing is turning it around to make you feel like it is your fault...men do that...but...he didn't do anything he did not want to do..3 days...took him 3 days with her to decide you made him do it. Please...kick him to the curb and find someone who will respect you and care about you. You deserve better. Good Luck
2007-02-20 18:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by mamaonetexasone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES,him saying you pushed him to do it is like pre-meditated murder..he already had the thought in his mind,he just needed you to do something so he put the thought into action.i say you deserve better.any man that lays a guilt trip on you for his cheating is not the man for you.
2007-02-20 18:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by walker4907 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to make you feel bad about what he has done. Don't take a guilt trip, no one forced him to cheat on you. I'm sure he will do it again, and he will blame it on you.
2007-02-20 18:56:57 · answer #6 · answered by doglady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
did you drive him over to her house and push him into bed with her? NO.
get rid of him. he's just trying to blame you for his cheating.
if he thinks that you are a pushover, he will do it again and again.
2007-02-20 18:53:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋