It is a long story but to put it short,I moved to america where he lives with his 3rd wife and stood it for three years. He is very controlling, I was very unhappy with the situation and my husband at that time, also my four kids were unhappy so i sold my house in england to move home. I made him a deal about the house he had mortgaged for us and put a lot of money into it so he could make a profit(even though I had paid the mortgage) I came home and did not speak to him for 2 years, my current husband had lost his dad at a young age and encouraged me to get back in contact with my father, which I did. I thought every thing was ok but it seems when I go over to the usa in May, I am not welcome in his house, my boys are but my step mother hates me why is this? I have not done anything wrong and I am at the point where he can piss off, he chose his last wife over me and my sisters now he is doing it again.
2007-02-20 10:23:45 · 5 answers · asked by squawinpants 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your dad is an a ss..you dont need that in your family.
2007-02-23 10:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I often hear that - the new wife is 'chosen' over the children of the previous relationship. It isn't exactly true. The point is that your father has a new life. You also have your own life. If he took sides with you against his wife, he would be left without the person he loves which isn't very good either. Would you choose to side with your father against your husband? These relationships are tricky and because of this, misconceptions and misunderstandings are rife. You may find that your step mother blames you for hurting your dad and is cross with you and trying to protect her husband. I think if you can, you should write to her directly and say that you are pleased your father has a loving wife who is protective (even if you spit while you write it!) and explain that you also love your dad and wouldn't dream of trying to upset their lives together but that you would like a chance to get to know her and more of your dad and could she find it in her heart to tell you why she is so miffed with you and what you can do to mend the situation. You may want to kick her teeth in but try the smarmy approach first. You may find you collect an ally along the way and yes, keep trying because he is the only dad you have. In the end though, your first duty is to your own family and dad or no dad, your husband and children are there, right now, loving you.
2007-02-21 01:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just keep in contact for your kids sake. The man obviously doesnt know how to be a dad. You have managed without him before and will again.Good luck.
2007-02-20 23:00:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
We only ever get one father in this life & very few are as perfect as we would wish them to be. You should give him as many chances as it takes to have the relationship you want to have. Your father is never going to be perfect & we don't choose our parents, but you can choose to accept him as he is before it's too late. Please don't cut yourself off from your dad, you'll miss him when he's gone,believe me.
2007-02-24 08:39:11 · answer #4 · answered by floofighterz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as many as you feel needed good luck
2007-02-20 19:07:16 · answer #5 · answered by nicolefrenzy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋