Am I depressed?

Question

I have 2 kids (ages 4 and 7) and am not working (currently looking), I used to be this active happy go lucky mom and lately I don't even want to hear or see my kids, I'm so upset that its taking me forever to get a job after so many "great" interviews, but worse my kids are CONSTANTLY calling me and needing something that I always feel like i want to fall asleep until morning. I wake up early, am a slave to my children while my husband works, i'm bored, looking for a job almost everyday and I don't see the silver lining.....my kids notice the change b/c normally they see me doing arts and crafts w/them or reading and now i swear I just want to drop them off at my moms house for 2 days straight!!! that's impossible unfortunatelty.

Answer 1

Sounds to me like you are kind of "losing your identity" and just becoming somebody's mom. You need to have goals for yourself, do things just for you and be a woman and a person, not just a mother. Stick with the job plans, and eventually you will find the right one. I predict that will make all the difference! (And take care of yourself first; otherwise you can't help take care of others)

Answer 2

Take yourself out to the gym. Get active. Go for a walk, meet a friend for coffee, go window shopping with a friend and find something that you want. You don't really have a goal at the moment. You get a job then what are you going to be happy? No only you can change the way you feel. Go out into a garden and really look at the beauty the little miracles. Try being thankful every morning for what you have in your life, Thank whatever or whoever you believe in If you belive in God thank him if you don't thank the universe. You'll be surprised at how much your outlook on life will improve and when it does you'll have the job you want, your kids will be less demanding, your life will improve. I know been there and done that 3 months ago.

Answer 3

You sound like a good mom. Just because your going though this don't make you a bad mom. Maybe you just need a brake from the kids for a week and there's nothing wrong with that.A 4yr and 7yr is a lot of work for any body.You could be depressed, but it don't have to be a "bad" thing. Everyone some time in there life goe's though it. Life by it self is over whamming and things just catch up with us.If You could change your diet. Some depression are just a change of a diet. Eat more fiber make protein shakes, find out about good fats and bad fats. If it's worsen you might have to go see a doctor. You just might need to take that vacation without the kids. Sometimes I feel like I could sleep for 2weeks. I did it before. I got up to shower,eat in right back to sleep. In you know what I needed it. I felt like a new person after wards. It took me about 2days after that kind of dragging myself but after I was new again. Sometimes life just creeps on you. Try en to find a job you will, sometimes it takes time. You know about monster.com and snagajob.com You will be OK.

Answer 4

YES. But it may not be so far gone that you need chemical help or on going therapy.....It sounds like you are starting to look around a see no "pieces" that are just for you. THIS IS HUGE. The best thing a mother can do for her children is show them by example that if you dont take good care of yourself, you cant take good care of anyone else. I had to practically kick my mom out of the door to make her do stuff for her self. She had been a single mom for most of the "parenting years" for my little brother and I. Now that I am moved out, and my brother is finishing up highschool, she is doing a much better job of making herself number ONE. Now that doesnt mean doing everything for you, and nothing for others, its a positive thing, meaning before anyone else, do SOMETHING for you. Local womens gym like Curves(my mom joined, its all adult women who work out in groups like a ************ tupperware party!!) Do yoga, or set aside one hour a day that the kids and dad know to not come knocking on the bathroom door and you just indulge in a hot bubble bath with candles and a book or something equally enjoyable. If these things dont work, then you will need to get help from a professional, and believe me, they CAN help. (personal experience) Just please take what I am saying about "you" time to heart. Actively doing something, not just sitting time, being still helps depression grow.

Answer 5

What you are dealing with, with the kids is what motherhood is all about, being a "slave" to them. They need you, that's why you're there. If you used to enjoy it & you now hate it then you should seek counseling.

Answer 6

You need a vacation!!! Get away with no children, even for 2-3 days...This will refresh you....make your plans today.

Answer 7

Wow, this is very serious.I really think you might be depressed.