I want to have my dog in my wedding ceremony
He's a small dog,5 years old well behaved,and I take him everwhere and dress him everyday ( yes Im that type, hes like my kid). it's been pretty much a given that he would be in the ceremony and go down the isle with my 10yr old ringbearer nephew but now that we are getting closer to the wedding my future husband doesn't want him in the wedding. Ive always pictured my wedding with my dog in it. I have no idea what to do now.
2007-02-20 10:44:18 · 40 answers · asked by Weeeee... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Tell him how much it means to you and make sure he understands how much you care for your dog - if he's marrying you he has to accept things like that! I know what you mean, my dog is like a kid to me too!
2007-02-20 10:47:33 · answer #1 · answered by margarita 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How lovely of you to want to include your dog. It's a great idea if he could go down the aisle with your ringbearer. However, if your fiance is that much opposed to it, perhaps you can compromise? Maybe have some photos done after the ceremony with the dog included. Some of the nicest, most heartwarming wedding photos I have seen were ones where the dog was posing with the newlyweds. Don't dress him in a tux though as that can be tacky. Just a bow tie would be cute though. He is an important part of the family and should somehow be included.
2007-02-20 12:41:07 · answer #2 · answered by abbacat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a huge dog lover too but, I can understand your future husbands wishes. Even the best trained animal can be a hassle on a wedding day. I would suggest talking it over with your husband perhaps you can have your dog in some of the pictures and avoid the ceremony. This will still be something for you to remember and be very special for you. I think you will find that your pup will start taking more of the back seat in the next little while as your new family life begins this may be a good time to start the separation for you. It will also give you less stress worrying about your dog on the big day and the dog less stress. A dog in a wedding party gets A LOT of attention maybe too much for your dog to handle just think of everyone he knows all over him at once(especially the kids) Keep your day for you and just do the pictures you will like it more later anyway. If you hubby doesn't want to do pics with the dog you could do them before the service like when you are getting ready etc. It would be very cute! One of my fave pics of me and my 1st dog(childhood dog that passed) is of me dressed up for my junior high prom and he shook a paw before I left.
2007-02-20 10:54:48 · answer #3 · answered by emmandal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to work this out with your fiance. After all, it's YOUR wedding, too. What are your fiance's objections? Perhaps they could be worked around. For example, maybe your fiance is worried that the dog won't behave. What if you have him walk down the aisle with your ringbearer, as you said, and then someone else can take the dog off to the side to make sure he behaves? That's a solution to your husband's (exampled) worry.
It doesn't bode well for one person to say, "It's MY wedding and I want it like *this*!" because there are two of you who will be in the marriage. Time to learn the art of compromise!
2007-02-20 10:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by Kathy P-W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, I would like to say that the wedding ceremony consists of the two parties that are to become one, meaning, its not only YOUR ceremony. I said this because if you look over what you've said, you only mention 'My Wedding' (i.e., my wedding ceremony and Ive always pictured my wedding). You and your fiance' need to communicate the reason(s) why or why not the pet should be in the wedding.
All women have general ideas to how they want "their" big day to be, but when its time to add the second main character to the equation-he has his ideas as well-compromising is the key!
2007-02-20 12:27:23 · answer #5 · answered by aceisthelady 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My cousin Miriam did this, and frankly most of the wedding guests thought she was loopy (and they were family). She had the wedding at her parent's house, and the 2 dogs walked down the "aisle" just like the bridesmaids did. You'd have to check with different facilities though, since it's likely many would not allow pets on the premises, so you may be very limited re the venue.
2016-05-24 00:02:03 · answer #6 · answered by Vernieke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello dog loving friend. I, too, let this cross my mind for about...1 second. I really did. But I will have to say no. We made a comprimise. We are having a destination wedding, and the dogs WILL go to the hotel, so I can have them during the excitment. A friend that will give me pure, quiet companionship. You can always pay a visit when you need to. I agree that you need your dogs, although, not for the ceremony. Congratulations! Best of luck.
2007-02-20 13:41:44 · answer #7 · answered by ********** 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you are coming from. I wanted my dog in my wedding. (she passed away at age 5 one year before the wedding) But it is your fiance's wedding too and he should have some say. Maybe if the pooch can not be a member of the wedding he can be in the photos. That way he is still a part of a special day.
2007-02-20 12:40:43 · answer #8 · answered by nancy g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i wanted my dog in the wedding too but my fiancee said its a no go. I guess thats part of getting married is compromising.
He did make a good point, who are we going to ask to keep an eye on the dog to make sure they dont run away, damage the site etc. Its unfair to ask a family member or firend that is suppose to be able to enjoy the wedding.
2007-02-20 10:56:38 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your dog will need an attendant. An adult who is familiar with your dog. I would not have him walk with the 10 y/o/. I would have his own bridesmaid or groomsman to attend to him the entire ceremony and reception. It might be best to return him home on your way to the reception if it is separate from the wedding.
I had an idea. Maybe you could hire a person who works at the vet and knows him to be his animal handler. Then you might get them to board him after the ceremony.
2007-02-20 10:51:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you've been telling your fiance you want your dog in the party all this time, and all of the sudden he backs out of that decision, I'd inquire as to WHY he does not want your dog in the wedding party.
Now if this is something you brought up to him at the last minute, I could see his not wanting the dog in the party, but I'd still find out why.
Ask him why he doesn't want your dog in the wedding and update the details :)
2007-02-20 12:14:49 · answer #11 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋