i feel really bad. he says that he doesn't like to get close to people, because he has had a lot of people that he thought were his friends in the past screw him over or use him. we are getting married in september, i have four of my friends in our wedding, and he only has two choosen right now to be in our wedding, one being my brother. i feel bad getting him to get two more people, because i think he has anyone else that he would want to be apart of our day. i feel bad, what should i do, or say to him to make him feel better?
2007-02-20 10:18:15 · 14 answers · asked by Jamie Lynn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
thats ok all he needs is you & God
2007-02-20 10:26:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine doesn't have many friends cause all the ones he thought were his friends betrayed him and tried 2 use him for the things he has and /or act envious of him for the goals he's achieved and for the thing he has.Every time they call him for a ride they don't want to offer him any gas money knowing they live far away.So i understand what it's like being my mans best friend.See he and I are one and the same cause I live in Florida I have only 1 friend outside of my hubby's whole entire family.
Don't feel 2 bad about making him find 2 more people for your wedding cause he probably has a couple of cousins or his parents may have someone on there side of there family that could be in the wedding.Once u both get married u are all he needs outside of yours and his family.
2007-02-20 11:09:59 · answer #2 · answered by thelilsxysmoothone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! I can totally relate to this one. In all honesty does it really matter how many people are in your wedding party? I mean it should be people that are MOST special to you not someone you forced in there just because you wanted an even number. Maybe you could have two of your bridesmaids walk together like I am having my two twin sisters walk together because of the lack of groomsmen from my fiance's side. He actually has his sister and his brother in his party so don't feel too bad! The important thing is that it is your day so do it YOUR way which means however you BOTH feel comfortable!!!! Good luck!!
2007-02-20 11:10:03 · answer #3 · answered by futuremrsyanyo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have more friends than my husband as well. To make him feel more comfortable, we limited our wedding party to our immediate family members and 1 mutual friend. My sister and sister-in-law were my attendants and his brother and a mutual male friend was his attendants.
You definitely do not want to add two additional people to be his attendants who he does not have a good friendship with. You don't have to have an equal number of groomsmen and bridesmaids. For the ceremony, have his attendants enter behind him during the processional. Then have your attendants process. For the recessional, have each male escorted by two female attendants (one on each arm).
My husband didn't feel bad at all since I never discussed that he doesn't have as many friends as I do. He's happy the way he is. And as the years go by, he will develop more friendships or acquaintances the more the two of you socialize with each (just as mine did), so everything will be just fine.
2007-02-20 11:34:56 · answer #4 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a ton of friends either, and really no close girl friends so I asked my favorite cousin to stand up for me. Maybe he also has some family members he's close to that would like to stand up for him. Just let him know you're considering having two other people and ask if that's ok. If you're going to have a successful marriage, you have to learn to be totally honest with each other about everything, even if it might upset him.
2007-02-20 10:26:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
finding and keeping friends is his responsibility not yours. I wouldn't worry about him not having many friends now. That may change over the years as he matures and feels comfortable with other people. For your wedding why don't you discuss with him possible family members he would be interested in having. Or horror of all horrors reduce your side of the party. [gasp].
2007-02-20 10:25:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Introduce him to some of YOUR friends. If he can't or won't chose some, choose for him to help him out. You don't need 50 people in a wedding party anyway. Just what is comfortable for you and HIM.
2007-02-20 10:22:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nowhere does etiquette demand that you have a matching number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. If he's only got two groomsmen, they can each walk two bridesmaids down the aisle. The effect is just as nice as having equal numbers. Good luck!
2007-02-20 16:34:08 · answer #8 · answered by Patty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Several years ago, my husband and I made friends at a swingers club. We did not like our neighbors in our new city so we joined a local swingers club and made some great friends. We are still friends with 3 of the couples today. We do a lot together, they are like family.
2007-02-20 10:29:43 · answer #9 · answered by Momma K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry him for what he is, dont worry about him not having friends. He's probably right about the way people treat him. He will find someone to fill in the gap. Maybe you have a cousin, uncle , just don't matter.
2007-02-20 10:26:35 · answer #10 · answered by mad_cow717 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel bad? He is the way he is, there's nothing wrong with being reserved. Unless he, himself, is feeling bad - just let him do whatever he wants, and enjoy the day. Not everyone is a social butterfly - when it comes to friends, it is the quality, not the quantity that counts.
2007-02-20 10:25:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋