Recently I learned that my ex-boyfriend cheated on me while we were still together, now he is with the girl whom he cheated on me with. I tell my friends I'm over it, but deep down I'm not. He says he still loves me, and I still love him, but for some reason there is a wall that neither of us can break, and we can't get back together. What do I tell my friends, and what do I tell him, without lookin like a phsyco ex?
2007-02-20 10:34:46 · 19 answers · asked by Abbygayle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell them you tried, it didn't work and now it's time for both of you to move on.
You will forgive him, but probably never forget, and that would always be between you
2007-02-20 10:37:53 · answer #1 · answered by Mystee_Rain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you tell anyone what you've just stated here, there is no way they should consider you a phsyco ex, or anything bad. You're a human, you have pride in yourself as a person, and you have feelings as a person. All of these things are normal. I would only tell the one(s) that is important to you, though.
2007-02-20 10:38:57 · answer #2 · answered by merlin_steele 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to tell him how much he hurt you, and because he did what he did you have lost all your trust in him. If he wants to get back together, he's going to have to work on gaining back your trust.
As for your friends, they will want to be there for you to make you feel better, but should you and your ex mend fences, your friends may not let go of what he did. It's because they care, but they can make the situation worse. This is what I have found, but your situation may be different. If you need to vent, try writing in a notebook. Once you've got your feelings out burn it. That way you've said what you need to say and possibly get closure.
I hope this helps. Good luck to you!
2007-02-20 10:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by Legs0891 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to tell your friends anything it's not any of their business this is between you and him...I think you should let it go and in time things will get easier. He's still with the girl he cheated on you with read between the line. The guy is a loser and isn't worth the heart ache and pain. Good luck
2007-02-20 10:40:01 · answer #4 · answered by MrS.WilSoN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even consider getting back with someone who hurt you that much? Now he's talking about being in love with you but he's still with the other girl.
You don't have to tell your friends anything. This can be something that you keep to yourself. Hope you feel better.
2007-02-20 10:39:47 · answer #5 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated on you thank your lucky stars and move on. He's obviously not trustworthy and has another agenda. There are plenty of fish in the sea, hopefully you find one next time that's not such a putz. Stop lying and tell the truth. I'm sure they can figure it out anyhow. Give yourself time to grieve and then move on, beleive me you do NOT want this sorry excuse for a "Man" back. Move on girl!!!
2007-02-20 10:40:43 · answer #6 · answered by dixi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hedoesnt really want you back so as hard as it is forget him and move on with your life with someone else. As he cheated you would not be able to trust him now anyway no matter what he said. Don't let the past keep on hurting you. Make a new future for yourself away from him.
2007-02-20 10:38:08 · answer #7 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u 2 will always have a special bond but its over for now as he wasnt truthful he aint ready he is playing the field men hate being tied down its scary when they havent sowed all their seeds.. women nuture the seed of life were emotional they are physical. give it time go on and keep silent its ok to love him still & cry and vent etc and want to have some sort of freindship with him at least friends.. but remember he bit you and lied.. so.. heads up who needs this..ya have a long way to go and many things to go thru.. its life. it sux sometimes but his loss.. wait to you find a handsome hunk and let him see ya too.. he had a good thing he blew it hope for him it was worth it as i bet anything a guy can do that to you he will do it to her too.. sounds sad but dont invest any more thoughts time life emotions to him .. you aint nuts.. its ok for u2 to be ok friends.. but dont cross the line of past that
2007-02-20 10:42:21 · answer #8 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't get back together with him. once a cheater always a cheater. he will just hurt you again. its a good thing the walls their. what would you do if this happened to one of your friends?would you tell them to get back together with a cheater? and since he cheated that means hes a lier too. would you let yourself or a friend fall into that trap?
2007-02-20 10:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, all you have to do is tell your friends and see what they say. if they don't try to help you get over it, then dump that boy like the cheater he is. But you know, he can like more then one girl. Boys, they may like some girls but half the time their to busy looking at themselfs. In time you will figure out what you should do.
2007-02-20 10:42:22 · answer #10 · answered by Typhlosion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not need to explain yourself to anyone let alone your ex boyfriend. He proved himself to be disloyal which is not a fault you want your life partner to have.
Give him up even if it is painful.
The pain you feel now is nothing compared to a lifetime of lies and worse awaiting you if you persist in getting back with your ex.
2007-02-20 10:39:23 · answer #11 · answered by Imogen Sue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋